DH forbidding WDW trips!

[daisylove]

Ugh
I am so frustrated!. This year has been very lucky for my DD (5)and I as we have had 3 trips to WDW so far. (annual passes fla residents) I admit the last trip she was cranky and did not want to see the characters as much. Could be she is losing the magic or that it was because her friend told her they were just people and it was june so it was HOT. DH thinks she has been too much and is trying to forbid trips for at least the reat of the year maybe longer (not a disney person!) I wanted to take her either again before school or in November when family I have nopt seen in a few years wil be there. I am so frustrated . Any advice suggestions? Not divorce. He may be a stubborn non-disney person but he is the best husband. Thanks for letting me vent!

 

[BelleBeautyandtheBeast]

I also have a cranky non-Disney husband. I just leave him home alone and enjoy the fun with our 3 kids. Some people just don't get the magic of Disney!

Did your DH just make this comment about no more Disney this year? Or have you really sat down and talked to him about it?

I know my DH often makes dumb comments without thinking about what he is saying. And if we sit down and talk about it I can figure out what his issue is and then compromise.

If your DH is really against the whole Disney thing sit back, relax and enjoy that you got to go 3 times this year! That is so awesome.

If your DH is more money oriented you could give the speech about getting the most visits for your money.

And I really think meeting family at Disney in November would be a totally different trip. Your DD needs to spend time with f amily, who just happen to be at Disney!

Good luck with your DH.

 

[twinmomplus2new]

I would just tell him what we say around here. Please don't tell me not to do (insert whatever here) I really don't want to do it twice. But I will just to prove I can!

 

[gritzel4]

Originally posted by twinmomplus2new
I would just tell him what we say around here. Please don't tell me not to do (insert whatever here) I really don't want to do it twice. But I will just to prove I can!

I will have to remember that one for my DH

 

[daisylove]

LOL. Love the advice. He says it is both money oriented even though we have annual passes and get the great deals and only stay a couple of days at a time. Trust me I haunt the budget board and do great on budget freom souveniers to snacks. We are talking low budget trips that really he does not pay for I do.(he has not gone since last November) He seems to be covering it with the fact that DD was so cranky last time that she may be "losing the magic geting bored with the parks" I do not think so but you never know.It is so frustrating because we do live only a few hours away and have the annual passes which I hate to waste when we could go for a weekend here and there. I think it is mostly that he is a cranky non-disney person.

 

[moinab]

We are FL residents with seasonal passes. My DH loves WDW, but every time we go (7 times so far, this year), at some point he exclaims that we aren't going to go anymore because it's not worth the hassle. This only happens when one of the kids is acting up, crying, having a tantrum, etc. (Inevitable, with a toddler and a pre-schooler. ) Eventually, he comes to his senses.

We have found that when are kids are acting up, it's generally because they are hot, tired, overstimulated, hungry, etc. If we slow ourselves down to figure out what is going on, and then take steps to correct it, we can usually turn it around and get back to enjoying ourselves. Sometimes, it just takes a nice, calming snack break. Other times, we have to go back to the hotel for a nap, or pool time.

The last time we went, DS was especially difficult (relatively speaking- he's a very easy-going child, unlike his sister) This was part of a recent pattern, however. When we got back, we decided to turn off the tv for a week. It made a huge difference in his behavior. Then, when we turned it back on, there was an immediate (within 2 minutes) effect. He was bouncing off the walls. Very disturbing. It really is like a drug.

It sounds like your DDs crankiness was probably a combination of the heat and the blabbermouth friend. But even if she's not into seeing the characters, it doesn't mean she's lost the magic. My kids aren't really into the characters, but they love being in the World.

Good luck! I hope your DH lightens up

 

[stacy6552]

i know a good divorce attorny.

 

[laceemouse]

Much as I love WDW, our family really enjoys doing other trips as well, especially as the kids are getting older and can enjoy educational and historical things. If we still lived in Florida I guess we would get the season passes, but I am not really sure. The 2 trips that we took to Disney 6 months apart we really had a "been there, done that feeling." How old is your DD? Maybe she and your DH would enjoy a more relaxing weekend get-away sometimes????? At any rate, I would really try to avoid the super hot times of year if I lived so close and could go whenever I wanted. JMHO.

 

[daisylove]

Dd is 5. We ususally do not go in the summer the fla resident passes are blacked out then but this year we ended up with regular Ap passes so we went this summer. The thing thatgets me is that I do ot make DH go. I will take her with my mom or by myself. He has gone only last November then the year before that once. I willlet it alone for a while until DD is asking again then approach the subject again. I am more stubborn than he is. Thanks

 

[gr8tpanther]

This is DEFINITELY an "Oppositionally defiant" situation...

 

[wdwdvcdad]

Originally posted by twinmomplus2new
I would just tell him what we say around here. Please don't tell me not to do (insert whatever here) I really don't want to do it twice. But I will just to prove I can!

must be a happy guy

 

[SnoWhiteRabbit]

We went three times in the past few years -- and each time we went, we had another bambino with us! By the last trip, with three tiny tots (4, 2, and 10 m) it was work - fun - but work, too! And expensive, as well, of course. (I love to do as many character meals as possible ) So DH tried to swear off Disney for a while.

At one point, I mentioned that I wanted to go for my 40th and DH agreed. Turns out, he figured not again until my 40th...that's 5 years away!

My DH claimed the same as yours...then he booked a 2 week golf trip to Scotland with his dad and brother Guess who booked a 2 week trip to Disney

Then he had a night out with a drinking buddy and didn't get home until the am. Guess who is now booking a trip to WDW *EVERY YEAR* for the rest of my life!!!! Of course I told him and he said, "I can't argue with that." I told him he can come with us or stay home, but "I'm going to Disney World!" LOL

He really is a great guy, even if he sounds terrible on paper...and I was just quick to capitalize on opportunites that I found!!

Good luck to you!!

 

[sarahsmom73]

We went this past April.. It was a great! A few weeks ago didn't we get a post card for $49 per night... I could get us low airfare and everything, but do you think DH would buy into it?? NOT! I guess it is a good thing he doesn't know about my secret Disney stash (and the secret household stash).... So for us it's Christmas 2005 or BUST!

 

[dkrause716]

My husband does not mean half of what comes out of his mouth! It's a guy thing I guess. I'd wait and bring it up for discussion when the mood is right. He probably forgot he even said it!

 

[RoyalCanadian]

I thought this was the "Disney for Families" board -- aren't families about open conversation, respecting the wishes of others, cooperation and NOT sneaking around behind our partner's back? Hiding family assets (that secret Disney stash), making plans against the wishes of our partner, telling our spouse we'll go to Disney even if they don't want to, and suggesting divorce as an alternative to a spouse who would rather do something other than Disney are not what families are all about.

 

[daisylove]

Well don't worry divorce is not in the cards over this As for cashing in on opportunities wouldn't you just know that he is just about perfect on that front. No "bad" behavior for me to try and cash in. LOL. So it will be rational conversation and just maybe I will have to wait until fall. I also got the $49 a night card and it is kiling me not to go. May have a chance when we have some work done to the house because DD is asthmatic and can't be around for construction for a week. DH has already said we would have to go somewhere else for that time. So there is a chance. It is hard when you have one partner who loves disney and one who does not at all.

 

[disneymom2one]

My husband and I don't "forbid" anything. That being said, about three years ago we took a break from WDW because our then five year old wasn't really enjoying herself and we also needed a break somewhat. She's special needs and that has a lot to do with it. We went to US/IOA when we came to Orlando and spent a lot of time at Sea World (which she loved). It's been a long three years but we're back now and it honestly all feels new. We even joined DVC. She's excited again and we're counting the days, although we were just in WDW a couple weeks ago.

 

[tci1212]

My Husband has gone about 3 times since I started going 14 yrs ago. He is just not a Disney person. I have many family members who love to go. I take the kids on most trips and my husband stays home. He likes the quiet house for a week. Sometimes I will leave ths kids with him for a week while I go to Disney he also is fine with this. His Idea of a vacation is on a beach in the Bahamas.

 

[Amirah95]

We are going to St. Lucia next year and we are Disney fanatics. We are just taking a break from it for our DD9 sake (she already saying she's tired of Disney World, can you believe it?). I think that if we lived in Florida that we wouldn't be as interested in Disney World. The fact that we have to travel 1100 miles by car (we don't fly anywhere in the US) to this magical place does someting for us. We can't get enough of Disney.

 

[momxx5]

Honestly, if your DD is not having fun and your DH has "forbidden" another trip this year, I think that you should start planning a trip for next January or even late spring. I would not push taking a trip just for the sake of being there. Even the most magical place on earth would not be fun for people who do not want to be there.

Maybe talking together and planning a future trip will build up the excitement again. For some people going to frequently takes the fun out of it. The planning and anticipation are half the fun.

Good luck.


PS - I also find some of the comments alittle concerning when it comes to communicating with DH. I guess we have a different relationship because I would never speak to him in ways mentioned.