Do you think this is tacky?

[mla2177]

I was at a very upscale wedding a couple of weeks ago, and a little girl was dancing in circles around the bride and groom during their dance, and during the mother and groom dance! I've since seen the bride and groom's photos online, and all the shots of both the dances are from head up. There was not one full body picture because the kid was in the way! Do you think it was tacky of her parents not to stop her?

 

[believe]

I think it depends on the family. I had my nieces and nephews all around me at my wedding, it didn't bother me. I also don't mind them in my pictures.

 

[canwegosoon]

I do, and my poor sister had the same thing happen to her...my parents refused to stop my sister(with Down's) from getting in every single picture they took(and she stood between the bride and groom). Waste of money for a professional photographer...I was ticked at my parents, and told them to get her....

 

[bbangel]

It's not tacky, but it is extremely rude. Paren't either need to ensure their children's appropriate behaviour or leave the children at home.

 

[Beth76]

I think it depends on the family. I had my nieces and nephews all around me at my wedding, it didn't bother me. I also don't mind them in my pictures.

I don't think the OP meant that she didn't think kids should be in wedding pictures. I think she was talking more specifically about these two special wedding moments. They should be reserved for the Bride and Groom. There was plenty of time for the kids to dance. OP, I agree with you--tacky.

 

[c&ldisneylovers]

I went to a wedding several years ago where all the children attending the wedding "tied" up the bride and groom during their first dance with ribbon (I have no idea where they got it.) It made the first dance seem very impersonal and more "funny" than a "romantic."

 

[tevagirl]

I think it was rude.

 

[FlyingBelle]

If it was me...

I'd be upset if I didn't really know the kid. At our wedding 2 years ago the only kids that were invited were our neices & nephews.

Most of my aunts & uncles prefer to get a sitter for their kids so they can have an evening out and enjoy the wedding without keeping track of their kids all night.

 

[ilovepcot]

Yes, very tacky. And the wedding pics will *definitely* be tacky. If I'd been mother of the bride, I would have found the child's parents and asked *as kindly as possible* to please remove the child from the dance floor until after the couple is finished dancing. If they thought it was "cute" and ignored my request, I'd have removed the child myself. After the bride and groom's dance was completed, everyone...children included, would be welcome to dance.

 

[Sandy22]

Yes, very tacky. And the wedding pics will *definitely* be tacky. If I'd been mother of the bride, I would have found the child's parents and asked *as kindly as possible* to please remove the child from the dance floor until after the couple is finished dancing. If they thought it was "cute" and ignored my request, I'd have removed the child myself. After the bride and groom's dance was completed, everyone...children included, would be welcome to dance.

I agree with the above. Also, I think any good wedding photographer should be able to photoshop out the child from the pictures.

 

[*Fantasia*]

If I was that bride, and whether if that was my family or not, I would ask for the parent to take the child so me and my husband can get our pics taken professionally.. and not just from waist to head.

My wedding.. my cost.. my way! And no, I don't think it would be rude of me to ask the parent nicely to take their child while we're getting our pics taken.

Yes, that was rude of the parents of that child not to even be considerate and thoughtful.

 

[CindyBella]

Not tacky just so incredibly irresponsible for the parents to let their child get in the way during their special moments. Poor bride! Maybe she never even noticed.

 

[mla2177]

The child was the bride's niece, and she was in the wedding. I'm not sure if the bride was upset or not, but the mother of the groom may have been!!!! I just know there was a lot of people that thought it was very rude!

 

[safetymom]

I don't think it was tacky but it was thoughtless.

 

[jemiaule]

Not tacky but a bit on the rude side. I know if any of my younger relatives were doing this I would have asked them to dance off to the side for just a few minutes so we could get some pictures.

I can tell you what is tacky though. At my wedding I wanted one flower girl and chose my friends daughter. Another friend of mine decided that her daughter should be a flower girl too and failed to mention this to me. Imagine my surprise as I come walking down the aisle and find that some random child is now in my wedding party.

Not only had her mom shoved her daughter in there but took the flower basket from the real flower girl and had her daughter cary it instead. Our poor little flower girl was SO sad, she had been looking forward to her "big job" for months.

 

[mla2177]

Ok maybe rube is the word I was thinking of, but tacky that the parents didn't remove her from the dance floor!

 

[Disney Doll]

It never ceases to amaze me the behavior that aprents allow.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I'd have to ask the Bride and groom on this one.

Sometimes what annoys others--the B&G don't mind.

And sometimes what might annoy you--bugs the heck out of them.

It really wouldn't have bothered me personally at our wedding.

Also--I wouldn't allow my children to do that as guests of someone else's wedding.

 

[minniecarousel]

I can tell you what is tacky though. At my wedding I wanted one flower girl and chose my friends daughter. Another friend of mine decided that her daughter should be a flower girl too and failed to mention this to me. Imagine my surprise as I come walking down the aisle and find that some random child is now in my wedding party.

Not only had her mom shoved her daughter in there but took the flower basket from the real flower girl and had her daughter cary it instead. Our poor little flower girl was SO sad, she had been looking forward to her "big job" for months.

Holy Crap! Talk about rude - that's gotta be the worse I've ever heard!

Back to the OP - yes, terribly rude. The girl's parents should have removed her until all the other people began dancing. (some parents think their little darling is just too cute for words!)

 

[hentob]

It never ceases to amaze me the behavior that aprents allow.

I agree. And I am sure these are the same kind of parents that give that "Ohhh--Look at her! Isn't she just adorable" kind of look You know, the one where they shake their head and look up to the sky with a half fake smile in their face