Do I call him? UPDATE

[mad4themouse]

I actually had an ex-BF who would call me once a year after we broke up. This kept up for 4 years following the break up. He never had anything urgent to tell me and I never figured out why he continued to call.

Our last conversation occurred a month after I got married. When I told him that I was married, he didn't even say "congratulations!"...which pretty much tells you why I broke up with him. He never called after that.

If you're worried about an STD, get checked and put your mind at ease. Don't bother calling him. You put a period at the end of that sentence a long time ago.

 

[Minnesota!]

I say call. What harm can it do? If he is just calling to chat, tell him that you are happy with your life, hope he is, and leave it at that. But, if he has an STD, or is in a treatment program, you need to be aware.

If you are in a strong relationship, it should cause no harm. If it were my DH's ex, so be it. He's with me, not her.

My ex calls me 1x a year on my birthday. It is a given. Dh has no problem with it. He is married now, and happy. So am I. Nothing wrong with keeping in touch.

 

[snoopy]

Hmmm, I seriously doubt he is calling you to tell you that he has a communicable disease -- more than likely trying to rekindle an old flame. And I'd think this day in age anyone who has been sexually active without protection has already taken the responsibility of being tested for STDs. If however its something that a phone call from an ex makes you think about, you probably should get tested for your own peace of mind. I say this to the collective "you" since you did not mention it was something that you were concerned with.

As far as whether I would call him back or not, I personally would. I've never been one to want to be left wondering about things, and I'd be curious to know what exactly was going on with him to make him want to call. I'd be upfront with my current husband and let him know that I was curious. If your DH is a reasonable man I am sure he would understand this.

 

[Pin Wizard]

I once had a phone call from an old boyfriend two weeks before I got married! Phone rang, I picked it up and said hello, he said...are you married yet? We did have lunch one day. Just caught up. End of story.

 

[CBRorBust]

I say call him!

I am in the exact situation, about to graduate, long term happy relationship, etc. If it were me, It would drive me crazy to find out why he called.

Just call it won't hurt a thing...it's just a phone call.