Does Anyone Dread Father's day(and the like)

[goofygirl]

My parents divorced when I was 2 years old. I grew up without a father. ( No visists or contact) I went to a catholic school where it was not common to have divorced parents. Every year while all the kids would make there Fathers Day crafts I would feel left out. Not that I didn't get to make one just that I had no one to give it to.

Wow. Your life is almost exactly like mine! My father dropped out of my life at 2 yrs old, no contact, felt weird making Fathers day crafts, etc.

AND...

My father also committed suicide years later. I never got to meet him, and he was on his 3rd wife. I found out all the info via the internet.

I did however, get to meet a half brother for the 1st time in 35 years, and I am grateful for that.

So needless to say, Fathers Day conjures up all kinds of mixed emotions for me.
Since I can relate somewhat to your position, feel free to PM me if you need support!

 

[Cruise04]

I dread it because I feel bad for my dd. Her dad has never been a DAD figure in her life since the day she was born. And this year is the first she's asked if she really has to be with him on Father's Day. Of course I said she does. Last year he left the state and didn't even give her a phone number or address, she didn't mind not having to contact him. I just really feel bad for her.

 

[HollyJoy]

My Father passed away 8 years ago, and I miss him very much; He was an AWESOME Dad. Sure, it was hard at first, but I've NEVER dreaded it. I still remember him on Father's Day, after all, it's not REALLY about buying gifts. Now I celebrate it with my FIL and my DH! It's fun watching my girls do special things for Daddy. We usually go out to dinner or somewhere fun!

 

[leahannpen]

I wouldn't say I dread it, but since my father died in 2000, it's just not the same. But I like to think of good times on that day. Maybe I'll get the nerve to watch the last video tape I have of him, from 5 years ago. I've still never watched it. I hope my DH will have a nice day and we will all just remember my father in our own way.

Hang in there, and take care. It's so hard to be without a loved parent.

 

[huey duey & luey]

hugs to everyone. My father has a terminal illness. So it is a bit melancholy. I thrilled to have him here, but it is so difficult to watch his health decline. It is also difficult to know this may be our last one together.
Tara

 

[dizneenut]

I wouldn't say I dread it, but it is a sad day for me, since I lost my dad unexpectedly 11 years ago. I try to make it a special day for my DH and my FIL, though.

 

[SRUAlmn]

I lost my father to cancer when I was 16 too- (((((( HUGS ))))))

I really don't like this day.....

 

[CourtasanSatine]

SRUAlmn:

 

[ptcruisermom]

This year I think it will be. Lost my dd in May 2003-last year father's day week-end we were busy moving my dm into an assisted living facility(she had never stayed by her self in her entire 84 years and was scared to, so she opted for AL, which has been great all the way around -especially since she has developed some health problems this past year) so didn't really notice the day too terribly much. But this year will be different especially for my 3 kids(17,13,10) their dad has been a real ****head the last month. It is something enitely between him and I but he just about completely ignores the younger two, he won't do this with the older one, because he helps him so much. I am at the point where I need to make a few life changing decisions, I suggested marital counseling but he nixed it. I was afraid at first but after speaking to an attorney I feel very confident. He just doesn't get it or realize what he will lose. ( the kids practically hate him) Oh well enough of this, time to get on with my life.