Do you think i can do this at Cali Grill?

[Disneyshosh]

I think it is a very nice gesture, you obviously know your own parents and their likes and dislikes.. I am pretty sure you were just asking if paying in advance would be possible not for everyone's approval on ordering for them. So I say go for it!! I am sure they will be very appreciative of the thought you put in!!

 

[Ash&Wes07]

I thought someone mentioned in another thread that with the new LILO system going into the resorts that different room keys could be linked to different credit cards. So, if the resort your parents are staying at is using the new system, you could have them link one of the room keys to your CC (I'm sure you'd have to be present with your parents to do this) and the other to the CC they want to use while on vacation.

I would personally love it if someone thought things through enough to take care of everything for me at a meal. I spend all day making decisions and to just sit back, relax, and have it all taken care of for me sounds like a dream. Heck, I wish DH would order for me every now and then.

 

[Disneyadore]

But were you all in the same room? That would make sense, since all room keys are tied to the same credit card. So, everyone was using their own key (thus they would have id linked to that key).

I think that the OP and her parents are in different rooms. So, her parents don't have a key linked to her credit card.

Yes we were but the OP never stated they were in different rooms so...........

 

[crashbb]

I am already pre purchasing their wine, so the alcohol isn't an issue and we arent staying in the same room, but i wasnt aware i could purchase an entire meal simly by giving them my room key and have them charge it to my room.?.?

You sure about that? They are not using ddp for this meal.

Yes we were but the OP never stated they were in different rooms so...........

Yes she does. Or, at the very least, strongly implies it (bolding is mine).

 

[LSUfan4444]

I guess I'm in the minority here, but I think it's a very sweet idea to do that for your parents.

I'm right there with ya.

 

[LSUfan4444]

But were you all in the same room? That would make sense, since all room keys are tied to the same credit card. So, everyone was using their own key (thus they would have id linked to that key).

I think that the OP and her parents are in different rooms. So, her parents don't have a key linked to her credit card.

Yes, we are most definitely in different rooms, BUT OP is a he, not a she.

lol

 

[crashbb]

Yes, we are most definitely in different rooms, BUT OP is a he, not a she.

lol

I'm SO sorry. Since most poster here are female, I went with it.

The fact that you have pictures of yourself in your signature, make me even more of an idiot.

 

[Sleeping Becca]

It is a little strange, but if it is a family tradition to take turns ordering food for the table and your parents are accustomed to it, it's fine.

I think the disconnect comes with others seeing your behavior as controlling while you percieve it as doting and providing them with a special experience.

It is no different than saying "surprise me" to a chef at a restaurant.

I don't think it is a Southern thing, at least it is not in my family and friends. I have had the host order appetizers and wine for the table, but the entrees and desserts are always the guests' choice. I think it is more of family thing.

 

[LSUfan4444]

I'm SO sorry. Since most poster here are female, I went with it.

The fact that you have pictures of yourself in your signature, make me even more of an idiot.

No need to apologize.

 

[LSUfan4444]

It is a little strange, but if it is a family tradition to take turns ordering food for the table and your parents are accustomed to it, it's fine.

I think the disconnect comes with others seeing your behavior as controlling while you percieve it as doting and providing them with a special experience.

It is no different than saying "surprise me" to a chef at a restaurant.

I don't think it is a Southern thing, at least it is not in my family and friends. I have had the host order appetizers and wine for the table, but the entrees and desserts are always the guests' choice. I think it is more of family thing.

I agree the disconnect comes from a difference in culture, preferences, personality and how you were raised, but calling it or acting like it is "strange" because you may not agree with it possibly might send the wrong message.

 

[Deb & Bill]

I agree the disconnect comes from a difference in culture, preferences, personality and how you were raised, but calling it or acting like it is "strange" because you may not agree with it possibly might send the wrong message.

It's a difference of opinions. And I'm with some of the other posters who think it is strange. The only time my husband orders for me is when I have to leave the table before the server comes over and I tell him what I want to have and he places the order for me. But for him to choose what I will be dining on that evening? No way.

 

[gina2000]

I think it's a lovely idea especially if you know their preferences. To me, it's no different than going to a hosted event. The host pays for the meal and decides on the menu.

 

[twinboysmom]

LSUfan, I think the gesture is sweet and I am sure they will work something out for you but.... Yes, it is weird to order for them. Sorry if you find this insulting but so be it. I am southern, from Mandeville (wish I could move home), a Beau Chenite no less, and went to LSU so please don't use the culture excuse. Have the meal charged to your room, prearrange payment with your credit card for the meal, or provide your parents with a gift card to pay but let them pick out their own food.

 

[Euphoria027]

Difference in culture? It's more like a difference in opinions.

 

[midori sweet]

I think in some ways it could be a really sweet thing to do.

In terms of the food selection for them, I don't see how it is that much different than if you had invited them to a banquet or had them at a dinner party at your home. In those cases, guests have most if not all of the dishes pre-selected for them.

If you think they would enjoy it that way, then it is fine. I do know some people love to scan the menu and see what appeals to them, so in that case it might not be the best choice.

Or are you wanting to pre-order because you think they would be hesitant to have as many courses, drinks, etc as you know they would enjoy so as not to run up your bill? My mom would be like that.

I would think this is surely not the first time CG has dealt with this, so they might have some suggestions.

In terms of leaving a CC or room key for payment - maybe a less risky way to go would be to load up a disney gift card with a bit more than you think the meal will be and leave that with the manager earlier in the day.

That way, there is room for little substitutions if they see something else they would like. You can then just go back the next day to collect the remaining balance on the gc and get a copy of the receipt. That way, your parents never have to see a bill at all.

 

[LSUfan4444]

LSUfan, I think the gesture is sweet and I am sure they will work something out for you but.... Yes, it is weird to order for them. Sorry if you find this insulting but so be it. I am southern, from Mandeville (wish I could move home), a Beau Chenite no less, and went to LSU so please don't use the culture excuse. Have the meal charged to your room, prearrange payment with your credit card for the meal, or provide your parents with a gift card to pay but let them pick out their own food.

WOW - Are you serious?

I'm not offended at all, but i do feel bad for you. If you honestly feel that you need to suggest to other people to do what you don't consider weird, you live a truly self centered life.

What's next, you going to tell us how to celebrate Christmas Eve and say our Thanksgiving Dinner is weird?

It's one thing to differ in opinion. Thats a good thing. Its pretty sad when you think opinions that differ from yours are weird.

 

[LSUfan4444]

Difference in culture? It's more like a difference in opinions.

The reasons as to why or why not you may like something like this are many, and yes, culture can be one of them.

Alot of your opinions are based on the culture you are brought up in.

 

[LSUfan4444]

I think in some ways it could be a really sweet thing to do.

In terms of the food selection for them, I don't see how it is that much different than if you had invited them to a banquet or had them at a dinner party at your home. In those cases, guests have most if not all of the dishes pre-selected for them.

If you think they would enjoy it that way, then it is fine. I do know some people love to scan the menu and see what appeals to them, so in that case it might not be the best choice.

Or are you wanting to pre-order because you think they would be hesitant to have as many courses, drinks, etc as you know they would enjoy so as not to run up your bill? My mom would be like that.

I would think this is surely not the first time CG has dealt with this, so they might have some suggestions.

In terms of leaving a CC or room key for payment - maybe a less risky way to go would be to load up a disney gift card with a bit more than you think the meal will be and leave that with the manager earlier in the day.

That way, there is room for little substitutions if they see something else they would like. You can then just go back the next day to collect the remaining balance on the gc and get a copy of the receipt. That way, your parents never have to see a bill at all.

It isnt really the dinner i am buying for them, but an experience i am offering them. Because of that, I am leaning away from a GC purchase.

I sent them on a 5 day cruise fir their anniversary before and i know they love this sort of thing. They aren't complete control freaks that get offended or feel some sort of power struggle if someone makes a decision on their behalf as a nice gesture.

If for some reason none of my efforts work, the idea of presenting the GC to the mgr is much more appealing than giving it to my parents, thanks for that idea.

 

[LSUfan4444]

But for him to choose what I will be dining on that evening? No way.

Your husband never surprises you with a prepared dinner? You never get breakfast in bed? You've never been blindfolded and taken to a romantic restaurant? You've never been told to pack for three days, two nights and bring an evening gown and heels?

Yeah, i guess we're strange because we do those sorts of things.

 

[twinboysmom]

LSUfan, yes I am serious but which you seem to take offense to those views that differ from yours, I take offense to you using the southern culture as to this being a normal and expected practice. I could care less how you spend your holidays. You came on a message board and asked a question. The consensus you received is not necessarily to your liking. As I said previously, I think the gesture is sweet but why are you opposed to your parents picking out their own meals? They are your parents so do as you wish. While I do feel the idea of not allowing them to pick out their own food is weird, strange, or whatever word displeases you the least then that is my opinion of which I am entitled to. I am certainly not self centered. I don't feel the need to pick out meals for any other person than my young children. I hope your parents have a nice meal and it is certainly kind of you to do this for them.