Do you think this was inapproprate?

[sajetto]

As a teacher, I have some pity on the woman. Really she just sounds like an overly enthusiastic parent that didn't realize how the costume looked to other ADULTS. Honestly, I really doubt the kids would have noticed that much.

This lady could be really eccentric. I used to have a parent that did some really strange things that other parents really raised their brows at. She was completely oblivious to how she was being perceived, but the kids loved her so that was all that counted.

 

[JunieJay]

Oh yeah - that insecure hatred that makes us understand we're supposed to be fully clothed at an elementary school!

How rude of us!

 

[MiniGirl]

If you are at a place where there are a lot of children like Disney or a children's event, you should dress and speak appropriately. Some people are so desperate for attention they have no common sense.

I think more and more people just have no common sense -- desperate for attention or not!!! I do agree, however, that it sounds as if it were inappropriate for a school function.

Of course, I could be wrong, and I'm sure someone will tell me if I am.
Eva

 

[Cool-Beans]

I dressed as Jasmine once. Black wig, Jasmine shoes, whole bit. For an ADULT party!!!! And I wore a long coat over it until safely inside.

In a million years, I wouldn't have gone into a school that way. I think it *is* slutty. She might not be a slut, but it certainly sounds like she was dressing the part.

However, I saw some teenage girls tonight that actually DID dress as sluts. Seriously, that was their costume. Black leather mini skirt, black fish nets, spiked heels, mini shirts, gobs of make-up and slut hair. One had a tiny shirt with a skull and crossbones on each breast. So, compared to them, I'm sure Tinkerslut looked fine.

Teenagers dressed as sluts! And I thought my Jasmine costume was a bit risque!

 

[Lizzy2]

Its so ironic how topics like this come up and I always have the same response. Hasn't the sexual revolution done wonders for the world? We women have real freedom now don't we? The pendulem has swung so far in the other direction that there are no rules anymore to help these poor women learn boundaries. She should respect herself enough to not show off her goods at a kiddie parade.

 

[disykat]

Without a picture, I can't really say how I'd feel about it. So, I'll trust the OP's opinion that it was over the top for a school function. However, I would never call someone I've never met a slut. Maybe she did go over the top on her costume, but does that require such nasty comments? Is it really necessary to be so judgemental? I doubt she damaged the psyche of any children. Maybe saying something to the school so they could talk to the mom before next year would be the helpful thing to do.

I think there's a difference between calling someone a name and using the word as a description of their clothing.

 

[letterdavidman]

AT the kids halloween parade today, one of the class moms dressed with her daughters. One about 7 and a toddler. All three were dressed as Tinkerbell. Let me say, that no other parent was dressed and to my knowledge marched in the parade and I am a class mom myself. Ok, so the woman who has a killer body had on nude shimmering tights, clear acryllic high heels, a green sleeveless lowcut tink bodysuit and some wings. It was hot here today so nothing over it. The best we can sum up is that she was a slutty Tink. She marched the entire parade and sprinkled pixie dust and most of it went on the dads I kid you not. So anyway, part of me says kudos to her for having the confidence, and the otherpart is saying WTH was she thinking. It would have been a great costume for an adult party. Any opinions? YOu had to see all the mens eyes. WOWSA!

Did you happen to shoot any video?

 

[RitaZ.]

At the beginning of this school year, the volunteer form issued a reminder to parents, who volunteer, to wear appropriate clothing. This is the first time this has ever been addressed. For the life of me, I can't imagine who prompted the reminder. I have seen moms wearing tank tops that really accentuated "the girls", but that's all.

When I used to volunteer in my DD's 1st grade class, there was a boy that would just smile and stare at me. And, I wasn't wearing anything even close to inappropriate.

 

[Serena]

Slighty related. When I went for my interview to be a school traffic guard the officer in charge made sure to ask me what I thought appropriate clothing was for the job. Apparently some women were wearing thong bikinis to help little children cross the street.

 

[Hedy]

My real issue is that she felt the need to march with her children-that's definative proof you're a bad parent-not being able to let go.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

My real issue is that she felt the need to march with her children-that's definative proof you're a bad parent-not being able to let go.

At our school many of the parents march with the kids. I never have, even when I've been at school helping to set up for the parties, but it's not at all unusual for a couple of the parents to march along with the kids and the teacher. Maybe she moved from another school where this practice was common. The costume, on the other hand, was over the top, as far as I'm concerned. And yes, older elem age boys most certainly notice that sort of thing.

 

[annegal]

This SOOOO reminds me of my oldest son's First Communion.

One very beautiful mom wore stiletto heels and harum pants that were slit up the sides to Church.

 

[JadenLayne]

We saw ""Snow Ho"" at MNSSHP this year. My son's words not mine.

 

[mytwotinks]

I think it sounds cute and harmless. Its only as bad as your allowing yourself to feel about it. You were jealous of the way she looked, as you said, didn't like all the attention she was getting, and probably had your back up from the moment you saw her. If it wasn't glitter falling in the wrong place, it would have been something else to upset you. When I admire a woman for her accomplishments or feel jealous about her fitness level, I use it as an opportunity to reflect on why I feel so threatened, then use that energy to kick start my workout routine or push me to study that much harder. Try not to let these things weaken the person you want to be in life. Good Luck!

I somehow doubt that this poster has kids!

I think that the slutty tink came to my kids "trunk-or-treating" at our school dressed as slutty Cinderella. And NO WAY is is appropriate for a grown woman to wear a revealing outfit and prance around her kids grade school.

 

[daisyduck123]

At my school, we have never had to ask parents to dress appropriately...but if a parent were to show up dressed in that, my principal would probably initiate some sort of policy next Halloween.

 

[sajetto]

We saw ""Snow Ho"" at MNSSHP this year. My son's words not mine.

 

[CherCrazy]

Tink, Is that you???

DH would have liked that parade.

 

[grlpwrd]

I think it sounds cute and harmless. Its only as bad as your allowing yourself to feel about it. You were jealous of the way she looked, as you said, didn't like all the attention she was getting, and probably had your back up from the moment you saw her. If it wasn't glitter falling in the wrong place, it would have been something else to upset you. When I admire a woman for her accomplishments or feel jealous about her fitness level, I use it as an opportunity to reflect on why I feel so threatened, then use that energy to kick start my workout routine or push me to study that much harder. Try not to let these things weaken the person you want to be in life. Good Luck!

I really don't sense any jealousy in the OP's initial post.

It seems that the other woman was an "attention *****." I wouldn't call her a slut, but an "attention *****" who dressed provocatively, outshined her 2 kids (if she was their mom), and focused her attention on dads like the OP described ("most of it went on the dads.").

Not necessarily jealousy, but inappriateness. I don't know where you felt a jealous vibe.

It's her body, her choice, her fetish - though it is inappropriate in a school setting.

 

[RitaZ.]

And yes, older elem age boys most certainly notice that sort of thing.

I agree. They certainly do notice.

Here is a story about my 11 yr. old DS... I took him and DD to my stylist for haircuts. I asked my stylist to cut one kid's hair while her friend cut the other's. No problem! Now, the other stylist had breast augmentation, wears low cut tops and the new girls are quite large. It's hard not to notice them. I even find myself looking at them, they're so big. Anyway, she ended up cutting DS son's hair and her chest was right in DS's face most of the time... As soon as we walked out and got in the car to go home, DS asked me, while giggling, why the lady had such huge breasts. I told him that's the way hers are. As soon as we got home, he shared his "experience" with my 14 yr. old. Yes, boys do notice these things. Not that there is anything wrong with that, curiosity is healthy and normal.

As for the OP, a school setting is definitely not the right place to show off one's "goods".

 

[TheOtherVillainess]

Maybe she's related to the parents of the half dozen boys dressed as pimps we got around here tonight?

Seriously. I asked DH when a pimp had become such a positive role model that it was appropriate to dress like one for Hallowe'en. He said he had no idea. Maybe we're just old fogies and we're not up on all the trends. Maybe being a pimp is something for boys to aspire to now.

TOV