DISappearing Peeps...A fastpass to THIN! Part 3

[Tinkabella]

OK, so here I am at a total loss of 22.8, having lost 1 lb. in each of the past 2 weeks. Things are really slowing down for me, which I expected to happen at some point. I guess I just didn't expect it so soon. (I have about 70-80 lbs. to lose all together.) I have been at this since January. I am not down a size yet. I expected it to take a while for that to happen, but not quite this long - or this many lbs, I should say. I didn't own a scale before January. Weighing in each week has really been a help as far as confirming that I am successful even when the sizes aren't shrinking yet! For that, I love it! And for knowing how much I've lost as well. I have starting walking Jasper 5-6 days a week, and I am up to 35-40 minutes a day now. I am starting to see changes. Certainly, pants are fitting looser. And I can get into a size smaller, but they are typically still too tight to where in public, with the exception of one pair of dress pants that was always a bit bigger than the others that same size. I have started to be able to make out the knuckles on my hands at the base of my pinkie and ring fingers again. (I lose these when I gain weight. Even at my smallest, my knuckles are not prominent. I have pudgy hands!) I think I can see it in my face a little bit, and my stomach is flattening out a little bit. (It will likely never flatten out completely - Once again, even at the smallest I have ever been, this has always been a problem area!) I FEEL better physically than I have in a long time. I can count on one hand the number of people who have commented on my losing weight. My mom is one of them. (Thanks Mom! ) There are 2 people in the department neighboring mine at work, and they have both said something, but the people in my own department - not one of them has said anything about it. I believe most of them are aware of at least some of my efforts. I have mentioned walking Jasper. I drink like 6 bottles of water at work each day. (People have noticed that! ) I have had conversations with some of them during lunches about my counting calories/food choices. So, what I am getting at, I guess, is that I am not yet down a size, not many people are noticing (or at least commenting), and I have started seeing smaller numbers on the scale lately. This is when I don't like the scale because I depend too much on those numbers to make me happy. I know that everything that I'm doing is good for me regardless of what the scale says, but I do have some serious weight to lose in order to be healthy. And I know that I'm still losing, but I think I have a strong need for instant gratification or something! And things were going so well before that I convinced myself that I could surpass my goal of 30 lbs lost by our May trip, so that I would have a cushion. (I still might.) But now, I worry sometimes if I will even hit THAT goal! (At 1 lb a week, it won't happen. I'd be close, but not quite there.) I guess I'm really just frustrated today. But that could be partly because I got to bed late last night. Josh got home from work late, and I ended up talking on the phone to a friend of ours for quite some time. (We haven't really talked to her much in almost a year, so we had a lot of catching up to do!) I guess I just needed to vent and get it all out there. I really need to call and make an appointment with the doctor to talk about my Prilosec and whether or not I should still be taking it. And I want to discuss this with him too. Just see if he has any suggestions. Anyway, thanks Peeps for listening!

Lynda....I am sending you lots of HUGS !!!! Don't get discouraged !!! Could you be hiding your weight loss ???No one noticed that I had lost any weight until I bought new jeans....Seriously, I think I was hiding under my big clothes, once I put on tighter jeans (which I felt were too tight on my bum, but my sister insisted they weren't) Everyone told me I was much slimmer. I usually "hide" under baggy or lose clothes and it felt "weird" to be wearing clothes that were more fitted. Try it !

 

[WI_DisneyFan]

...I can count on one hand the number of people who have commented on my losing weight. My mom is one of them. (Thanks Mom! ) There are 2 people in the department neighboring mine at work, and they have both said something, but the people in my own department - not one of them has said anything about it. I believe most of them are aware of at least some of my efforts. I have mentioned walking Jasper. I drink like 6 bottles of water at work each day. (People have noticed that! ) I have had conversations with some of them during lunches about my counting calories/food choices. So, what I am getting at, I guess, is that I am not yet down a size, not many people are noticing (or at least commenting), and I have started seeing smaller numbers on the scale lately. ...

Maybe it is just because I'm a guy, and this is the way my brain works. But I would bet that the people in your department have noticed changes, they just might not feel comfortable saying anything. The reason I say this is because there is a man that I work with who is doing Weight Watchers. I talk to him once or twice a week, and I can definitely notice a change. He has always been a pretty big person, but he is really looking good. But since I am a man, and men don't talk to other men about these sorts of things, I've never told him that. So maybe it is guy thing, but I'll bet that your co-workers have noticed and just haven't said anything.

 

[harleygirl]

grumpy miss ya dude, no dirty laundry dished just lots of prayers for you both

disney - I feel your pain lynda - yor doing great! hang in there

WI - thanks for a guy perspective!

utah - sneakin in at work

 

[spongemommie05]

i am the same this week ... booo

 

[Dizneydawn]

What about Dawn, has she been around at all?

Hi guys...last day for the Tupp. month...need just a bit in sales and am stressing.

I have no idea of what to put as my weigh in...I have been back and forth so much to the hospital in the last few weeks and I am carrying so much in water retention.
Example:
Yesterday morning...240 lbs. which meant I had lost an additional 5 pounds in 2 weeks.(yeah!) Then last night...went to the clinic from 7-10 p.m. and was in hospital from 3-6 a.m. 2 bags of IV fluid, medicine to help the kidney try and function and get rid of infection...and guess what. Now I am at 251.

Holy crap. Seriously...10 pounds in less than 24 hours. I am so frustrated because this stupid body does not do what it is supposed to do and even what I am accountable for in regards to my weight gain/loss..is surpassed by God.

After tonight I will be back more often..unless I end up in the hospital again. They had wanted me to be admitted this morning but I need to be on the computer for Tupperware until midnight.

I have been lurking and speed reading...Mony with a baby girl! I am so jealous. All you with weight losses and even those with small setbacks...you really are amazing in your own rights.

My new philosophy is that any day you are not in your own diaper is a good day and being dead would hurt my back more than a temporary bed stay. It's all about outlook...if you never look out and obsess only in...you will miss everything that is happening in every moment.

Think about the bird that just flew by in the time it took you to read this post. You will never get the chance again to see that exact same bird again in that exact same pattern of flight. Life is made up of beautiful moments. How many moments did you let pass you by today?

Smell the laundry when it comes out of the dryer...touch the top of your child's bed head when they first wake up because when they are 40 I highly doubt that moment will re-present itself. My son Baylor has 3 dark small freckles that grace his right jawline. Last night I kissed them and hugged him and blew on his neck when I tucked him in at 10:30 because he waited for me to come home. This morning at 4 a.m. when an IV was being entered for the 20th time in 2 months...my refuge was recreating that moment. His face...his brown eyes, his floppy hair and his smell. That smell that I will long for when he is old and I am even older.

Those are the moments that will make you whole. Those are the moments I know will give me strength to not give up when the pain is excruciating. Those are the moments when I know I looked out for the day to find the moments that make all of us human and worth loving ourselves. When I did not just look in and become self-centered. So easy to do.

I hope each of you had the success you sought today on the scale. But regardless of what it may have said...start finding the moments that give your life worth more than a number. You all are more than that...more than the sum of weight...you are here for such a short time and in the end when you are weightless...what moments did you leave behind...share with others and most importantly...give yourselves?

 

[grumpyyoungguy]

I haven't seen anything "personal" posted by Bee. No recent PM's for me, either.
She is rarely on, actually.

We are here for BOTH of you in support of your moving on and with your weight loss. Your doing the best you can, sounds like. We love you both through thick and thin...hopefully "thinner" LOL!

This time in your lives will either be SUPER easy to lose weight (it was for me, anyway when I got a divorce)or you'll want to eat everything in sight. So your peeps are here for you.


Well, Mr. Grumpy, how'd you do this week? You've been on a roll lately!

Love to you both!!!

Thanks for caring UM...I am unfortunately up 2 pounds....Maybe I am too close but there have been things behid the scenes that every once in a while rear their ugly heads... then there is a plea of innocence and yet everything said byothers is amazingly true of my life. Since we live hundreds/thousands of miles apart I can only assume my private life is being shared by Belinda and then it doesnt stay private it makes a public appearance. Anyway, there are many reasons that both of us have to be hurt. This is just one of them for me.

 

[Wonders10]

I will apologize in advance for the long post.

You are absolutely right in not wanting personal info being publicly displayed on a message board. I totally get that. However, when I do see that Bee has posted, I don't think she is saying anything personal or particularly malicious, other than saying she is having a rough time. We as Peeps have only offered her prayers and hugs publicly on the boards and I can't help but notice that often times, they are sending those same prayers and hugs to you as well. Again, I get that it is awkward to read about your personal life on a public discussion board. PMs are PMs. I've never gotten one, but I don't see a problem with it. Those are private and whoever she is sending them to is her friend. Regardless of what is being said in them, they're private and she needs to vent. As do you. And I'm sure you do have people you talk to about this. Bee talking privately to her online friends is no different. Anyway, my point is that still, nobody that I can see has taken sides. Heck we don't even know the whole story - how could we? We are offering our support to a fellow Peep who is posting such. No different than me posting about a bad day at school, my dad, or anyone's else problems. We still are offering you pixie dust and prayers - know that. But I don't think anyone here is so mean to just ignore ANYONE's request for some support. I know this may sound like I'm defending her, and I guess I am. I don't see a problem with what she has posted. But if you do, then maybe you should discuss privately what she can and cannot post about the two of you. Until then, I will offer my support to BOTH of you. Whole-heartedly. It takes two for these things and I'm sure it is hard for both of you.

OK, so here I am at a total loss of 22.8, having lost 1 lb. in each of the past 2 weeks. Things are really slowing down for me, which I expected to happen at some point . . . Anyway, thanks Peeps for listening!

Hey Lynda! I can almost guarantee that people are noticing. My starting weight was 211 scared: ) and I've lost 14 lbs. And my mom, DB, and DSIL all noticed it. So I'm sure people are noticing it on you as well, but like another poster said, don't know how to say it to you. I also agree with the poster who mentioned buying new clothes. I totally agree. I had clothes that I had never worn because they were too tight. When I wore them, is when people noticed that I looked smaller. Also, things are bound to slow down eventually I'm afraid. And there will be times where you have big losses as well. Just keep on keepin' on! And I just know you can hit your goal for WDW!

 

[monymony3471]

OK, so here I am at a total loss of 22.8, having lost 1 lb. in each of the past 2 weeks. Things are really slowing down for me, which I expected to happen at some point. I guess I just didn't expect it so soon. (I have about 70-80 lbs. to lose all together.) I have been at this since January. I am not down a size yet. I expected it to take a while for that to happen, but not quite this long - or this many lbs, I should say. I didn't own a scale before January. Weighing in each week has really been a help as far as confirming that I am successful even when the sizes aren't shrinking yet! For that, I love it! And for knowing how much I've lost as well. I have starting walking Jasper 5-6 days a week, and I am up to 35-40 minutes a day now. I am starting to see changes. Certainly, pants are fitting looser. And I can get into a size smaller, but they are typically still too tight to where in public, with the exception of one pair of dress pants that was always a bit bigger than the others that same size. I have started to be able to make out the knuckles on my hands at the base of my pinkie and ring fingers again. (I lose these when I gain weight. Even at my smallest, my knuckles are not prominent. I have pudgy hands!) I think I can see it in my face a little bit, and my stomach is flattening out a little bit. (It will likely never flatten out completely - Once again, even at the smallest I have ever been, this has always been a problem area!) I FEEL better physically than I have in a long time. I can count on one hand the number of people who have commented on my losing weight. My mom is one of them. (Thanks Mom! ) There are 2 people in the department neighboring mine at work, and they have both said something, but the people in my own department - not one of them has said anything about it. I believe most of them are aware of at least some of my efforts. I have mentioned walking Jasper. I drink like 6 bottles of water at work each day. (People have noticed that! ) I have had conversations with some of them during lunches about my counting calories/food choices. So, what I am getting at, I guess, is that I am not yet down a size, not many people are noticing (or at least commenting), and I have started seeing smaller numbers on the scale lately. This is when I don't like the scale because I depend too much on those numbers to make me happy. I know that everything that I'm doing is good for me regardless of what the scale says, but I do have some serious weight to lose in order to be healthy. And I know that I'm still losing, but I think I have a strong need for instant gratification or something! And things were going so well before that I convinced myself that I could surpass my goal of 30 lbs lost by our May trip, so that I would have a cushion. (I still might.) But now, I worry sometimes if I will even hit THAT goal! (At 1 lb a week, it won't happen. I'd be close, but not quite there.) I guess I'm really just frustrated today. But that could be partly because I got to bed late last night. Josh got home from work late, and I ended up talking on the phone to a friend of ours for quite some time. (We haven't really talked to her much in almost a year, so we had a lot of catching up to do!) I guess I just needed to vent and get it all out there. I really need to call and make an appointment with the doctor to talk about my Prilosec and whether or not I should still be taking it. And I want to discuss this with him too. Just see if he has any suggestions. Anyway, thanks Peeps for listening!

Lynda, I'm built where I have to lose at least 20 before I can fit into something else. Don't forget you can't go by clothes sizes cause there are no rules to what makes what a size. Are you measuring? I think your results are just awesome. You seem so dedicated. I know we want it all in a snap. The weight loss, the compliments, the new clothes. It will happen for you. I can feel it. You are just in a moment of frustration. Walk a few minutes extra and you'll feel better. Then have you favorite SF beverage over ice and relax. In two weeks, you'll have the new size.

I will apologize in advance for the long post. For those of you who are watching the soap opera of my life unfold please read for the others who couldn't care less please continue on I don't want to waste part of your life.

When I first read this post I had to go back and reread it several times. I know that Belinda carries on PMs with several of you and I am happy that she has a personal outlet. What I am not happy about though is a refrence to personal, emotional, and financial decisions posted publicly on the boards because not all view points can be explained when I have chosen not to discuss the mistakes made on both sides. Because of daily posts from her addressing her emotional well being due to the divorce, I have now chosen to give you a bit of my personal reflection.
I will not go back and quote everything said. I too joined this weight loss board because of struggles with my own weight. Although many of you may have had bad experiences with men in relationships, etc... Men also choose to eat due to struggles in professional and personal realtionships in the same way.

Our/my decision to divorce has not been a quick one. It was not made in a bubble. Not only did it take 2 people to make the marriage but it took 2 to destroy it. This has been discussed over the course of 15-16 years. Belinda is a nice person, but we are too different to continue any longer

Because we were both members of the peeps I have asked to have my personal life kept from this forum as we BOTH need support for our future weight loss. At the beginning this seemed to be possible and now it seems to be implausible. How can I expect for you ladies/men not to respond when it is being placed in front of you every day via the board or PMs.

Let me assure you this is NOT a one sided story. I cannot verify or confirm what Belinda has said in regards to our living situation. As far as me not moving out? It is a financial reason. Until the divorce is final I will remain in the home. Belinda does not make enough to support herself and even at double the state mandated child support she still would not be able to live independently. Since I travel frequently and I am not home often, it makes sense to keep seperate bedrooms in a 6 bed 3 bath house with 4 people so that the girls will be affected as little as possible. We both want the girls to remain in the home and in my opinion this is the only way to accomplish that goal. This is not a prefect situation, however until additional income is earned by both of us it is the only feasible solution to affect the girls as little as possible.

I respect Belinda as the mother of our children and a human being and will always care for her in some way. That is why I have chosen not to air dirty laundry in this manner. I ask only the same in return.

I don't think this is a soap at all. I feel deeply for what the two of you are going through. I can't imagine all the ups and downs that you two are experiencing. Maybe you talking about your feelings made you feel better. Just look at this board as a positive way of an outlet, cause no one is judging anyone here.

That aside I too was wondering how you did?

Maybe it is just because I'm a guy, and this is the way my brain works. But I would bet that the people in your department have noticed changes, they just might not feel comfortable saying anything. The reason I say this is because there is a man that I work with who is doing Weight Watchers. I talk to him once or twice a week, and I can definitely notice a change. He has always been a pretty big person, but he is really looking good. But since I am a man, and men don't talk to other men about these sorts of things, I've never told him that. So maybe it is guy thing, but I'll bet that your co-workers have noticed and just haven't said anything.

I was thinking the same thing. Women too sometimes don't want to make any comments until they for sure see a difference so there's nothing said that will be taken as offensive. I once said to someone you look great are you losing weight and the person was mad at me cause she wasnt' because she didn't think she had too.

We've all put our foot in our mouths once or twice and I for one learn quickly.

 

[Dizneydawn]

Maybe it is just because I'm a guy, and this is the way my brain works. But I would bet that the people in your department have noticed changes, they just might not feel comfortable saying anything. The reason I say this is because there is a man that I work with who is doing Weight Watchers. I talk to him once or twice a week, and I can definitely notice a change. He has always been a pretty big person, but he is really looking good. But since I am a man, and men don't talk to other men about these sorts of things, I've never told him that. So maybe it is guy thing, but I'll bet that your co-workers have noticed and just haven't said anything.

Totally agree..for some people to acknowledge your weight loss means that they have to acknowledge that you carried the weight in the first place. It would be like you getting a hair cut and me saying..."Wow you really look awesome. Soo much younger." What that says is you looked like crud before and thank gosh you finally went to a barber that did not have two lazy eyes.

By saying, "Wow you look like you have been losing weight." maybe they feel like what they would come across as saying is..."Thank goodness your dropping some pounds cause I got sick of walking around your second butt at the copier."

Know what I mean....as a society we are ok acknowledging so many flaws and pointing out ways to remedy them...but with weight...that frontier is still a touchy territory!

 

[grumpyyoungguy]

grumpy miss ya dude, no dirty laundry dished just lots of prayers for you both

Sneaking at work...lol hey girl whatsup?

You are absolutely right in not wanting personal info being publicly displayed on a message board. I totally get that. However, when I do see that Bee has posted, I don't think she is saying anything personal or particularly malicious, other than saying she is having a rough time. We as Peeps have only offered her prayers and hugs publicly on the boards and I can't help but notice that often times, they are sending those same prayers and hugs to you as well. Again, I get that it is awkward to read about your personal life on a public discussion board. PMs are PMs. I've never gotten one, but I don't see a problem with it. Those are private and whoever she is sending them to is her friend. Regardless of what is being said in them, they're private and she needs to vent. As do you. And I'm sure you do have people you talk to about this. Bee talking privately to her online friends is no different. Anyway, my point is that still, nobody that I can see has taken sides. Heck we don't even know the whole story - how could we? We are offering our support to a fellow Peep who is posting such. No different than me posting about a bad day at school, my dad, or anyone's else problems. We still are offering you pixie dust and prayers - know that. But I don't think anyone here is so mean to just ignore ANYONE's request for some support. I know this may sound like I'm defending her, and I guess I am. I don't see a problem with what she has posted. But if you do, then maybe you should discuss privately what she can and cannot post about the two of you. Until then, I will offer my support to BOTH of you. Whole-heartedly. It takes two for these things and I'm sure it is hard for both of you.

Again...it was not directed at PMs if they STAY PMs. If you will notice the quote I made at the same time of the response, it did not stay a PM....I am not saying what Belinda can say in private. I ask only how would others feel if this became a public forum for their lives, That they did not choose to share.

 

[grumpyyoungguy]

Do you ever sleep?
Already up on the boards again...

We are here to help support our PEEPS! (This is me lifting you up when needed ) Why isn't he moving anymore?

I will apologize in advance for the long post. For those of you who are watching the soap opera of my life unfold please read for the others who couldn't care less please continue on I don't want to waste part of your life.

When I first read this post I had to go back and reread it several times. I know that Belinda carries on PMs with several of you and I am happy that she has a personal outlet. What I am not happy about though is a refrence to personal, emotional, and financial decisions posted publicly on the boards because not all view points can be explained when I have chosen not to discuss the mistakes made on both sides. Because of daily posts from her addressing her emotional well being due to the divorce, I have now chosen to give you a bit of my personal reflection.
I will not go back and quote everything said. I too joined this weight loss board because of struggles with my own weight. Although many of you may have had bad experiences with men in relationships, etc... Men also choose to eat due to struggles in professional and personal realtionships in the same way.

Our/my decision to divorce has not been a quick one. It was not made in a bubble. Not only did it take 2 people to make the marriage but it took 2 to destroy it. This has been discussed over the course of 15-16 years. Belinda is a nice person, but we are too different to continue any longer

Because we were both members of the peeps I have asked to have my personal life kept from this forum as we BOTH need support for our future weight loss. At the beginning this seemed to be possible and now it seems to be implausible. How can I expect for you ladies/men not to respond when it is being placed in front of you every day via the board or PMs.

Let me assure you this is NOT a one sided story. I cannot verify or confirm what Belinda has said in regards to our living situation. As far as me not moving out? It is a financial reason. Until the divorce is final I will remain in the home. Belinda does not make enough to support herself and even at double the state mandated child support she still would not be able to live independently. Since I travel frequently and I am not home often, it makes sense to keep seperate bedrooms in a 6 bed 3 bath house with 4 people so that the girls will be affected as little as possible. We both want the girls to remain in the home and in my opinion this is the only way to accomplish that goal. This is not a prefect situation, however until additional income is earned by both of us it is the only feasible solution to affect the girls as little as possible.

I respect Belinda as the mother of our children and a human being and will always care for her in some way. That is why I have chosen not to air dirty laundry in this manner. I ask only the same in return.

Maybe this will help you understand why I reacted the way I did. Also the fact that Belinda has made comments about me directly and not her feelings....the fact she requotes my initial post and then states isnt this ironic?????? Please try to understand my feelings even if you don't agree with them.

 

[lexmelinda]

We are here to help support our PEEPS! (This is me lifting you up when needed ) Why isn't he moving anymore?

I just assumed Allie was talking about why the banana man wasn't moving...ie..."lifting" anymore. I never thought she was referring to you, Dan.

 

[Wonders10]

I just assumed Allie was talking about why the banana man wasn't moving...ie..."lifting" anymore. I never thought she was referring to you, Dan.

Me too! I totally thought it was about the banana! You know how these crazy smilies act up every now and again?

 

[jeriber]

I just assumed Allie was talking about why the banana man wasn't moving...ie..."lifting" anymore. I never thought she was referring to you, Dan.

That's what I thought too.

 

[denecarter]

But it doesn't matter now - we're staying at POP!

We leave for Disney in 42 days, and I will need to get some new clothes as everything from last summer is too big... I'm doing the happy dance.

Men also choose to eat due to struggles in professional and personal realtionships in the same way.

I hate the phrase "comfort food"... food CAN make me feel better, but only temporarily... 'cuz then I give myself guilt over the food to add to whatever made me eat to start with... vicious circle.

I FEEL better physically than I have in a long time. ... This is when I don't like the scale because I depend too much on those numbers to make me happy. I know that everything that I'm doing is good for me regardless of what the scale says, but I do have some serious weight to lose in order to be healthy. And I know that I'm still losing, but I think I have a strong need for instant gratification or something! ... I really need to call and make an appointment with the doctor to talk about my Prilosec and whether or not I should still be taking it. And I want to discuss this with him too. Just see if he has any suggestions. Anyway, thanks Peeps for listening!

I am SOOO with you on the instant gratification. And the more weight I lose, the vainer I get (just didn't care how I looked before)... so when clothes don't fit the way I want them to, I have to remind myself that I didn't start this to look a certain way... I did it so I could FEEL a certain way. And I remind myself that my total cholesterol is normal and my triglycerides are only 78. And my 14/15/16 year old students have actually made 10X more positive comments than my co-workers and extended family combined.

How many moments did you let pass you by today?

Sometimes I get mad/sad because I basically let 15-20 years "pass me by"... I know I'll never totally make it up... but I'm gonna try the best I can!

 

[grumpyyoungguy]

I just assumed Allie was talking about why the banana man wasn't moving...ie..."lifting" anymore. I never thought she was referring to you, Dan.

For those of you who thought it was the banana I am sorry but my banana is moving "lifing" just fine and always has..which leads me from one personal issue to another

 

[grumpyyoungguy]

For those of you who thought it was the banana I am sorry but my banana is moving "lifing" just fine and always has..which leads me from one personal issue to another

for those of you who the banana is not moving...just a quick question are you using cable for your internet service?

You can convert to DSL high speed internet or see if the local pharmacy has banana viagra....

 

[pigget74]

I will apologize in advance for the long post. For those of you who are watching the soap opera of my life unfold please read for the others who couldn't care less please continue on I don't want to waste part of your life.

When I first read this post I had to go back and reread it several times. I know that Belinda carries on PMs with several of you and I am happy that she has a personal outlet. What I am not happy about though is a refrence to personal, emotional, and financial decisions posted publicly on the boards because not all view points can be explained when I have chosen not to discuss the mistakes made on both sides. Because of daily posts from her addressing her emotional well being due to the divorce, I have now chosen to give you a bit of my personal reflection.
I will not go back and quote everything said. I too joined this weight loss board because of struggles with my own weight. Although many of you may have had bad experiences with men in relationships, etc... Men also choose to eat due to struggles in professional and personal realtionships in the same way.

Our/my decision to divorce has not been a quick one. It was not made in a bubble. Not only did it take 2 people to make the marriage but it took 2 to destroy it. This has been discussed over the course of 15-16 years. Belinda is a nice person, but we are too different to continue any longer

Because we were both members of the peeps I have asked to have my personal life kept from this forum as we BOTH need support for our future weight loss. At the beginning this seemed to be possible and now it seems to be implausible. How can I expect for you ladies/men not to respond when it is being placed in front of you every day via the board or PMs.

Let me assure you this is NOT a one sided story. I cannot verify or confirm what Belinda has said in regards to our living situation. As far as me not moving out? It is a financial reason. Until the divorce is final I will remain in the home. Belinda does not make enough to support herself and even at double the state mandated child support she still would not be able to live independently. Since I travel frequently and I am not home often, it makes sense to keep seperate bedrooms in a 6 bed 3 bath house with 4 people so that the girls will be affected as little as possible. We both want the girls to remain in the home and in my opinion this is the only way to accomplish that goal. This is not a prefect situation, however until additional income is earned by both of us it is the only feasible solution to affect the girls as little as possible.

I respect Belinda as the mother of our children and a human being and will always care for her in some way. That is why I have chosen not to air dirty laundry in this manner. I ask only the same in return.

Sneaking at work...lol hey girl whatsup?



Again...it was not directed at PMs if they STAY PMs. If you will notice the quote I made at the same time of the response, it did not stay a PM....I am not saying what Belinda can say in private. I ask only how would others feel if this became a public forum for their lives, That they did not choose to share.

I understand that

For those of you who thought it was the banana I am sorry but my banana is moving "lifing" just fine and always has..which leads me from one personal issue to another

 

[pigget74]

Stacey is home--the person that told me she was in the hospital thought they were going to admit her. She is still in a lot of pain and just not well. Please remember her in prayer.

 

[winkers]

For those of you who thought it was the banana I am sorry but my banana is moving "lifing" just fine and always has..which leads me from one personal issue to another

for those of you who the banana is not moving...just a quick question are you using cable for your internet service?

You can convert to DSL high speed internet or see if the local pharmacy has banana viagra....

Oh, you're too funny to be grumpy!!