Even though I have a preference, it's hard to go wrong with either, I'll first say that. I don't want to sound negative about DLH, but I do want to sound more positive about PPH.
There is just something so magical about it. From the minute you pull in and see the big mickey statute to walking in the lobby.
It's so different what we notice. I noticed the bright orange traffic cones keeping people in the correct lanes. Only later did I notice the statues.
At PPH I noticed the pretty "boardwalk" looking lights in the pullthrough area, smell the suntan lotion smell they pump into the lobby, DS poses with the surfing goofy statue OR the big Yule tree depending on when we're there...
Never know what you're going to like until you're there, I guess!
Just my opinion, but the Paradise Pier Hotel doesn't look like a deluxe level hotel.
I've never stayed at the PPH, but I have walked over there a couple of times. It looks plain, and somewhat unkempt.
That said, the Disneyland Hotel looks great. I have never stayed at the DLH there either, but if for some reason I couldn't get the VGC/GCH, I wouldn't hesitate to stay there.
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Opposite feelings!

And we've stayed in both.
DLH beds, the old ones, kept hurting my legs! The footboard is surprisingly high, I'm short, and I kept sliding off the bed at the foot end (on purpose, I wasn't falling, but I couldn't reach the floor with my feet without sliding down a bit) and slamming the backs of my legs on that footboard hiding under the comforter!
However, the waterfalls, and koi ponds are a fun diversion at DLH.
Which can totally be enjoyed as a non-guest.
The remote control jungle cruise boats are a BIG fun thing! Bring some extra cash so the kids can pilot their rc boats.
We enjoy the walk through DTD to get to DL/CA. It just feels like you never leave Disney. It can feel long at the end of a long day. But it's an exciting walk in the morning.
And see, to someone like me, walking through DTD is like I suddenly took a side trip to the mall. And I HATE the mall. Sure, this mall has music in it, and that's nice, but mainly it's just the mall. And...I hate the mall.
So staying at the Grand or PPH, when coming from Disneyland I'm ecstatic to turn off 1/3 of the way through into the Grand's "tunnel" entrance, rather than having to walk the rest of the way through to get to DLH. And of course if I'm coming from DCA, unless we've stayed there SO late that the gate to the Grand is closed (it happened once!), I don't have to deal with the mall at all.
Hey, OP, how about a split stay?!? That way you'll find out about both in one shot.
