DL Cast Member told me my sons name is weird

[sha_lyn]

That was rude, even though unique spellings are a pet peeve of mine (as someone who's parents inserted a Y into her name, and who used to dread the first day of school). I can't believe I almost named my dd Kathryn (MIL's middle name). Katherine it is! I've yet to meet someone with an "original" spelled name, who likes it.

Kathryn is a very traditional spelling. Nothing "original" about it.

 

[sha_lyn]

That is ridiculous of you to be saying that if you pick an unusual name you should assume and accept that people will be rude? I think that is crazy of you to even say. She clearly says the CM was rude, and clearly says she was an over-talker and yet some of you feel the need to tell the op she deserved it basically. Those posts are rude. The CM was rude, maybe not intentional but why are some of you so determined that the op is off in what she clearly heard and felt?

Well said

 

[AndyLL]

The first post says "stupid"

The title says DL Cast Member told me my sons name is weird so the OP ether made a simple mistake in the title or the post.

No ones calling her manager trying to get her in trouble for it.

If you're going to have a traditional name with an untraditional spelling then you better have a thick skin because their will be mistakes and comments about it all his life.

Andy

 

[SunKat]

So she was trying to make it like "What CM would do this to your son's name?" She thought "Jaymes" was the wrong spelling and was trying to make you feel good (like "What kind of non-spelling CM's have we employed") and put down the CM that made the mistake. Immature, yes. But, I think she was actually trying to make you feel good.

Does that make sense?

I don't think she was trying to insult you at all. It just happened to be that she was commenting on your son's correct spelling.

I am sure she was mortified.

I would let it go.

I was thinking exactly the same thing.

 

[TomLovesBecky]

The title says DL Cast Member told me my sons name is weird so the OP ether made a simple mistake in the title or the post.

No ones calling her manager trying to get her in trouble for it.

If you're going to have a traditional name with an untraditional spelling then you better have a thick skin because their will be mistakes and comments about it all his life.
Andy

I agree and know from experience this is true! It is the price you pay to give your child an unusual name or spelling. Is it polite to say negative things, no, but people will say them anyway. TRUST ME, Jaymes will have his name misspelled most of the time, for the rest of his life. That doesn't mean you can't name your son Jaymes and be proud of it, but he WILL have great difficulty or hassle correcting people over and over again. BTDT, and if I could change things everyone in our family would be named Joe and Mary!

 

[NEVERENOUGHWDW]

I don't think she meant anything by it. If she was looking at the screen it seems to me that she was commenting on the incorrect spelling and not the way you spell it.

You have to realize that if you spell a name in a different (not bad) way these things are going to happen.

 

[thumbalyna]

i have gone through this my whole life my name is Katryna (katrina) and it is either spelled wrong or just assumed it is kathryn. also my daughter's name is andrea (pronounced on-dre-a) and no one pronouces it right - she usually goes by her nickname Andi and that is just a whole different disaster -- she said she likes having a different name has no problem correcting people when they are pronoucing or spelling it wrong - she said to her it makes her feel unique - since she started school all those years ago there were always a handful of kayla's, brittany's, jenny's, etc. from k-8 she went to a small catholic school the biggest class was 23 and there were 2 kayla's that went through all those years with her. she is now starting freshman year and so far we think she may be the only andrea in the freshman class.

i know i was the only katryna in school my entire school career and i went to public school and my graduating class had almost 600 kids in it and i was still the only one. now its more common and i hear it alot more but growing up i knew no one with my name.

 

[CJBaby]

For goodness sake - if you choose to name your kid in an unusual way then you must understand that people will make mistakes. As others have said in that circumstance I would have 'assumed' the 'y' was inserted by mistake...and I would have taken the comment of 'stupid' to refer to the original person taking the order getting it wrong rather than you, as the parent being 'stupid' to spell the name like that. As for complaining....come on!

It's SO nice to know that there are normal, reasonable people still left in the world!

From the sound of the post, you would think the cm went up to her son, asked him his name, and said, "that's stupid!" (or wierd.) She was OBVIOUSLY talking about how "stupid" the person was who spelled a common name wrong on a brick. Professional? No. But FAR, FAR from saying the OP was stupid. She stuck her foot in her mouth trying to empathize with her. Let's stick a skewer in her and fire up the bbq!

(And just so I'm not all negative on the OP, I have to say that this is the FIRST unusual spelling I like better than the common one.)

 

[Magic Mom]

I don't think she meant anything by it. If she was looking at the screen it seems to me that she was commenting on the incorrect spelling and not the way you spell it.

You have to realize that if you spell a name in a different (not bad) way these things are going to happen.

I agree, it doesn't seem like she was trying to be rude, she just made a mistake. It wouldn't be worth it to me to try and get her in trouble.

 

[Poohbear123]

There is a new girl at my store and her name is BEOYONKA! What the Heck is that???? OH! Its PRONOUNCED BIANCA!!!

 

[sunnyday123]

I try not to get too upset over stuff like this, but I would've inserted an "excuse me?" in there just to clarify what she thought was stupid. DD's name is Ashton, and when she was a baby I can't tell you how many people asked if we were going to call her "Ashley" for short. WTH???

Her Dad would get really mad, I just started answering people.

Them: Are you going to call her Ashley for short? ( and they ALWAYS said it this way!)
Me: No, we'll be calling her Jenny.

They usually just said "oh" and walked away.

I don't think anyone should make a negative comment on ANY kid's name, no matter what it is.

 

[golfgal]

While the CM was rude I don't understand people that get upset when they purposely give a child a strange spelling of a common name and then get mad when it is misspelled? What do you expect to happen??

 

[bonybroad]

I have a Y in my name that isn't "normal" but it isn't THAT unusual, either.
I was named after my uncle JAY, and I wasn't the boy they expected, so I am JaYne.
I like it. No plain Jane stuff for me!

 

[Kath2003]

That was rude, even though unique spellings are a pet peeve of mine (as someone who's parents inserted a Y into her name, and who used to dread the first day of school). I can't believe I almost named my dd Kathryn (MIL's middle name). Katherine it is! I've yet to meet someone with an "original" spelled name, who likes it.

I'm a Kathryn, but I just accept that most people will spell it Katherine. Kathryn isn't particularly unusual, though, and I think it looks prettier. Most people call me Kath so they never need to figure out the second half, though!

I agree, though, that if you give someone an unusually spelt name, you have to accept that people will get it wrong. I accept that I will always have to spell out my name to people, or I'll have to accept it being written as Katherine.

 

[Tiggernut_jadie]

I should just point out to those - like the OP - who thought I was being harsh....I AM the holder of an unusually spelt name myself and to be honest it's a pain in the behind!

Jacqui

 

[JR6ooo4]

Though the name is spelled differently than most are familiar with, at least it sounds like it is spelled.

Stupid is moving where the R is in your name. Yes, I am talking to you Brett!

Mikeeee

 

[disney4us2002]

Though the name is spelled differently than most are familiar with, at least it sounds like it is spelled.

Stupid is moving where the R is in your name. Yes, I am talking to you Brett!

Mikeeee

Did Brett change the pronunciation? Not being from GB, for many years I assumed he was french and pronounced it as such ("Fahv ra"), then I heard how the announcers said it and thought they were all nuts!

 

[juligrl]

I ordered a DL brick for my hubbys bday 5 months ago, and also bought the small acrylic version to keep. The first one came with my daughters name wrong, they fixed that but then got my sons name wrong. I called and the cast member on the phone was the kind who talks too much and talks over you... when I told her my sons name was spelled wrong she said "Oh yea. Why would anyone do that? That looks so stupid!"
But she was looking (on her screen) at the CORRECT spelling for my son.
Yes, we have a non traditional spelling but she really put her foot in her mouth.
My sons name is JAYMES (pronounced James) my complaint was the brick spelling was JAIMES.
With non trad names you get peoples opinions sometimes, but rarely so blatantly rude as the Disney CM.

My take on it -

Sounds like she was trying to throw her fellow CM's under the bus for making a "mistake" that "looks so stupid!". I'm assuming that when you called to correct the spelling on your son's name she was under the impression that the spelling shown on the screen was an incorrect spelling. Her insult of a fellow CM's "mistake" was throughly uncalled for though. The better way to have handled that would have been to just ask for the correct spelling of the name, wished you a magical day and moved on.

I wouldn't be so much bothered by the fact that she doesn't much care for the spelling of the name - remember she was trying to side with you - but I would be more bothered by her lack of maturity in dealing with "mistakes" made by co-workers and publicly airing her opinions about them.

I have a DD with a unique name/spelling too so I can see why you might be offended at the rude comment about your choice in spelling, however I don't think she was intentionally trying to be rude to you since she thought what she was looking at was a mistake. KWIM?

 

[Bella the Ball 360]

I would have immediately asked for the CM's manager. Manager's can't fix what they don't know about. Your not reporting this just allows the CM to continue to be rude! Did you find out their name?

With that said... I love your son's name... I like it when there is a unique spelling! Very cool!

ABSOLUTELY!! If you have ever worked in a job which is in the service industry be it a restaurant etc you know first of all, "the customer is always right". If you have any of the particulars of this call I would write a letter (e mail)much more effective than a call. NOTHING is cheap at Disney and you should not have to take grief for patronizing them especially when it was THEIR misake.

 

[shortbun]

This won't be a popular opinion but I really think if you are going to pick unusual names or spellings for your children, you must be ready for criticism and laughter. My god daughters both were given bizarrely spelled names by their mother and they or she hear about it all the time. Forget it. You chose the odd spelling for a reason, it was different. Some people just can't wrap their brains around that.