Did you throw your own anniversary party? Or plan to?

[Family Fun Mom]

25 years of marriage is an ACCOMPLISHMENT these days! Why do so many people think it's tacky, conceited, ect to throw a party to celebrate a major milestone in a couple's life? It's not tacky to throw a wedding, or graduation party, is it? Who is supposed to throw it? Your kids? What if they are too young, or broke? You parents? What if they are too old? Your friends? Don't they have enough to deal with in their own lives to be worrying about planning some big party for you? What if nobody does it, you just don't get to celebrate your big day? Why the heck not throw one yourselves? And why can't people bring gifts if they want to? What's wrong with that? I don't get the big deal.

In this day and age with high divorce rates and 2nd, 3rd, 4th marriages I think a 25th anniversary party is a HUGE milestone and worthy of a big party. People don't have parties to get gifts, or to prance around saying "yay me, look at me, I'm so awesome" they do it to celebrate their happiness and share it with the people they love.

Have the party! Let people bring gifts if they want. Marriage is hard work, if you make it to 25 years, I say PAR-TAY! I hope you have a fabulous time and CONGRATULATIONS on 25 years of wedded bliss!!!

 

[crz4mm2]

Oh, and I think you should get gifts. Long worn out and thrown away towel replacements and new dishes would be nice!!

 

[gwynne]

25 years of marriage is an ACCOMPLISHMENT these days! Why do so many people think it's tacky, conceited, ect to throw a party to celebrate a major milestone in a couple's life? It's not tacky to throw a wedding, or graduation party, is it? Who is supposed to throw it? Your kids? What if they are too young, or broke? You parents? What if they are too old? Your friends? Don't they have enough to deal with in their own lives to be worrying about planning some big party for you? What if nobody does it, you just don't get to celebrate your big day? Why the heck not throw one yourselves? And why can't people bring gifts if they want to? What's wrong with that? I don't get the big deal.

In this day and age with high divorce rates and 2nd, 3rd, 4th marriages I think a 25th anniversary party is a HUGE milestone and worthy of a big party. People don't have parties to get gifts, or to prance around saying "yay me, look at me, I'm so awesome" they do it to celebrate their happiness and share it with the people they love.

Have the party! Let people bring gifts if they want. Marriage is hard work, if you make it to 25 years, I say PAR-TAY! I hope you have a fabulous time and CONGRATULATIONS on 25 years of wedded bliss!!!

What a fabulous post!!! You are absolutely right.

It's not considered tacky to throw a wedding, and it's certainly not tacky to throw an anniversary celebration. Life's too short to worry about bizarre opinions on how one should celebrate their precious years together. Celebrate away!!!

 

[Scurvy]

25 years of marriage is an ACCOMPLISHMENT these days! Why do so many people think it's tacky, conceited, ect to throw a party to celebrate a major milestone in a couple's life? It's not tacky to throw a wedding, or graduation party, is it? Who is supposed to throw it? Your kids? What if they are too young, or broke? You parents? What if they are too old? Your friends? Don't they have enough to deal with in their own lives to be worrying about planning some big party for you? What if nobody does it, you just don't get to celebrate your big day? Why the heck not throw one yourselves? And why can't people bring gifts if they want to? What's wrong with that? I don't get the big deal.

In this day and age with high divorce rates and 2nd, 3rd, 4th marriages I think a 25th anniversary party is a HUGE milestone and worthy of a big party. People don't have parties to get gifts, or to prance around saying "yay me, look at me, I'm so awesome" they do it to celebrate their happiness and share it with the people they love.

Have the party! Let people bring gifts if they want. Marriage is hard work, if you make it to 25 years, I say PAR-TAY! I hope you have a fabulous time and CONGRATULATIONS on 25 years of wedded bliss!!!

In response to the bolded - of course you should still celebrate your anniversary if no one chooses to throw you a party! I certainly hope couples don't think they can only celebrate their anniversary if they have a whole party of other people there with them. That would just be sad.

Sure, a lasting marriage can be a great accomplishment for the couple. A graduation is a great accomplishment for the graduate. And I would find it somewhat distasteful in either circumstance for someone to throw a party for everyone to come celebrate how great they are. I think a wedding is completely different. You are inviting people to come witness your marriage, not celebrate how great you are for finding a spouse.

If someone is close enough to you that they would want to give you an anniversary present, there is no reason they have to wait for a party to do so. If they want to give you something, they can do it whether you throw yourself a party or not.

 

[Sgt Mickey]

25 years of marriage is an ACCOMPLISHMENT these days! Why do so many people think it's tacky, conceited, ect to throw a party to celebrate a major milestone in a couple's life? It's not tacky to throw a wedding, or graduation party, is it? Who is supposed to throw it? Your kids? What if they are too young, or broke? You parents? What if they are too old? Your friends? Don't they have enough to deal with in their own lives to be worrying about planning some big party for you? What if nobody does it, you just don't get to celebrate your big day? Why the heck not throw one yourselves? And why can't people bring gifts if they want to? What's wrong with that? I don't get the big deal.

In this day and age with high divorce rates and 2nd, 3rd, 4th marriages I think a 25th anniversary party is a HUGE milestone and worthy of a big party. People don't have parties to get gifts, or to prance around saying "yay me, look at me, I'm so awesome" they do it to celebrate their happiness and share it with the people they love.

Have the party! Let people bring gifts if they want. Marriage is hard work, if you make it to 25 years, I say PAR-TAY! I hope you have a fabulous time and CONGRATULATIONS on 25 years of wedded bliss!!!

I agree with this. If others feel different they don't have to go it is optional

 

[Boston Tea Party]

I was married the same year as you, meaning that next year is our 20th. I was thinking of milking it for a trip to the world. Does this thread mean that I have to wait until the 25th anniversary???

 

[Lucille1963]

We planned on going to WDW for our 10th anniversary this year, but due to my work schedule, we just can't swing it.

We've been tossing around the idea of having an anniversary party at the little hole in the wall bar where we met and inviting friends. Receiving presents never occurred to me, but picking up the bar tab did. I'm not hosting a gift grab, I just want to mark a happy occasion.

 

[gwynne]

We planned on going to WDW for our 10th anniversary this year, but due to my work schedule, we just can't swing it.

We've been tossing around the idea of having an anniversary party at the little hole in the wall bar where we met and inviting friends. Receiving presents never occurred to me, but picking up the bar tab did. I'm not hosting a gift grab, I just want to mark a happy occasion.

What a wonderful idea! Best wishes on your coming 10th anniversary!!

 

[disykat]

So far, we've been to WDW on our honeymoon, with the kids to celebrate our 10th, and also on our 20th. We hope to take an even larger family on our 30th if our kids have started to have families.