DH wants to sell our puppy :( SOMEWHAT OF AN UPDATE PAGE 10

[PrincessSuzanne]

come on that's a little dramatic, don't ya think? you can't compare pets (animals) to kids (humans), you just can't. as a previous poster said, humans first, pets second.

I know you didn't just way that My rabbit, 5 cats and 1 dog are my kids. I don't have human children, but they are just as important. And pets can be much more affectionate than humans.

You would probaly fall over if you knew how much I just spent on healthcare for my other rabbit that recently had to be put to sleep, which included a road trip to see a specialist, so don't tell me they aren't as important as children. In fact we are going on a road trip to find a companion for her brother who I still have, and yes he is getting a rescue companion.

If my Dh acted like that, he would be out the door. The puppy would stay.

ETA: (OP this is not for you) Do you know how many unwanted pets are in shelters right now? I can't even stand to think about it, because I would love to be able to give eneryone of them a home. And yes, all of my pets have been adopted.

Suzanne

 

[moon]

I don't think he wants to kill it! He wants to sell it. As long as he is responsible in finding the pet a new home, he isn't hurting the animal. The dog is a puppy. At this point, he may not even remember the family in a few weeks. Also it is better for him to decide that now than to wait. Waiting will only make it harder.

But she loves the dog! What about her feelings?

 

[hlane]

OP here,

OK in DHs defense, he is not the least bit lazy. He pulls his weight or more around here and he does a great job providing for us as well as going to school (which he attends tuition free thru his employer).

Like I mentioned, I am unsure what the problem is, the dog actually seems to like DH better than me During the week they are best buddies, she gets SO excited to see him when he walks in the door and first thing DH does is rub her belly and greet her in a really sweet voice, lol.

She is well behaved all the time but actually listens to him at times when shes too hyper, excited, tired, or just stubborn to listen to the rest of us. I know without a doubt she considers him the alpha around here.

So all of that is what totally confuses me as to what happens once I leave on S&S

It really is an emotional rollercoaster because I get so happy during the week because they get along so well. I go to work every time thinking OK, thank goodness thats over, they're getting along great. Then BAM, he IMs or emails me the usual, I can't do this, its too much email.

Him & I really need to sit down and have a longggggggg talk

As far as the breeder, there is nothing in the contract that she can't be sold...it is only a health guarantee. Trust me, he checked

He says if someone is going to pay this much for a dog they are going to provide a good home, I told him that really isn't true. They could just purchase her with the intention to breed her and make $$ off of her....that scares me, I want her to have a good life, she deserves it.

I love her SO much

 

[DisneyLover111]

I don't post very much but the title caught my eye and broke my heart.

There is a simple solution though, just tell your husband "no, we are keeping this dog".

and make him sleep on the couch for a few nights while you are at it.

 

[hlane]

I don't post very much but the title caught my eye and broke my heart.

There is a simple solution though, just tell your husband "no, we are keeping this dog".

and make him sleep on the couch for a few nights while you are at it.

I've actually been the one sleeping on the couch over this
That really bothers him but I am trying to make a point how important she is to me

 

[lisajl]

If you choose to get rid of your pet, please don't sell it. You don't know how the next person will take care of her/him.
Contact a rescue group.
There is no way my DH would tell me lets get a dog and then back out of it.

 

[diznygirl]

OP here,

OK in DHs defense, he is not the least bit lazy. He pulls his weight or more around here and he does a great job providing for us as well as going to school (which he attends tuition free thru his employer).

Like I mentioned, I am unsure what the problem is, the dog actually seems to like DH better than me During the week they are best buddies, she gets SO excited to see him when he walks in the door and first thing DH does is rub her belly and greet her in a really sweet voice, lol.

She is well behaved all the time but actually listens to him at times when shes too hyper, excited, tired, or just stubborn to listen to the rest of us. I know without a doubt she considers him the alpha around here.

So all of that is what totally confuses me as to what happens once I leave on S&S

It really is an emotional rollercoaster because I get so happy during the week because they get along so well. I go to work every time thinking OK, thank goodness thats over, they're getting along great. Then BAM, he IMs or emails me the usual, I can't do this, its too much email.

Him & I really need to sit down and have a longggggggg talk

As far as the breeder, there is nothing in the contract that she can't be sold...it is only a health guarantee. Trust me, he checked

He says if someone is going to pay this much for a dog they are going to provide a good home, I told him that really isn't true. They could just purchase her with the intention to breed her and make $$ off of her....that scares me, I want her to have a good life, she deserves it.

I love her SO much

During the week do you walk the dog and feed the dog?

On the weekends is he supposed to walk and feed the dog?

What is he doing that he can't take a 5 minute break and walk the dog?

Seriously, you really REALLY need to talk to him to find out why he all of a sudden wants to do this.

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

Apparently he is too lazy to put the dog in a crate with a blankie and a biscuit. That takes about 30 seconds, so that seems pretty lazy to me. And, hardly seems like an interruption to studying.

And certainly less time than it takes to send her whiny emails all day while she is at work.

I agree with above PP's. The dog would stay and the DH would have to deal with it. This is more than just than him wanting to get rid of the puppy. It's about him changing his mind about an agreement when it is too late, putting his own interests before the rest of his family, ignoring his wife's feelings, and whining to his wife about his minor involvement with a dog he asked for in the first place.

 

[hlane]

Well its too hot for her to be outside much during the day but the kids & I take turns taking her out to use the bathroom throughout the day during the week. In the afternoon, well all go out and she likes to play with ice cubes or in the hose while the kids play.
In the evenings during the week & on the weekends HE does take her for walks around the block (she can't go far), they're gone maybe 10 mins, at the most.
All family members feed & makes sure she has fresh water when we're all here. The kids & I all pitch in during the day while hes at work.
Thats the other strange part, he seems to enjoy or at least it doesn't seem to bother him to care for her and spend time with her while I'm here

 

[MushyMushy]

I'm with those who say that animals are NOT disposable.

However, and this is a big however... if he dislikes the dog to the point where he's going to be mean to it or neglect it on the weekends and it's going to be this love/hate relationship with the dog, maybe it is best if you rehome it now while it's still a baby (I hate to say "it," but I didn't catch whether it was male or female). You've got a popular breed and shouldn't have any problems finding a good home, and maybe even with someone you know.

If you have no worry that he'll mistreat the dog in any way, then I think you should fight to keep the pup and work something out so that he doesn't have to worry about it on the weekends. Others have mentioned crate training, plus the kids are old enough to do the feeding and cleaning up any messes. Or you could find a "sitter."

 

[CathrynRose]

I'm with those who say that animals are NOT disposable.

However, and this is a big however... if he dislikes the dog to the point where he's going to be mean to it or neglect it on the weekends and it's going to be this love/hate relationship with the dog, maybe it is best if you rehome it now while it's still a baby (I hate to say "it," but I didn't catch whether it was male or female). You've got a popular breed and shouldn't have any problems finding a good home, and maybe even with someone you know.

If you have no worry that he'll mistreat the dog in any way, then I think you should fight to keep the pup and work something out so that he doesn't have to worry about it on the weekends. Others have mentioned crate training, plus the kids are old enough to do the feeding and cleaning up any messes. Or you could find a "sitter."

I thought the same thing.

 

[CathrynRose]

OP - Can I ask where you live?

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

All I can say is Wow!

My DH is so not an animal person. We have dogs because I want them. When we went to the breeder to pick up one of the collies we have now, my DH was so indifferent and standoffish , I found out later on, the breeder was having second thoughts letting me take her.

We have 2 collies , the kids and I love them to death. If DH had his way, they wouldn't be here. He's not mean to them and will feed them and take them out when I'm not here but he's just not into them (if you guys can relate) like the kids and I are.

Talk to your husband. Mine would never in a million years ask me to get rid of my dogs. We had 2 before we had these and when these 2 become old, we will have others. He knows its inevitable.

 

[diznygirl]

Well its too hot for her to be outside much during the day but the kids & I take turns taking her out to use the bathroom throughout the day during the week. In the afternoon, well all go out and she likes to play with ice cubes or in the hose while the kids play.
In the evenings during the week & on the weekends HE does take her for walks around the block (she can't go far), they're gone maybe 10 mins, at the most.
All family members feed & makes sure she has fresh water when we're all here. The kids & I all pitch in during the day while hes at work.
Thats the other strange part, he seems to enjoy or at least it doesn't seem to bother him to care for her and spend time with her while I'm here

He's not lazy, likes the dog, does take it for walks..... but wants to get rid of it.



You need to figure out what the real deal is.

 

[PrincessKsMom]

Maybe OP's husband is having buyer's remorse. Sounds like he's really interested in getting the money back. That means, of course, that he won't give the dog away to a rescue organization. Good luck OP. In the end, I really think DH will be happy if you keep the dog, I just think it's an adjustment thing for him right now.

 

[Ppufi]

Take the DISers suggestions. Just DON'T seel your puppy.

 

[lil mermaid]

He's not lazy, likes the dog, does take it for walks..... but wants to get rid of it.



You need to figure out what the real deal is.

He doesn't just want to get rid of it - he wants to SELL it.

 

[diznygirl]

He doesn't just want to get rid of it - he wants to SELL it.

I guess that's what it is then - the money. Maybe it's just buyer's remorse like a PP said. Hopefully the OP can convince her hubby that their new family member isn't a waste of money.

 

[christiane]

hlane, you haven't mentioned how your children would feel about losing their puppy. My childrens' love for their pets know no bounds & there is no way I would ever re-home one of our furry family members.

It sounds like there are 4 people in your family & only one is having second thoughts. That one person needs to realize what it would do to the other 3 if your puppy leaves.

I also need to mention that if there are financial concerns, you have chosen an expensive breed to purchase & maintain! I would purchase pet insurance because if he is having second thoughts about the purchase price, that could be a drop in the barrel compared to her future medical care.

 

[chisnpeke]

If this were my husband I'd say the dog stays and you go. Sorry, no man would be telling me to get rid of a dog I (and my children!) loved.