Do you believe in love at first sight?

[izzy]

I was talking with someone the other day about how I didn't believe in love at first sight, and they thought I was off my rocker. I told them that I did believe in *lust* at first sight, you know - more of a chemical/physical thing - but that love at first sight just doesn't make sense to me. How can you fall in love with someone just by looking at them? You haven't talked to them yet - how would you know if this person was or wasn't a total moron?

Anyway, since I've been told that I approach life too logically, I thought I post this question.

Has anyone one here truly fallen in love at first sight, and if so, did it last? How did you know that the other person was "the one?"

 

[TalkisCheap]

I fell in love with a car at first sight....but then again, the car can't talk, so our 'relationship' was limited to sight....

 

[daughter_of_amid_chaos]

Yes I do

 

[crz4mm2]

Yes! And the 27th will be our 25th anniversary

 

[candykisses]

I do!

My husband saw me from across the room and leaned to friend and said, " I'm going to marry her."

He did and it will be 24 years tomorrow.

 

[binny]

yes and it was 11 years ago April 5

 

[KrnB]

I think so - kind of like a sixth sense that this is the person for you. Sometimes Intuition gets it wrong, so it's always good to investigate further before making any hasty decisions.

When I first met DH, I liked him and was attracted to him instantly. It took me a while to figure out that it really was love that I felt for him, but that was more because I was holding myself back.

Our first anniversary is tomorrow, with many, many more to come.

 

[Poohstyx]

Absolutely!! DH & I met on a blind date - 39 yrs ago! We were engaged 6 months later and married 1 year later. We both knew instantly, before we had even spoken to each other.

We are still best friends and enjoy the love of Disney, in addition to lots of other things!

Congrats to all the love at 1st sight couples!

Poohstyx

 

[Kallison]

I met my DH in 8th grade - thought he was pretty dorky all through high school. Didn't see him again until he graduated from college and I went to a party at his house. Took one look and fell like a ton of bricks. My friend said - He will make someone a good husband some day (this was a guy friend, kind of funny thing for a guy to say) and it was like a light bulb went off in my head. He was the one for me. We'll celebrate our 20th on June 30th.

 

[gymnasticsmom68]

Absolutely.

 

[ShuisFan584]

It depends on the situation.

You definitely can't fall in love with a significant other at first sight. You can't love someone you don't even know! It's considered like or lust, but definitely not love. It's love when you really know the person well, you really care about them, and you know that you'd do anything for that person, and can't imagine your life without them. You can not have that feeling for someone you just met!

It's a different story when it comes to having a baby. It's something you created so it's definitely love at first sight when you first meet him/her (well actually you love the baby as soon as you know it's there, but you get what I'm saying).

 

[niks81]

My DH would say yes

The first time I came into the store he was working in he said he was smitten And sure enough he asked me out and now we are married

I believe in it, but I didn't experience it with him in the same way he did with me. I'm so oblivious to many things, I didn't notice that he ever checked me out LOL But after he approached me with interest and I conversed with him, I knew he was "the one".

 

[Mishetta]

Well, I kinda had the deep "like" at first sight with my DH! I saw him in a "crowded room" & I told my friend that I really liked that guy (DH) and that "he" was my kinda man! We had our first date 5 days later & then 2 weeks after that he asked me to marry him. (We had a 1.5 year engagement though to really get to know one another.) The end of this month, we'll be celebrating our 10th wedding anniversary!

 

[Pin Wizard]

Love...no. Lust...yes! Love comes later.

 

[Microcell]

I say yes and DH says no! Sounds like we are doomed! I knew something clicked the first time I set eyes on him- but I was 16 so he immediately dismissed me as too young- he was 26. I grew on him though, and I was literally the first girl that he thought to himself that he could see himself having a long term future with. I was 17 then and we started dating when I was 21.

 

[outstandinfarmer]

My grandfather was in a restaurant and saw my grandmother walk in and stand in the doorway. He learned over to his friend and said I'm going marry her someday." And he did. And it's been 40 years. Oh, it just melts my heart because they are still SOOOO much in love!!!

 

[Maleficent13]

*Zips up flame proof suit*

My mother believes in it. My dad was her brother's college roommate. One night, dad came over to pick him up, and mom amswered the door. She was 15, took one look, and said "He's the guy I'm going to marry". Three years later, two days after her 18th birthday, they did, and they just celebrated their 35th wedding anniversary. So it worked for her.

I heard that story all my life, and thought it was the way the world worked. So when I met my husband, I thought, this is it! Now I'm divorced. Then I met my next SO, and thought, this is it! Also gone. My current SO, I thought, he's a nice guy. Seems funny. Can't lose anything. Eight months later, I think I might be in love with him. But it certainly wasn't love at first sight, and if I'd have treated it like it was, chances are he'd be gone too.

Too often we buy into the idea of "love at first sight", and it just don't work that way for the majority of us. I hate to see young girls think they'll never find happiness if they didn't feel that "zap" upon first meeting the guy's eyes. Or thinking that if it didn't work out, that's it for them. Just my $0.02.

Added: but I'm really glad it worked for all of you that it worked for!!

 

[liznboys]

I've never experienced it myself. But I did know my dh was the ONE after just a few weeks of dating.

 

[Pop Daddy]

only if the women is naked

 

[EsmeraldaX]

Originally posted by izzy
I was talking with someone the other day about how I didn't believe in love at first sight, and they thought I was off my rocker. I told them that I did believe in *lust* at first sight, you know - more of a chemical/physical thing - but that love at first sight just doesn't make sense to me. How can you fall in love with someone just by looking at them? You haven't talked to them yet - how would you know if this person was or wasn't a total moron?

Anyway, since I've been told that I approach life too logically, I thought I post this question.

Has anyone one here truly fallen in love at first sight, and if so, did it last? How did you know that the other person was "the one?"

I agree. True love involves years of getting to know someone , spending time with them and seeing how you click.

There can certainly be lust or even a "good vibe" you get about certain people. But real love? Nah.

My long term , live in DBF was my best friend for at least a year before we got together.