DH thinks he's dying!

[Micca]

As a guy with little pretention to be macho, I just thought I'd chime in here. I was surprised to hear of some of my male aquaintances and how whiny they get when they are sick. When I am sick I basically want to be alone, under the covers, watching tv or listening to music. I am quiet, take my meds, and try to go to sleep. I never bluff chills. On the other hand, the suggestion of getting a flu shot makes me weak in the knees

 

[dbogen]

Perhaps someone here can enlighten me on something. My DH is also great with the injurie(sp) type pain, but give him a virus and he is on the couch all day sleeping about how bad he feels but won't take anything. But if I- the female- get sick I still have to get up in the morning get the kids off to school and what ever else needs to be done around the house. WHEN DO I GET A SICK DAY????? LOL

Deanna

 

[Snowysmom]

Guys are really fun when they get sick! When any one in my house gets sick (other than DH), he immediately says that now he is going to get very sick and he always gets sicker than anyone. It is never, "it's too bad your not feeling well" but it's about how he will be sick soon. I am compassionate when he is really sick but it gets to be too much when he plans to be sick. When I am sick, I still go about my daily activities. I can definately relate to these stories!

 

[doxdogy]

I must admit my DH is not like that at all. Even when he was in the hospital with viral meningitis (spelling), he didn't complain.

 

[mommytutu]

LOL...this is so funny! My dh is an AWFUL patient. And I swear he thinks he will die from a sore throat! He will always ask for chicken noodle soup, no noodles. This week his dad went to the dr. for a check up and his dad's blood pressure was up, so now dh *knows* his blood pressure is also up. I took it (I was a medical asst. once upon a time)...120/80...he's fine (btw~~dh is 31). Now he did have kidney stones and I'll admit his kidney stones *might* be worse then my PMS . But I did insitst he go to the urologist this week for the stones especially since we are going to Disney. I told him Disney World is not the time to need a urologist...their hospital have enough going on with all the hurricane victims and they don't need some bonehead who was too stubborn to go to the dr. before the trip, and if he didn't go to the dr. and then needed the ER in Orlando he'd have to call himself a cab 'cuz me and the kids will be a Magic Kingdom!

 

[leighe]

Well, he's gone to sleep now and is planning on getting up in time to leave for the game early in the morning. He said the soup made him "much stronger and he can tell his body is starting to fight off the infection." I'm so glad I'm a teacher right now. I have learned to keep a poker face when I want to laugh my head off!

Anyway, when I go to bed tonight (after making about 100 trips all over the house to clean up the portable hospital set up on the nightstand) I am going to thank God that DH was able to survive this brush with death - including a fever of 100 at one point and the lack of strength to swallow soup or Sprite!

But he's just so darn cute . . .

 

[TinkBoo&ElliesMum]

My DH isn't much better - I think his nurses when he was in the hospital to have his appendix removed called it being "stoic" Yeah, stoic my butt, I call it being a hard headed stubborn mule!

He neglected to mention that the three doses of moriphine they'd given him for his pain before the surgery hadn't worked - hello?!?! He said he didn't want to cause any trouble - instead he rolled around on that tiny ER bed moaning like he was about to give birth to an elephant. I had no sympathy what-so-ever since this is the same man who followed me into the bathroom while I was in the middle of a gallbladder attack yelling because I shouldn't have eaten the pizza. He finally softened up AFTER I had emergency surgery that night! Two years to the day he was in that little ER bed - karma is a wonderful thing!

Same thing with migrains though, I get bad ones and keep going, often without taking my meds because I'm breastfeeding, but if he gets a little headache the whole world must come to a stop until it's over.

It's a good thing I love him!!

 

[yourtravelpro]

Originally posted by dumboiu
People respond to pain and illnesses differently. Perhaps you should be a bit more compassionate. He really may feel as sick as he acts. Some people are just not good patients.

PPLLLEEEAAASSSEEE!!!
We all know that men are babies!!!

 

[BlueBayou]

My DH is pretty good when he is sick, although he does try to blame the me and the kids for any illness. "I was never sick like this before you three came into my life." Now mind you these are his kids too.

His family runs high fevers. He has had a 102 and been functioning, although not too pleasant to be around. I would have dead to the world. Our preschool daughters have both run 105. Very scary for my family, normal for his.

I should cut him some slack. Earlier this week he left work because he was sick to his stomach. He wasn't able to make it home. He had to pull over into the "Jesus First" church parking lot. Later that night when it began to rain, he was so happy that his yuck was going to be washed away. It was very cute that he worried about the parking lot.

Sher

 

[LeftCoaster]

That is just hysterical. haha. I'm somewhat similar. If I'm REALLY, REALLY, REALLY sick. I just crawl into bed and deal with it. I understand it'll run its course. yadda yadda. If I'm a little bit sick, I just can't handle it. It seems to throw me off much more than something more severe.

 

[dumboiu]

Originally posted by yourtravelpro
PPLLLEEEAAASSSEEE!!!
We all know that men are babies!!!

The ultimate generalization????? Not ALL men are babies.........and yes, SOME women are too...........

 

[Amberle3]

My DFi is much the same way. If he has a cold or the flu suddenly he's 6 again. He's pouting, he's whining, he literally throws himself on the bed and then complains he has no energy.

In the meantime, we're on a trip at the moment (as in right now) and he's been snoring up a storm all night, keeping me awake for most of it. I contemplated taking a blanket and a pillow downstairs and trying to sleep on one of the loungers by the whirlpool but thought it would be too hot (small room, warm and humid). I thought about trying to sleep on the treadmill but then figured the hotel probably wouldn't appreciate that. Even with earplugs in his snoring was still loud and clear. So now I'm tired, and I'm not a horribly happy camper, but I still got up in time to actually go down for breakfast before the hotel stopped serving it. Not DFi, he (who had a full night of sleep) was too tired, grumbled and groused when I tried to get him up and wouldn't get out of bed. So I went for breakfast alone. Brough him a muffin and a piece of fruit, and he did get up about 20 minutes after I got back from breakfast, but he's not hungry and he's still tired so he's gone back to bed. But he did pout and say he's sorry for snoring (while pouting) so I guess that should magically make me un-tired?

 

[snarfer1]

Originally posted by leighe
My mom has always told me that men are babies when they get sick!

DH has the flu and came home early from work today. When I got home from school, he was lying in the bed and had the most dramatic case of the shivers I have ever seen. He has requested that I take his temperture at least 4 times in the last hour. It is now a life-threatening 100.3. I know he feels bad and I do symphathize but really! A few minutes ago I was sitting on the couch grading papers. I hear a thump so I turn around. DH's watch is out in the hall. I go in the bedroom. "I needed you," he barely whispers, "and I was too weak to call so I threw my watch out in the hall and just hoped you would notice." Um, okay. I just stood there and stared at him and finally I couldn't help it - I just had to bust out laughing. So now I've hurt his feelings!

This is my guys-guy, basketball coaching, beer-drinking fraternity boy husband! He's acting like a grandma! I'm going to call my mom and tell her she was right!

Your Mother is right! When I get the flu, I REALLY do feel like I'm dying. Sometimes it takes 3-4 days of complete bed rest. I believe this is genetic. It relates to the MSG factor.

Male
Stupid
Gene

I don't mean to be a whinning, boneless blob, moaning in my bed, but that is all I can really do. I'm very lucky my DW will put up with this. Of course when I'm better, it is payback time. Backrubs, taking our 3 DC for the day, letting her sleep late on weekends, etc.

Sadly, I usually only get the flu once per season!

-Tony

P.S. other side effects of the MSG

Selective deafness
Inability to pick up clothes on the floor (we actually can't see them, it is why we walk right over them!
Attraction to bright shinny things
Inability to return the seat to its full down position after use....

 

[Serena]

What I hated with my ex, just because I was jealous. Is when he would get sick, he would go to bed, sleep for a day or two, and then when he'd wake up, he'd be perfectly fine, no matter what he was sick with.

It really irked me that I couldn't do the same. But yeah, he was a baby about it too. He'd tell me to leave him alone and when I did, he accused me of not caring. If I checked on him, he would yell to leave him alone. It was not fun.

 

[ohanafamily]

Originally posted by Amberle3
My DFi is much the same way. If he has a cold or the flu suddenly he's 6 again. He's pouting, he's whining, he literally throws himself on the bed and then complains he has no energy.

In the meantime, we're on a trip at the moment (as in right now) and he's been snoring up a storm all night, keeping me awake for most of it. I contemplated taking a blanket and a pillow downstairs and trying to sleep on one of the loungers by the whirlpool but thought it would be too hot (small room, warm and humid). I thought about trying to sleep on the treadmill but then figured the hotel probably wouldn't appreciate that. Even with earplugs in his snoring was still loud and clear. So now I'm tired, and I'm not a horribly happy camper, but I still got up in time to actually go down for breakfast before the hotel stopped serving it. Not DFi, he (who had a full night of sleep) was too tired, grumbled and groused when I tried to get him up and wouldn't get out of bed. So I went for breakfast alone. Brough him a muffin and a piece of fruit, and he did get up about 20 minutes after I got back from breakfast, but he's not hungry and he's still tired so he's gone back to bed. But he did pout and say he's sorry for snoring (while pouting) so I guess that should magically make me un-tired?

Have you had him checked for Sleep Apnea??? it sounds like he may need a sllep test. Also, I heard Breathe Right Strips can help the snoring...

Good morning America had an author on, I forget the name of it, but he had a few good things to say...
A man's brain is like the state of Idaho, lots of space with sparse population...
He was asked what to do if your DBF does not want you to be affecyionate with you in public...his answer was to be affectionate with other men....
Oh, The Laundry Hamper Problem... Make game of it and put a basketball hoop over the hamper. While men cannot see laundry on the floor, we can see missed shots...

I will try to remember the name of the book and post it later...

 

[Tarheel Tink]

Wow! It isn't just my DH! The world stops when he feels discomfort of any kind...

He had knee surgery years ago. A dear friend who was an LPN came to visit and help care for him post operatively. I knew what he was like and visits to the hospital were full of pitiful whining ( I want to slap his mother for the babying she did for any minor thing he had as a child). During this time we had a planned litter of Weimaraner puppies that had to have their tails docked the day he was released from the hospital (a Saturday). He knew this and knew when I would pick him up. Guess who called the animal hospital mid-procedure to dramatically (and in a very shrill tone) to demand I come immediately to get him?

When we get him home, he insists on being set up in the living room instead of the bedroom and wants ALL our dogs in there with him. Big surprise that shrieks of pain every few minutes come from him when a dog bumps his leg, etc. but still wants all of them with him. His constant demands and whining led to our dear friend/LPN to leave to return home a week early saying she had never in her life seen such dramatics from a patient. That more than anything seemed to bring him to a more normal level of complaining. To this day he is a horrible patient (one nurse told me she had never heard such screaming from anyone, including children, from a small laceration. He promptly snarled back that "It hurts!!!!"). A headache is a brain tumor, upset stomach is probably a tropical disease,etc.

I am a go-to-bed and leave-me-in-peace person from a family who all did the same. This has been an on-going thing with him- on my afternoon off everyone at work laughs when I try and stay at work because DH is home with some imagined disease process;even they have seen him at work. Good thing for him that he is such a great guy aside from this...

 

[ducklite]

Sorry he's sick, but maybe reminding him the life insurance is paid up and telling him you're going out with the girls for the night so he has to fend for himself mught help him along in his road to recovery.

Anne