Do you keep things of your's at other's home's?

[MsDisney23]

When we where building our new home, MIL told me to store my Wedding gown and some expensive dolls and my DD Holiday Barbie Dolls ( I have one for every year she was born, starting in 1984, never opened) upstairs at her house.

I though ok they would be safe there until the move, etc. We have been in out new home now for almost three years, When I bring up to MIL that I want to get my things and bring them here, she gets upset. She ask me Why? They are not hurting anything being there. My SIL has alot of her things up there as well. I told her that I never liked to keep my things at other people home's, and that I would like to just bring them here.

Should I have DH just go over one day and get them or should I just nicely tell MIL that I will be coming over on Sat. to pick them up. Thank her for letting me keep them there during the move.

 

[disykat]

Should I have DH just go over one day and get them or should I just nicely tell MIL that I will be coming over on Sat. to pick them up. Thank her for letting me keep them there during the move.

I'd have DH call and tell her he'll be over to pick them up on SAt. That way it's his job (his mom), but she has a bit of warning. It makes me wonder if something got broken or something?

 

[Marseeya]

Is she insecure? Maybe she just likes having that connection.

My mom doesn't mind us keeping things at her house, but my MIL actually threw away her kids' stuff once they left -- no warning or anything, just threw them out. My DH had some pretty valuable stuff there as well.

 

[KeepSwimming]

Aren't people quirky sometimes?

I agree....would have DH call Mom and tell her he's going to be buy to get them. Maybe schedule a lunch date with her for that afternoon (help take some of the sting out, maybe?).

 

[imsorry]

Maybe it makes her feel like she has a little of you with her? I would have your DH handle this.

By the way, How are you feeling??

 

[ReadingBelle]

My inlaws stored our piano for us for 2 years because we didn't really have room for it and there wasn't an easy way to get it into our second floor apartment. But they always knew it was ours and were fine with letting us have it back. It sounds like your MIL likes having the connection, or maybe she likes being able to see your stuff and think fondly of you? I would give her a reason for why you want this stuff back -- maybe your anniversary is coming up and you are feeling sentimental or maybe your daughter has been expressing an interest in seeing her Barbies? It's perfectly reasonable to want to have your stuff in your own home. That's kind of the reason you kept it, isn't it?

 

[kpm76]

I agree with the other posters, I'd have DH deal with it. It's funny because while DH and I were between moves this summer, we had to stay with family for a few months. My parents were very gracious and told us we could stay as long as we wanted/needed to but our stuff could not! Hence, we rented three storage units at U-Haul. My mom, like me, hates clutter so the very thought of us having to store stuff there sent her into a twirl. I did keep wedding pictures and other valuables there to keep them safe but took them back as soon as we moved into our new house. My wedding dress is still at DH's grandparent's house. They have a huge walk in closet and now it's just the two of them so they have tons of closet space. It's not bothering them and frankly, I'm still trying to unpack boxes so I'm in no hurry to get it back Good luck, these situations can be sticky