DH is really getting to me....

[Dznypal]

We were to Vegas about 5 yeras ago and we always said we'd like to go back sometime so as a surprise for my DH I booked a trip in Feb for us leaving 9-6.

I had the papers all wrapped in a box with a balloon and everything was just the way I had planned. (I've been thinking of doing this for awhile and had been stashing away money so it wouldn't even cost "us" anything.

He thought it was a good idea and liked how I had it all set up. He even said for my birthday we could see Barry Manilow!!!! I was so excited!!! and happy for him.

It was even his idea to go to DL since we were so "close" and just spend a few days there!! (could this get any better?!!!!) this turned out to be more expensive and more of a hassle then we thought so thats not going to happen I was a little bummed but not to bad this was in July when I had to pay off the trip.) Were were also going to the Grand Canyon something he always wanted to see.

Then he started saying how he hopes he doenst get sick (the last 3 trips have been less the fun since he gets sick or sleeps

But just a few weeks ago he said I was lucky since I got a kitten and seeing Barry for my birthday

Hes been having back problems so someone he works with recommend a chicrpracter he said this guy saved one of there trips so my DH said lets not make any decissions till I see this guy.

Well hes been there 4 times one time he says it helps and the next ohhh he feels dizzy. I dont know much about chicropractier how long it takes before you really start feeling better but like I said I think alot of it is in his head!!!

So now it boils down to the fact we leave in a week (I already have the week off from work so I'll be burning a weeks vacation for nothing) and he never talks about it cancel or going or anything and yet I'll be theone to call and cancel good thing we had the trip insurance DH insisted on it but knowing how he is to me thats just a good cop out for him if he gets a whim he doesnt want to go we can cancel.

I think most of it is in his head!!! He always says he likes to travel but sometimes I really wonder. We were at WDW last year for our 25th anniversay (that went less then how I was hoping ) he said maybe I should find someone else to travel with (although after we got home he doesnt remember saying that)

Im just so bummed I dont know what to do. Ive been really quite and he keeps asking whats wrong duh what does he think?

If I tell him straight out whats wrong he'll get mad he already said well I guess we can go just dont get mad if I get sick Doenst that just sound like a lovely way to start a trip Im sor sure not going with that hanging over my head!! ONe nite I talked to my mom about all of this and he came home from his walk and got really mad since I made him out to look like an ***hole (his words) so I cant talk to him (he'll get mad) I cantalk to my mom (he'll get mad) so I've been fumming inside for a week!! It will get worse as the 6th comes up!! I dont want to give anyone the wrong idea of my DH that hes a control freak he never checks up on me or doenst want me to leave the house or nything like that.

Its funny though cause if he surprises me with something I have to get all excited or his feeling are hurt!!

Thanks for listening sorry to vent so much seeing Im a stranger on this board usually I post in the rewards board

anyone with any words of wisdom Im willing to listen

 

[justhat]

Sorry to hear about your trouble with your husband and your trip. FWIW, I think it was very nice of you to plan something like that and IMO I would go with or without him this time. Maybe then he'll see that even if he tries to ruin the fun, you're not going to let it affect you, and he might stop and go along with the vacations in the future. Or if he goes, but sits in the room sick or sleeping all day, go out and enjoy yourself without him. I wouldn't let him kill the trip that you planned and have been looking forward to. I doubt he's really 'sick' everytime you go away, he probably just has some sort of issue with being away or something. Either way, as annoying and frustrating as I'm sure it is, try not to let it bother you and ruin your trip. Good luck!

 

[Dznypal]

Last year I did let him "sitting" in the room and I went swimming or he went back to the room once and I stayed at the parks by myself.

It sure took somethign out of the fact that it was 25 anniversary though.

I dont know why I keep thinking of traveling though I guess I keep thinking this one has to be different.

My parents take out whole family on a trip every 2 years well we're planning next years trip. I can hardly wait to see how this goes.

thanks for listening.

since he got mad at me for talking to my mom all I have are my "friends" here at the Dis boards

thanks

 

[vacanut]

I agree I'd let him know you are going with or without him. Maybe your mom would enjoy the vacation more than him! I hope you work things out and are able to enjoy your vacation. There is so much to do in Vegas!

 

[dadtoagirl]

Just what ever man wants, his MIL involved in his problems. Whatever the outcome or situation don't get your mom involved.

 

[Dznypal]

dad to a girl,


I thought of that guy/MIL/problems/ but my DH and mom get along real well

and Im not just saying that.

We've talked to my mom about "little" problems the kids would get into when they were younger that my INlaws dont know anything about (and they never will!!)


when DH called today from work he asked me again what was wrong and after 3 days of hardly talking to him I told him.

he felt bad since just about 2 weeks ago we'd go see Barry Manilow for my D-day and less then 2 weeks after that the trip is just about dead.

now he lighten up and is more positive.

so things are looking better but Im not counting on anything till we're back home and hes telling everyone what a great time we had!!!

thanks all for listening and the advice.

have a good weekend