Did husbands and wives in the 50/60's really sleep in seperate beds?

[dzorn]

Growing up my parents slept in one bed that was actually TWO. It was two separate twin type beds anchored together at the base??? They did manage to have 5 kids.

Now fastforward, they have two homes one in Maine (summer) and they sleep in the same queen size bed. In the winter they are in Florida where they sleep in the same room in twin beds.

Seems odd thinking about the different sleep situations they have between the two homes. They are 79 and 80 years old.

Just don't like to be together when its hot and sticky out. Dh is the perfect heating pad in the winter, but he better stay on his side if it summer and I'm warm.

Denise in MI

 

[mickeyfan2]

ETrust me, after 30 years together, having a good night's sleep has become more important than cuddling all night.

This is my future in only 7 short years.

 

[blowinbubbles]

Two master suites-It's the wave of the future. people need their space-even from a spouse.

What I wouldn't give for my own master suite! Besides the fact that I quit smoking 3.5 years ago and my h still smokes in the bedroom, I am forced to have the Sci-Fi channel constantly on the bedroom tv!

 

[EthansMom]

My grandparents had separate rooms as they got older, but I think they shared when they were younger. My parents have each always shared a bed with their spouse (they're divorced and remarried).

We have a king sized bed, but my DH is a very restless sleeper. In our last house, we had a MIL-bedroom in our basement and DH would just go down there to sleep/read when he was having a bad night. Our current house only has 3 bedrooms and I don't sleep nearly as well with DH tossing/turning/complaining.

As for those folks who conjecture about sleeping in the same bed and intimacy, it's not like you're actually asleep when having intimacy. In fact, I would have more energy for intimacy if I got more sleep.

 

[4greatboys]

My maternal grandparents had seperate bedrooms. My Papa snored like a frieght train. You could hear him all through the house.

 

[Stepharoonie!]

I'm not sure if my grandparents ever had seperate beds...I never met them.

My parents always slept in the same full sized bed, as did my husband's parents (who eventually moved up to a queen).

An old boyfriend of mine lived in his grandparent's house for awhile, and they had seperate twin beds on either side of the room...however, the grandfather was in leg braces and the grandmother was about three times his size, so I assumed it was for comfort.

 

[Poohbear123]

My Dad died when I was 3, so I have no idea IF they slept in the same bed. (Mom died 10 years ago). My DH and I have Seperate Bedrooms, I need my sleep and could not stand the snoring NO more! He was PO'd about it for awhile, but we have friends that are married, and sleep in Different STATES, so he is OK about it now! The next house we get will have 2 bedrooms, one for me and one for him, no extras!

 

[luvdzne]

Both sets of my grandparents had seperate beds as well as seperate bedrooms.

 

[PaulaSue]

Yep, DH's GPs still sleep in different rooms. He snores TERRIBLE.

 

[Becky2005]

My parents always slept in the same bed, as did (do) my in-laws. I wouldn't mind having my DH in a different bed or even room sometimes the way he snores.

Actually, my DH & I do have seperate bedrooms (his is actually in the basement), my poor kids are going to be so confused when they get married. My parents only have 1 bedroom though.

It's just so we can get some SLEEP!!!! He says I snore & when I was pregnant, the only way I was comfortable was to sleep on my back & DH said I would wheeze like Darth Vador (considering I woke myself up a couple times doing that, I believe him).

He snores too so on the occassions when he falls asleep in "my" room (I have a Queen sized bed), it's annoying. I'm also a bedhog though so I'm glad when in the middle of the night he will get up and leave because he says I'm snoring too much, gives me more room (until the morning when the kids usually pile in). I grew up with a queen sized bed so I'm used to my space.

 

[ilovepcot]

DH and I "separated" about ten years ago due to his snoring. Heaven!!!! When I think back, I just can't believe we actually shared a bed and actually got along. I need my bed hard as a wood floor and he has an air bed. I need cover, he sleeps without. I can't stand for someone to touch me while sleeping, he likes to cuddle. Again...

 

[Jeanny]

Fred and Wilma Flintstone actually did have separate twin beds when the show first started. Even the Jetson's had separate beds.

 

[Cindy B]

My IL's slept in separate beds as well.

As for the Tv censoring, there was a great book detailing this whole interesting aspect of decency/TV pop culture history called One Foot on the Floor. It was an interesting perspective of how culture has changed since the early days of television.

 

[miss missy]

If they did, we wouldn't be here

 

[ticktock]

For all those who said there grandparents had seperate rooms, do you know if they always did that or just after some of the kids left and there were empty rooms? That's what my grands did. Your grands must have been very wealthy or had few children to afford a house with so many extra bedrooms.

I'd love to have my own room, but DH throws a fit every time I mention it . While reading this thread I asked him what he thought of getting twin beds. He said no way! I don't get to touch you enough the way it is. Like another poster said I hate being touched when I'm trying to sleep and dh is a "snuggler" (I call it groping ).

 

[miss missy]

I'd love to have my own room, but DH throws a fit every time I mention it . While reading this thread I asked him what he thought of getting twin beds. He said no way! I don't get to touch you enough the way it is. Like another poster said I hate being touched when I'm trying to sleep and dh is a "snuggler" (I call it groping ).

I work 2nd shift so I sleep in the spare room a lot. I REFUSE to wake DH everynight when I go to bed, no matter how quiet I am he wakes up But, enev tho I am in the other room, he comes in at 5am to say bye and rubs my back ummmm and why am I in here- to not wake you... so pay back is getting woken up Oh I am not nice when he does this LOL!

 

[SplshMtn99]

I only remember 1 set of grandparents. They had separate bedrooms. But it might have been for an odd reason. The "grandmother" that I knew was REALLY my mothers aunt. See, my grandfathers wife died. (My mom's mom). Then grandfathers brother died, leaving a wife. So, after a while, grandfather married his sister-in-law. So, mom's aunt became her step-mom.
I was born long after all this happened. So, all I know is they had separate bedrooms.

My dad's parents passed when I was very little. I only remember that grandpa living at a daughter's house, while my grandmother was in a nursing home for a time before she died.

As for DH & I. Heck, he travels so much, I pretty much have the whole house to myself. LOL

 

[buckylarue]

Growing up my parents slept in one bed that was actually TWO. It was two separate twin type beds anchored together at the base??? They did manage to have 5 kids.

My parents had the same thing as far back as I can remember. They had 4 kids, but as I'm the youngest, I don't know what their sleeping arrangements were during their productive stage.

As a kid, I used to LOVE to go in their room when they weren't home and use the bed for my playspace. It had a big headboard that stretched across the whole bed, with bookshelves in it. They had a bigger TV in their room than us kids had in our room too, and I could watch what I wanted instead of what my big sisters had on our TV. I could spread out my toys, coloring books, models, etc and still have room to stretch out and relax. I'd love a bed with that much room now, but given that I'm a bit bigger than I was then, it'd have to be about 10 by 12 feet!