disney, in reality or not

[tigger53]

want to hear a really wild story? my son who is 19 is applying to the seminary as he feels he has a vocation and one of the requirements is to have a psyc test which he went for last month, while there the Psychologist began talking to him about his interests so my son talkes about being a big disney fan and how every year we all go down to disney world and spend time in the parks and go on the disney cruise and enjoy being together on vacation, well this a a no-no because one who is 19 is not supposed to enjoy anything such as disney because this means your not in reality, my son was crushed being labeled "not in reality", this Psychologist told my son these results over the phone no less and suggested that he take a year off "to grow up" and that these test results would not look favorable before the acceptance board, luckly my son voiced his opinion to the admission officer to be retested at another location which he has since done and we are now holding our breath waiting for these test results which are to be given at an actual meeting in person early dec. which will be the deciding factor in if my son is accepted or not, and just for the record my son once again discussed his interest in disney because as he feels this is part of who he is, needless to say he is very tense and on edge while waiting for this outcome, hopefuuly all will go well.

 

[floridaminnie]

Ah...I guess you need to label me not in reality also then. I think the psychologist needs his head examined also. Sending some pixie dust to your son!

 

[Cruisin]

WHAT!!!
That's crazy, just because you like Disney does not mean you need to take a year to grow up. Come on now. I guess that means we are all too young, Do you think all of our bosses will let us take a year to grow up?????
I wish your son well and hope the second examiner is not as closed minded as the first.

 

[TCPluto]

Maybe he mistakenly shared his desire to be Peter Pan; or marry Tinkerbell...


That might qualify.

 

[tigger53]

thanks for the pixie dust he could use some, this is going to be tough, as for being peter pan i don't think he has the legs for it

 

[Jeanny]

well, I guess all of us are also not in reality... If this is "not in reality", then I'll live here forever!!

 

[luvwdw16]

that is horrible! so does that mean that everyone on the dis boards should take a year off to grow up. I don't think so! Good luck. I hope that everything works out. I can't imagine how much stress he is under! here is some more pixi dust for him

 

[eye R.N.]

A nineteen year old who still enjoys spending time with his family is not living in reality?

If you vacationed anywhere else that would have made a difference?

It sounds like someone needs to grow up, but it is not your son.

Sending much pixie dust and prayers that God will look favorably on your son's desire to enter the seminary.

 

[dzneprincess]

I can't believe a liscensed professional had the audacity to tell your son that! I had gone slap jaw after reading your posts. That justs infuriates me. Just because this person does not "GET" Disney, that he feels the need to label others that get enjoyment out of it. At the very least, I think its GREAT that your son enjoys being on vacation with his family. And if he is "not in reality" well then so are 55,000 of his Mom's closest DIS friends

 

[ChattyKathy]

Ask this psychologist if your son told him that he was an alcoholic and drug addict, would he have any better a chance to get in?
What a jerk he must be!!! Hes living in the past, He needs to wake up and smell the coffee for petes sake...
I'll bet hes not married and has no kids, and lives a cold and boring life.
Tell your son Good Luck and to keep his chin up!!



Kathy

 

[jcemom]

Hmmmm....I wonder what would happen to the world if all 55,00 of us "took a year off to grow up?"
What if all of the millions of WDW guests each year "took a year off to grow up?"

 

[tigger53]

thanks for all the supportive replies, i am going to share these with my son so he knows that he is supported by fellow disney fans and that he is not alone, i know it will mean a lot to him, thanks again,

 

[jwann]

OBVIOUSLY - that psychologist has NEVER been to Disney. I, too, was a Disney nay-sayer. I thought my sister was crazy driving her family to Disney every time they had the chance. We reluctantly went once ..... and have never been the same since...

I have two points:

1. My husband is a psychologist and I am qualified to say -- there are a BUNCH of unqualified PSYCHO - QUACKS out there. Asking for another opinion was a bold and mature thing for your son to do!!

2. Remember that if it is God's will for him to go to the seminary - then that is where he will be. Tell him to persevere and remember: ”‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.’” (Jeremiah 29:11-13, NIV)

 

[luvwdw16]

its great the way the dis people stick together,. i can only imagine the stress levels for the son at this time, applying to any college is hard enough, my son was a bear till the process was over. i told a friend of mine about this "not in reality" comment and she nearly fell over. obviously this pyscologist is the one who needs to get grounded.

 

[Dreamer04]

A young man, who spends time with his family on a wholesome vacation, is not a good candidate for a seminary?

These are EXACTLY the kind of men our seminaries need today!

What kind of message does that send? Maybe if your son went to a less famly-oriented resort, he would "show" his maturity.

I feel sorry for the patients this psychologist influences.

I am keeping your son in my prayers.

God's will be done. Amen.

 

[mmouse37]

That man was a fool. He is the one who needss to get in touch with the real world. I think it a wonderful thing that any child over the age of 18 would still want to vacation with their family. We are lucky in that our 18 and 19 year old son and daughter and our 15 year old DD still love to vacation as a family. Granted they do not want to be with us 100% of the time but they have no objections to family vacations.

Would this man prefer your son to have told him that he likes to be alone and finds family values stupid.

This is just as bad as our school guidance counselor telling our DD in her junior year that she should not apply to the colleges she wanted to. She would never get in because her SAT scores were not good enough. She was crushed when she came home to tell me this. I told my DD to apply to any darn college she wanted to and guess what.....she got accepted into all of them!!!! So much for professionals. It boggles my mind how comments from one person could potentially alter someone's entire life journey.


MJ

 

[fireplug]

Hopefully your son will get a better psychologist this time . Good luck to him on his journey to a Religious lifetime.

Steve

 

[jgalecpa]

Is having a tear come to you eye when a three year old see all the gifts "Santa" left for him or her "Grounded in reality"

And if you think about it, is entering a religious vocation anymore or even less grounded in reality?

I mean this not as a slam on religion, but religious belief in the afterlife (which I personally ascribe to) is not based on anything found in reality, but purely on "faith"

Maybe belief in Disney should be a prerequisite for entry into religious life.


I believe in the Mouse and I believe in God. Is either Real in the sense of existing in the "physical realm": NO.

Is either "real" to me as to existing in my life as an important, life affirming force? Absolutely, to the day I die, and beyond....

Jim

PS Is psychologiy even grounded in reality? Can the theories be proven?

 

[mariamard]

well said! tigger53---it sounds like you raised a good, young man! hang in there

 

[perdidobay]

Well, I was told by my therapist and psychologist that it was great that I could go to someplace like WDW alot and enjoy being a child again in my heart and spirit...something they said more people need to learn to do.