Divided household?

[Amy]

We're also a divided family - I'm voting Obama, DH is voting McCain. Actually, I really wanted Hillary to win the nomination, but what can you do?

I try not to discuss politics with DH because he refuses to see anything good in Obama. I'm honest about it - there are things I like and don't like about both candidates, but the "likes" are longer on the Obama side for me. And I realize that both candidates have lots of ideas that cost lots of money, but whatever the winner wants to do - it has to get through Congress first, so who knows what'll happen.

My biggest problem with McCain is Palin. DH continually tells me that we're voting for president, not vice president, but with McCain's age, you HAVE to consider the possibility that Palin may just end up as president. I remind DH that when JFK was elected people might not have cared who his vp was, and look what happened there - LBJ is considered by many to be one of the worst presidents. (Not trying to start a big discussion here, but DH himself always includes LBJ when he's talking about the worst presidents.)

 

[Disney1fan2002]

My Dh and I are together on this one, the kids are the ones divided from us. They all want Obama. My DD said Obama won in the school mock election, and in the scholastic news Obama won. I reminded her that if kids were allowed to vote in the real election four years ago, Kerry would of won, because Kerry won in all the kids elections.

 

[mickeyfan9194]

We are a divided household, not for every election, but for this one. However, both DH and I are pretty easy going and like to discuss the issues, but we don't argue about it. I am for McCain (reluctantly), and DH is for Obama (reluctantly). So we're really not so far apart. If a 3rd candidate were closer to middle ground, we'd both be voting for him/her. However, we do try to avoid DH's family during this time, because they are the "Cram-it-down-your-throat, you-are-stupid-if-you-don't-think-like-me" democrats that make it impossible to have any kind of relaxed atmosphere. During the last election, when DH asked his dad not to please not bring up politics in our house because not everyone shared his same views, his dad was SO angry at us for about 6 months.

 

[luvmy3]

Dh and I are divided, he always votes republican, I do not. I do not discuss politics with him because he is very passionate about how he feels. I am so sick of listening to him quite frankly, and I have yet to tell him that I have decided not to vote for McCain

 

[pixie dust 112]

DH and I generally vote for different candidates for president, but tend to vote the same way in the local elections. We talk about the issues in general, but don't argue about the candidates.

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

Dh and I are divided, he always votes republican, I do not. I do not discuss politics with him because he is very passionate about how he feels.

Same as our household. We don't talk about who we are voting for because he gets very defensive about who he is voting for if I am voting for the other candidate.

 

[Bren's Mom]

My dh and I are registered with different parties. Neither of us just votes 'party' so sometimes we vote for the same candidate, but not often. We don't feel it's a 'divide' at all. We simply disagree sometimes about who would be the best person for the job, about which party has a better 'plan' for the job. It doesn't divide us as a couple, it just gives us some interesting conversation at the dinner table! And I think that's a great thing for our kids; to see both sides debated and to help them develop their own opinions...whether the same of diametrically different from ours.

 

[nataliela]

My husband and I are voting the same…..we were voting separately until this week when he changed his mind. We have voted differently before, no big deal.
He is really into politics, but never tries to sway my votes. He will answer any question I have about any candidate and does not question my reasoning on my views. I could really care less who he votes for….its his life!

 

[ozarkmom]

This is probabably the first election in 23 yrs. of marriage that we're voting the same way. I will say that I never thought I'd see my husband vote out of his party but it looks like he will this time. He's also serves in local gov. and I think it's been extremely difficult for him to vote for the "other side".

 

[momto2girls]

No, thank goodness. I honestly don't know what I would do if my DH was on the other side. We were big on discussing the "big" issues-- when to have kids, our money philosophies, etc. before we got married and we settled the politics thing too. I would have been so disappointed to find out that he wasn't on the same page with me about that. Luckily, he believes in the same things that I do. If we didn't vote the same way, we would have to not discuss it at ALL. I just can't imagine though.

 

[PrincessKsMom]

I'm surrounded by Republicans! HELP!!!! We live in my inlaws house (they're on the first floor, we're on the second); DFIL is a card carrying member of the NRA, diehard Republican. DMIL follows his lead. DH is just like his dad. I'm the only Dem, although I will vote for whomever I feel is the best candidate, regardless of party. However, this election both DH and DMIL are leaning toward Obama. WELL COLOR ME SHOCKED! Everytime we watched the debates DH just shook his head and said he couldn't believe McCain's performance time and time again and didn't understand his stance on many issues. DMIL decided after hearing McCain's health plan ideas. She was stunned that he thought it was a good idea, once she realized exactly how it would personally affect her. DFIL, well, there's no hope for him. They'll pry his cold dead hands from his gun when he goes! BTW, I also have a friend at work who is diehard Republic, voting for Obama this time out.

Regardless of your party preference, I think this election has really electrified many peoples' interests in politics and government and will bring out more voters than ever before. Guess it's not all bad news.

 

[Master Mason]

If Carvil and Matlin can hook up, it shouldn't be much of a problem for anyone.

 

[CowboyCO]

DW and I agree most of the time, but we go over the ballot, issue by issue , candidate by candidate, and come to an agreement over how we will vote as a family. If we disagree and each vote for different candidates/issues, then we cancel each other out, so we come to an agreement about how we want to vote and then we cast identical ballots.

So, we go over everything, talk about and decide how we will both cast our ballots and then we always go to the polls together on election day.

 

[Colleen27]

DH and I are divided on just about every election, but since we both enjoy the occasionla political debate, that is a plus for our marriage rather than something to worry about. In 2000 the debate was especially interesting; DH is a non-Christian fiscal conservative, and I was pretty sure he'd be disappointed in a Bush presidency. In 2004, the "I told you so"s were plentiful (and good natured). And this year, like in 2004, we're both voting for the same presidential candidate. Election season isn't nearly as fun now that the Republican party has well and truly lost him, though! LOL

 

[mookie]

Dh and I have been divided the last 2 elections, but this time we are voting the same. But he has always said that it doesn't matter in Illinois who you vote for....because we are a democratic state no matter what, so it's almost like the republican votes are just gravy.

 

[Luv2trav]

DH and I are divided on just about every election, but since we both enjoy the occasionla political debate, that is a plus for our marriage rather than something to worry about. In 2000 the debate was especially interesting; DH is a non-Christian fiscal conservative, and I was pretty sure he'd be disappointed in a Bush presidency. In 2004, the "I told you so"s were plentiful (and good natured). And this year, like in 2004, we're both voting for the same presidential candidate. Election season isn't nearly as fun now that the Republican party has well and truly lost him, though! LOL

Same here. DH was loyal to the Republican party the last 2 elections. I almost talked him out of it in 2004.. I didn't need to do any prying this time. He actually convinced me on Obama.. Although he will not admit it to his family or talk about it around his Republican friends too much.

 

[Hoodie]

We're not a divided household, but this thread reminded me of a house I passed in No. Virginia that had both a Redskins flag and a Cowboys flag out front.

Those discussions are probably worse than anything political!

 

[Luv2trav]

No, thank goodness. I honestly don't know what I would do if my DH was on the other side. We were big on discussing the "big" issues-- when to have kids, our money philosophies, etc. before we got married and we settled the politics thing too. I would have been so disappointed to find out that he wasn't on the same page with me about that. Luckily, he believes in the same things that I do. If we didn't vote the same way, we would have to not discuss it at ALL. I just can't imagine though.

I believe if you are too far right or too far left then it would be difficult. Those of us who hover somewhere in the middle but connect with either Democratic or Republican beliefs can easily do this. Issues are not as black and white to us.

 

[Luv2trav]

We're not a divided household, but this thread reminded me of a house I passed in No. Virginia that had both a Redskins flag and a Cowboys flag out front.

Those discussions are probably worse than anything political!

Try Browns and Steelers.. same issues. I think you learn to agree to disagree....

 

[Hoodie]

Try Browns and Steelers.. same issues. I think you learn to agree to disagree....

I know a Browns/Steelers couple. Right now they are fighting about whether their unborn child should be a Steelers or Browns fan. All good natured of course!