Dilema

[Ali and boyz]

still no news

 

[Ware Bears]

No news is definitely good news in this case!

I also think you should just say sorry but this holiday is for us only. Like others have said, you can help sort out another time for them to meet later on.

Sending you lots of

 

[Ali and boyz]

still nothing

but.............. the other sister (the one who came with us last year and ruined our holiday) found out last night that we were going again (someone had gave my son dollars for his birthday) and she told us how stupid we were to be taking my Mum and Dad. There is no way we will cope etc etc etc

feel like saying well if your husband hadn't screamed at her last year she wouldn't have had a stroke but me being me will say nothing.

waiting on the email coming with her comments !!!

 

[Ali and boyz]

still nothing

but.............. the other sister (the one who came with us last year and ruined our holiday) found out last night that we were going again (someone had gave my son dollars for his birthday) and she told us how stupid we were to be taking my Mum and Dad. There is no way we will cope etc etc etc

feel like saying well if your husband hadn't screamed at her last year she wouldn't have had a stroke but me being me will say nothing.

waiting on the email coming with her comments !!!

well just got the email re above telling I better watch out as they, my son and parents will take not well etc etc. how stupid we are etc etc. it was because of them my mum took the stroke (her bp rose with them)

don't know whether to ignore it or answer the email. my husband says answer and my son says ignore part of me wants to reply and part of me wants to ignore them

what will I do

 

[jen_uk]

If you want to keep the peace then don't say anything. But if it was me then I would definately say something! They have no right to talk to you like that and say such horrible things and maybe its time they heard some home truths of their own!! If it feels like this will never go away then its probably best to say something and then maybe the whole thing can be put to bed once and for all! I would make it clear whose fault it really was last year.

 

[Ali and boyz]

how does this sound ?

Yeh, looking forward to it been booked for a while. DS has his countdown on.
Not worried at all about Mum and Dad, or even our son for that matter and we
spoke to our Doctor before we did anything and he said it was her blood pressure rising last year that was the cause of the stroke so will be fine. The
doctor is meeting up with us out there not that we will need him, but he is a nice guy right enough and we have
arranged to meet even if we don't need him so to speak. We
are going down the coast this time staying right on the beach which will be
nice and our TA got us booked flying first class.


does that read ok. want to answer her but can't cope with a barage of more 'telling me what to do or not to do' re my son or my parents for that matter.

 

[alisonbestford]

That sounds great

Loads of positive bits and you're not letting yourself be bullied

Have a fantastic holiday

 

[Ali and boyz]

do you think I should leave the bit re the stroke out. It was them that caused it but I know I will get another email after she reads it . my doctor has told me to tell them to ******** off I'm not that brave

 

[jen_uk]

Dont back down!

 

[alisonbestford]

Maybe you'd be as well to leave the stroke bit out if you think it will cause an arguement
You're not actually saying that it was their fault but you know how they'll react best

Yep, don't back down.
I think your Doc is right........you just need to say it politely

 

[Ali and boyz]

Thanks, I so much want to be stronger when it comes to dealing with them all but I know I can't cope with all the hassles that come with me answering back.

I am actually quite quiet, which is probably why they all speak to me the way they do and my doctor is really good and he is trying to get me to stand up for myself more with regards to them but its hard. I was so angry when she spoke to my son re going. why can't they be supportive and positive especially when we have come through so much these last 4 years after our sons accident.

I think the husband knows what he has done but she just seems oblivous and selfish

 

[alisonbestford]

My mum can be an absolute nightmare when it comes to being supportive....or not, as is usually the case

I, too, try to be assertive but, even at the grand old age of 44, she still manages to hype me up....

 

[Ali and boyz]

Thanks, I so much want to be stronger when it comes to dealing with them all but I know I can't cope with all the hassles that come with me answering back.

I am actually quite quiet, which is probably why they all speak to me the way they do and my doctor is really good and he is trying to get me to stand up for myself more with regards to them but its hard. I was so angry when she spoke to my son re going. why can't they be supportive and positive especially when we have come through so much these last 4 years after our sons accident.

I think the husband knows what he has done but she just seems oblivous and selfish

Alison we have the same name and I will be 44 whilst we are on holiday so maybe there is something in the name and our age

 

[alisonbestford]

 

[ZipaDeeDooDah]

For me there would be no dilema, you NEED this time together, on your own with just your folks. You do not want to come back with more regrets if you don't have quality time together.

Good luck but be firm, this is your quality time, not theirs!

ITA!!! You don't owe anybody any explanations about your choice to protect your much-needed family time