Did you ever have a boss who didn't like you?

[babar]

I've been with my job for over 5 years. We've gone through 4 bosses already and we are on number 5. For some reason, I just get the feeling this boss just doesn't like me. There are a few girls she's always really friendly with, but then the rest of us she is very snippy with, rolls her eyes if you ask her a question, answers sarcastically, and so on.

I've always been highest in productivity and highest in quality, I work hard, and I took over a job that 2 people used to do, but because we are short-staffed, I have to do it myself. I've told her I need help, but she doesn't do anything about it. Now for one person, I am doing an awesome job, but the numbers are lower because it is just me now, and not two people. She is always telling me I need to get this practice going better, but never gives me any help to figure out how. I do so much work, that I feel it's almost expected of me to always go above and beyond. That's okay, except the people she favors don't do anything!! And the numbers prove it!!

It's getting so I'm miserable when I come to work, and I'm almost in tears. I dont' know how to handle this. Do I just ignore all the pettiness and keep doing my job well, or what?

I'm just soo frustrated because I used to love this job.

Help.

 

[December99]

Oh yeah....I was too fat and ugly to fit his likings and the other people in the office were very flirty with him and cute and skinny. There was heavy discrimination going on and he was a drunk (yes, he did come to work many mornings telling us that he had been up all night partying and you could still smell the alcohol on his breath) and the sick part is he was like 58 years old hitting on the younger than me co-workers. And they would play along with him cause if they went out for drinks with him - he'd buy. Wasn't something I wanted to be involved in plus I had a family.

Well after being the one with the most seniority after working 5 1/2 years at this place, I was the one let go when layoffs came because he didn't like me and because I argued with him and stood my ground and made sure he knew I knew what I was doing - he never liked me, I didn't like him and he didn't like it when a woman knew more than him and was right about what she knew (I wasn't the only woman he had a problem with in regard to this).

This happened at one of the worst times in my life - or so I thought - my daughter had been sick alot and as soon as I was let go - I lost my medical coverage. And I was with a jerk of a husband that didn't like to work and went through 3 jobs during the 3months I was laid off because he didn't like it that I got to stay home although I was actively looking for a job.

Needless to say - despite those hard and trying times, it ended up being the best thing that happened in my life - I got a job that I loved in a daycare center and found my niche that led to another job in a daycare center in the town I currently live in which led to me getting a job at the university and meeting my current husband who has made my life much better and helped get on my feet and be the person I was meant to be. My ex really hit my self-esteem in the butt and drug me down so bad that I didn't think I was worth much.

 

[Pam]

Is there anyone over your boss that you can arrange a meeting with? And you could state your facts, and show evidence?

{{HUGS}}

 

[4greatboys]

I had a boss from hell once. She was mean, manipulative, sarcastic....just evil though and through. Well I did look for other jobs while she was there but I had already been at the company for a while so I wasnt finding the $$ I needed starting new somewhere else. Plus I was a single mom with 2 kids to support.
Good part they finally saw what a witch she was and fired her. But it was 3 years of hell.

 

[snuggles]

Yes! She was so awful I couldn't even sit at my desk and work without her making a comment on the way my face looked. I mean, how can you do your work and constantly keep a smile on your face. Geesh. There was no talking to her so I left for my own sanity. Best move I've ever made! Got a great job doing the same thing with the best boss ever!

 

[CookieGVB]

Yup. He thought I was prejudiced. He constantly tried to goad me into fighting with him, so he could write me up - I used to drive him absolutely BONKERS and say, "Yes, Earl - anything you say, Earl..." Thankfully, that position was like a revolving door, and he revolved his way the hell on outta there!

 

[ASFCurly]

one of the managers at work (I only have 2 more days, Weds and Fri) seems to have it out for me. I work hard, get all my work done, but talk a lot while working ( I was really shy when younger, and still am in some situations, so I am making up for it by talking to much in other situations) and I work fast, so at times I will have nothing to do while I wait for the next movie to end or the movies to begin, so I will talk to somone and just wait around for the next thing, but I have everything done I need to, and others that work there will work slow or not work at all and show up 15 mins late all the time and not get anything done and then I have to either do it myself or get on their case to do it, yet if I stop working for 5 mins I get yelled at, and those who don't work at all don't get yelled at ever, tell me that's right.

I forgot to mention this earlier, but the manager I am talking about is a male.

 

[LuvTigger]

Gosh, some of your bosses sound like the one I had at my previous job! I'm not sure how it is in your situation, but in my previous situation, one of the major things was that EVERYONE (with the possible exception of the "big boss") saw right through her and did not like her. I have since left, and the office is in chaos, and people, including the big boss, have asked if I would go back and take her place.

I guess it depends on what kind of personality you have, but I'm pretty outspoken, especially in places I've worked a while, so I "nicely" explained a few situations to the big boss, which for the most part got ignored until I announced I was leaving for my present job. I also "told off" the witchy boss a couple of times, but I know most people are not as mean as I am and would not do that.

If possible, I would find someone superior to her that I could talk to about the situation. Also, keep documentation on the things she is doing. Write down dates, times, other people involved, and the situations. If you could somehow ask others to do the same, that would help too. If you don't get any support from superiors and the situation remains unbearable, I'd look for another job. For me, work environment is very important.

Good luck, please keep us updated!

 

[jamsmom]

Yep- Jim's Mom- the primary owner of the lcoal Sylvan Learning Centers, She got furious with me when I told someone that indeed my paycheck had bounced when asked. My thought is that it was MY paycheck and that if she didn;t like me saying anything, then she should not let it bounce. Most paychecks bounced back then (97) She and I still have problems even though I do not work for her. She thinks that Jim disagrees more with her business ways because of me.

 

[Ranatra]

To answer your question, No. I always had Bosses that liked me a little bit too much. I was young and naive and put up with a lot of crap. This was before we ever heard the term sexual harrassment.

 

[mtemm]

Yep. I worked for a small company owned by a Greek woman and staffed mainly by Greeks. She literally didn't like me because I wasn't. One of my best friends (Greek) worked there and it got to be pretty funny. This boss would speak greek a lot to the others, which the few of us who weren't greek were left to wonder what was going on. My friend used to translate, and refused point blank to answer back in Greek. God love her.

The only other time was working for a man who pretty much thought men were worth his time, but women weren't...at least not in the workplace. Very strange...I mean, this was the 90s. But I moved on pretty quick from that company, and oh so glad I did!

The best thing to do was to move on...either within or outside of the company. Most bosses I've ever had loved me. I worked hard, knew my stuff, knew how to get answers if I didn't.

 

[Disney Doll]

I had a boss wo was threatened by me because I had been at the company 4 1/2 years when she came in new. She thought I was after her job, which I wasn't, as I didn't want to be a manager, and DUH! If I was after her job, I would have interviewed for it when it was available before she was hired, right?

Anyhow, she used to do stuff like entering incorrect informaiton into the computer and signing my name to it, except she wasn't smart enough to know that the password of the user still showed up in the corner of the screen, no matter whose named was noted in the body of the screen, so I caught her on that when she entered something supposedly under my name during the 3 weeks I was off for my wedding/honeymoon! We had a little "discussion" about that, and I left about 8 months later, when I was 100% vested in my pension. I basically told her that I wouldn't leave until I was 100% vested, so we could do it the easy way and be civil, or we could do it the hard way, and be nasty. She chose the easy way.

 

[Cinderellafifi]

Oh, yeah, she hated me. It was very bad. Luckily I was able to get out but thinking about it still makes me mad.

Good luck to you.

P.S. Funny how most of these stories, if not all, are about women with women bosses. I have always found men to be better bosses in my field.

 

[VelvetGloves]

There are three of us that one manager, we have 3, does not like. She denies it, but we think there is a lot of evidence that makes it look like she despises us. She is very harsh with us and unfair at times. A poster mentioned that it was often female bosses/managers that were a problem. Has anyone noticed problems with age? Our manager that dislikes us is around our age. Some say that is where the problem comes from, but if anyone is making age an issue, it is her.

VelvetGloves