Does anyone cry when they get really angry?

[Serena]

Sometimes I do too. I haven't had that happen at work, though.

It's normal. Frustrating, but normal.

 

[Belle2667]

Me too....and DH used to tell me that "tears don't work" anymore when we would fight (been a long time since we've fought to that point, thank God!)

I agree as well that it's not professional to do that at work either....but considering the alternatives, crying and being embarrassed is better than yelling and screaming and probably saying something I'd regret and then standing in the unemployment lines.

Luckily, it takes alot to get me to that point, but it does happen.

All that being said, I guess we're normal.

 

[PinkRhombus]

Yup, I do when I'm angry, sad or frustrated! lol I really hate that about me but how do you change it? My boss hates having any type of serious talk with me because I get so mad and then just cry.

Same here, but if I'm on antidepressant medication I am a much stronger person in an argument. I have no problem telling someone to kiss my behind, and I also can get over the agrument, refocus and move on within a very short amount of time.

 

[Robinrs]

no... but OTHER people do!

 

[WDWBarb]

Having been a manager for a long time, I can tell you that this is very common. I know I can be driven to "angry tears," when really pushed. I've also had many employees that I've had to calm down when they were in the same position. It never bothered me and I could always take the cue that it was going to happen and tried to divert the situation (high-pressured jobs!!). The guys tend to yell, slam doors, throw things... we girls show that we've been pushed too far by "welling up."

It's a 100% natural response - don't judge yourself too harshly for it.

 

[2BigKIdz]

Yes, when I get super angry I cry. If I get mad enough to cry, it's a bad day for someone! I don't get angry like that very often though.

 

[Katieinwonderland]

YES!!!

I cry when I get really frustrated or overwhelmed in a situation; when I feel like I can't get across why I feel a certain way. Something happens and the tears start and I find myself spluttering away that I'm not upset, I'm just angey and no one listens! It drives me crazy - I'm only 24 and I swear it's getting worse as I get older...

 

[OK!]

Sure. I just also combine it with the yelling. But when I get really, really frustrated or angry I often find myself crying after things get to a certain point.

 

[marypoppinswannabe]

I do the same thing and hate it. I have worked hard to overcome this in the corporate world, until a couple of weeks ago. I got so angry at work and was talking to my boss about this lame co-worker who is making my life miserable and started crying. She was stunned because I have worked with her for 10 years and she had never seen that side of me.

 

[tonilea]

Oh yes. Then, just to ice my cake, the harder I cry the madder I get and the madder I get.... the harder I cry. I can't win.

 

[FireDancer]

I don't cry when I'm angry but if I am really frustrated sometimes I sweat. Maybe it is just the tears trying to find another way out

 

[muffyn]

I have this weird thing where, for as long as I can remember, I cry when I get really, really angry. Not depressed, I mean when someone has a confrontation with me or gets on my bad side. Is this "therapy worthy" stuff or just normal? To me yelling, shouting, putting my fist through a wall anger does not compute. I am incapable of doing this. I can't even curse out a stranger. I just start crying and people mistake my tears for sadness. Any opinions?

**ME**

it is sooooooo frustrating.

 

[HoneyPooh]

I tell people that if they see me start to cry they better RUN!

 

[emer95]

Yep! I cry when I'm angry, frustrated, upset... actually I think I cry more often out of frustration/anger than out of sadness!

Me too!

 

[smidgy]

I cry when I am really really angry... or frustrated. When I feel I have been backed against a wall and there are no options.. it just comes from no where... Just start crying...

I think it is somewhat normal.

Bee

Yeah, me too, and it is frustrating as heck. (That wasn't my first choice of word, LOL.) When I am just absolutely livid, tears start streaming down my cheeks, no matter how hard I try to hold them back.

It is *impossible* to be taken seriously when you're one of the people that this happens to. You really can't scare anyone when you've got tears running down your face. Even chewing out my kids makes me look like a helpless blubbering idiot.

I don't cry, but my throat tends to close up and I end up sounding a lot like Minnie Mouse. This was not a good thing in the corporate world! I really had to work on it.

YES--whenever I am very angry OR very frustrated. I HATE this about myself. I have tried so hard to control it forever but it seems to be totally beyond my control. No one takes you seriously when you are crying

boy! can I relate!!! if it's a personal situation, the other person makes "fun" of you... ""oh, poor baby! boo hoo!" if it's a professional situation, they lose respect for you, and you can't express what it is you wanted to say, because your voice is all quivery.

I do think a previous poster had a revelation. it's probably frustration, because we have been trained NOT to say what we REALLY want to say. it doesn't help that, once you start crying, all rational thought leaves your mind, and you totally forget all the important, salient points you were about to make.