Do We Own Our Threads?

[Tigger&Belle]

Yeah, I forgot to ask you all not to flame me!!!

Disney1fan2002, I totally agree. I can see closing it only if the thread gets totally out of hand. If there are offending posts, they can be removed, but I think it should be rare that a thread is closed, especially for the reason that you listed.

disneymom3, in your case you were basically venting, which I think people should recognize (and I did respond to you nicely, BTW ).

 

[Froggyswife]

yes she (dw) will agree that i am pretty much uncontrollable..lol

I have my ways!

 

[va32h]

I have started threads, and then not come back.

I didn't mean to - sometimes, I am just not able to get back online for a few days, and by then my thread is on page 8 or something, and I figure everyone has long forgotten about it.

But other times, I just get stymied by the process.

If I come back and thank the first five people that reply, will the next five people feel slighted? Or how about the 6th person, who posts while I am writing my reply, and thus feels that I deliberately did not thank them?

Sometimes I'll post a follow-up, but people only read the OP, not the follow-up, so they comment or ask a question about something that has already been addressed. So should I go back and repeat myself to each of those people?

Sometimes I am done with the conversation, but I don't mind if others want to continue discussing it. It just seems kind of...snotty though to say "well I've lost interest in this thread but you all can carry on."

So those are some reasons why I might not reply to a thread I started.

If threads branch out from their original topic, I don't mind. I only get annoyed when people start private in-joke conversations with each other on someone else's thread. That strikes me as rude.

 

[Christine]

I agree with you to an extent but at the same time, there comes a time on some threads where the OP may want to just throw in the towel. I posted a thread the other day expressing sadness because my kids are not invited to my nephews wedding. I followed up thanking people for a new perspective adn saying we were not going to pursue it all and figured that was that. Next day, there were tons of answers like half of which acted like I was being rude and that I would be crashing the wedding with my kids. Telling me to get over it and such. I was tempted to just ignore it but I did post again saying bascially to chill out and not accuse me of doing something I was not planning to do and had SAID I was not going to do. I had decided at that point that if it went on I was not answering anymore. Thankfully, it died off.

Yes, I remember your thread. I thought that your OP was stated VERY well and that it was obvious that you were not indignant, enraged, torqued, wrapped around the axle, etc., about your kids not being invited. The point I got was that you were just sad that your kids wouldn't be able to spend some quality time with their other relatives. Totally valid feeling. But I surprised when the vultures swooped in and made you sound like one of those parents who felt it was their God-given right for their children to be included in everything. And yes, we have had poster who have felt that way. But you clearly didn't so I didn't see the need for the strong opinions. But some people just have their days, you know?

 

[L107ANGEL]

You seem to have gotten your answer. I guess you can close the thread now.

OMG!


As for the OP you don't own your thread.

 

[cardaway]

No we don't. It cracks me up when someone states, "No flames, no flaming please... etc."

I didn't find it funny, rather rude actually, but there have been less of them.

And given how threads are allowed to go off track, I can't blame some people from leaving their own threads.

 

[Briarmom]

Mine are bought and paid for.

 

[kejoda]

Yeah, I forgot to ask you all not to flame me!!!

oh sure take all the fun away from us.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Mine are bought and paid for.

I had to take a second on my mortgage!

va32h, I know what you mean when you start to respond to individuals and then don't respond to each one, but maybe it's better to do a general response than to not respond to anyone. I know that some people are less likely to respond to people if they've been ignored my them a few times in the past. Me, I have a bad memory so it takes a lot for me to remember and even more for me to hold a grudge!

kejoda, getting snarky again?

 

[kejoda]

I don't know any other way.

 

[Briarmom]

I had to take a second on my mortgage!

Ours was paid off today!!
We are no longer home owners.
But now I can afford to post more threads.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

You seem to have gotten your answer. I guess you can close the thread now.

I agree with imsorry.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I don't know any other way.

Me, either, obviously!

 

[DisneyPhD]

Own no, but I think (as many has noted) we have a certain responsibility to threads we start. For new members please remember to subscribe to threads you start so you can find them later, dis moves fast.

Having said that sometimes threads just take on a life of there own.

Of course I think some peoples threads always seem to end the same way no mater what. That is a predictable pattern.

T&B, good thing you don't hold grudges, that must be why we are such good friends. (insert wink here, my smilies aren't working at the moment.)

 

[Missy1961]

No, we don't own them.

But I once had a thread I posted get away from me. I had posted (vented really) about how rude my brother & his family had been when they came to visit. I explained why I felt that way, but it seemed that many wanted to pick on me. I tried to reply to everyone, but it got out of hand. How many times can you defend yourself against people that didn't read what you wrote? So I gave up & left the thread. I didn't know I could ask the mods to close it, but it did finally die.

disneymom3, I saw that thread & responded with a personal post. I thought you were reasonable, it was obvious that you weren't going to do anything rude. It was the other posters who took it off track. Sometimes it seems to me no-one reads stuff, they just respond.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

PhD, you haven't done anything for me to hold a grudge against....yet, have you?

Missy, sometimes people will read what they want into a thread. Some people will skip over the details and assume things, which I think is what happened to disneymom3 and probably you.

 

[DisneyPhD]

No, we don't own them.

disneymom3, I saw that thread & responded with a personal post. I thought you were reasonable, it was obvious that you weren't going to do anything rude. It was the other posters who took it off track. Sometimes it seems to me no-one reads stuff, they just respond.

While I must confese I have been guilty of this too sometimes, I think it happens ALOT. I love it when you already asked something, and people ask it again, and not like the thread is 20 pages and that is too much to to ask to read it all.

T&B, I was just joking. But some people take offence to the slightest things. I think there is a lot of people walking about with panties in a wade. *** Man why can't I get the smilies to work right now.?*****

 

[Tigger&Belle]

My smilies work!!!! (what I should be doing) (my favorite smilie that is now on the first page) (another favorite on that is now on the first page)


Maybe try rebooting--when all fails, reboot!!!

 

[Duckfan-in-Chicago]

I was going to respond to the OP, but she doesn't want to be flamed for her boring topic, so instead I'd rather talk about the mighty mongoose.

 

[Aidensmom]

I have started threads, and then not come back.

I didn't mean to - sometimes, I am just not able to get back online for a few days, and by then my thread is on page 8 or something, and I figure everyone has long forgotten about it.

But other times, I just get stymied by the process.

If I come back and thank the first five people that reply, will the next five people feel slighted? Or how about the 6th person, who posts while I am writing my reply, and thus feels that I deliberately did not thank them?

Sometimes I'll post a follow-up, but people only read the OP, not the follow-up, so they comment or ask a question about something that has already been addressed. So should I go back and repeat myself to each of those people?

Sometimes I am done with the conversation, but I don't mind if others want to continue discussing it. It just seems kind of...snotty though to say "well I've lost interest in this thread but you all can carry on."

So those are some reasons why I might not reply to a thread I started.

I agree with you on all this, and I know I have "abandoned" threads before. I do try to at least thank people for their replies, but sometimes I do just get busy and feel strange replying on a thread no one else has replied on for a day or two.

Also, if I start a just-for-fun thread, like "Who is your favorite actor" or something, I don't neccessarily post again, though I do enjoy reading the responses.