DH does not share the Disney love

[myxdvz]

I love Disney, so when I had the opportunity to buy into the DVC... I went for it. DH wasn't interested in doing it, so I used my own money to buy in. Our kids were just the right age, 1, 3, 5. Our girls loved their first Disneyworld vacation and loves Disney as well.

After our May 2010 trip where we stayed at AsMo, the girls can talk of nothing but wanting to come back. I knew we were going to cruise in 2011 because that was the perk of my DVC purchase so our 2011 points are unused. In 2012, I wanted to do our trip around President's day to use my 2011 UY points which will expire if I don't use it.

Hubby thinks doing Disney 3 years in a row is too much Should I just have a Mommy and Kids vacation? Try and rent my points out? I am looking forward to doing a yearly Disney visit.

 

[alldiz]

I say go without DH....do you have any other family members who can come share the magic....and help with the kids
Kerri

 

[myxdvz]

I say go without DH....do you have any other family members who can come share the magic....and help with the kids
Kerri

Yes, in fact my mom has been dying to go to Disney and we haven't take her because the costs add up (we need a 2nd bedroom). With my DVC points, I can rent a 2 BR easily, but we won't even need it if it's just her, myself and the kids as we can probably fit in a 1 BR.

It just means I shoulder the whole cost of vacation myself

 

[alldiz]

Yes, in fact my mom has been dying to go to Disney and we haven't take her because the costs add up (we need a 2nd bedroom). With my DVC points, I can rent a 2 BR easily, but we won't even need it if it's just her, myself and the kids as we can probably fit in a 1 BR.

It just means I shoulder the whole cost of vacation myself

Any way your mom can help with the costs. I've been lucky.....my mom comes every trip...and splits the cost with me.
I only have 1 child though.....
Happy planning.
I don't know your situation.....how bout you get a studio with mom and leave the kids home
DH might like Disney better.....LOL...
Kerri

 

[AlwaysPlanning]

I have taken my @ DD on vacation to the world two times now with out DH, They both know the Disney routine so it is not like taking a trip to New York City or some other destination. If your kids are vetrans of the world they will be fine with the transportation, parks, and eating. Once they are comfortable and know what to expect in each of the parks, what the rides are like, and most improtantly how to behave it really is a wonderful time to spend this time with your children. My girls look forward to our christmas trip with dad but really enjoy the one on one time with mom on our special trips. Good luck and enjoy, dont let anyone tell you that you can't do it with out help. I have taken my mom with as well and it was fun to see the girls show her everything and tell her what we should do next. This is one place that kids really feel like they can do anything.

 

[LIFERBABE]

My DH cant take vacation in the summer, so I take DS's by myself or with friends if we have the space.

Saves on kennel fees because DH stays home with the dog!

 

[FindingFigment]

My DH is the same. He started out saying he only wants to go every 2 or 3 years. But then he agreed to every other year. And the next time we were having a heart-to-heart about something, I shared with him that I think it's important for us as a family to get away together and have fun once a year and Disney is the best option. He finally agreed so now we are planning yearly trips! Yay! Now if I could only get him excited about DVC. But hey...one step at a time.

 

[Harlemgirl720]

how bout you get a studio with mom and leave the kids home
DH might like Disney better.....LOL...

 

[JimMIA]

how bout you get a studio with mom and leave the kids home
DH might like Disney better.....LOL...

Oh, that's COLD!

Good...but COLD!

 

[DVC SSR Owner]

Personally, I would not like traveling with 3 kids and no husband, but maybe that's just me. Could you try and make a family trip to Hilton head or vero beach? They are less "Disney." I always try compromise when possible! I would be hurt if dh vacationed without me!

 

[Simba's Mom]

I don't know what's best for you, but for me, going without DH really helped out in long run. When he saw me come back from my trips so excited about the things I'd done, he decided maybe there was something he was missing, and he went again. Also, you don't mention him having taken a trip staying at a DVC resort. Boy, did DH change after we joined DVC! When we joined, it was because I wanted to and "whatever you want is fine with me" was kind of his attitude. But when we took that first DVC trip, he came back a convert. Now he even has an AP, something I never would have thought of, and he actually bought a DVC luggage tag for his laptop at work. So I believe there's hope for your DH.

 

[bnk1120]

I only have one child, but am in a similar position. My DH likes Disney, but he is not in love with it the way I am! I am taking my mom on our trip in February and leaving him home.

I think he's already feeling a little left out when we talk about plans, ADR's etc. Hopefully he'll miss it so much that he'll ask me to plan another trip this summer. Keeping my fingers crossed anyway...

 

[a742246]

I love Disney, so when I had the opportunity to buy into the DVC... I went for it. DH wasn't interested in doing it, so I used my own money to buy in. Our kids were just the right age, 1, 3, 5. Our girls loved their first Disneyworld vacation and loves Disney as well.

After our May 2010 trip where we stayed at AsMo, the girls can talk of nothing but wanting to come back. I knew we were going to cruise in 2011 because that was the perk of my DVC purchase so our 2011 points are unused. In 2012, I wanted to do our trip around President's day to use my 2011 UY points which will expire if I don't use it.

Hubby thinks doing Disney 3 years in a row is too much Should I just have a Mommy and Kids vacation? Try and rent my points out? I am looking forward to doing a yearly Disney visit.

Is there anyway you can have DH, or DM watch the one year old. This way you can take the 3 and 5 year olds, one person handling a 1, 3, 5 year old
together doesn't sound like it would be fun. But a mother and a 3, 5 year old
is doable and could be enjoyable. But I am a male so I may not know what I am talking about in this matter.

 

[quinnc19]

I have taken several trips to WDW with my elderly parents, ex-husband, and friends. The last one was just me and my DD aged 3. It was the best trip ever!

 

[myxdvz]

Thanks for all the tips! My husband is very ehrm... frugal and my policy is I work hard so I can enjoy my life (and going to WDW yearly is one such wish).

We went to WDW with the kids last year for the first time with just the girls DD5, DD3 at that time and left DS1 at home with the grannies. This year, we are doing the cruise with everyone and then staying 2 days at Old Key West, so hopefully he'll see the difference between ASMo and OKW.

The suggestion of just going with the girls next year (DD5 and DD7 at that point) and mom is good. 3 generations of women. If I can get us a BLT MK view for Feb at my 11month window - I will do it!! Yay.

Hopefully DH will change his mind after the Dream cruise. I was hoping he'll love to cruise and will want to do one every year (or every other year).

In the past, because DH has been a homebody, I've gone on vacations with girlfriends myself (a RC Med cruise in 2008 and an Egypt trip in 2010). So yes, I don't have problems leaving the kids at home with the grannies. But WDW is meant to be shared with kids and I want them to get the chance to love it as I do. But if I don't, then I guess its 50 years of just me and Mickey... and mom, or trusted girlfriends. hee!

 

[toesmom]

my dh hates the parks and the people. I admit he did try it many years ago, just wasn't for him.

So he doesn't ever come to the parks with us.

I take the 2 kids, he plays golf. Perfect holiday for both of us. But I have to say I would not have bought into DVC unless we both agreed. That I find strange. I would assume your money is his money, unless part of some inheritance. So I find that a little strange, but that is besides the point.

The only time our family is not together when we are at dinsey is for few hours during the day when we are in the parks.

This has worked out great for us. With 3 kids, may be tougher, but definitely doable. Go at the kids schedule, try to get help, and you can still travel as family.

Just tell dh he doesn't have to come in the parks. I'm sure he will enjoy staying in the room or around resort with the little one while you take the other two for a few hours.

 

[myxdvz]

But I have to say I would not have bought into DVC unless we both agreed. That I find strange. I would assume your money is his money, unless part of some inheritance. So I find that a little strange, but that is besides the point.

Yeah - I realized our financial arrangements are not the norm a while back when I talk to girlfriends. But I believe more and more couples do it the way we're doing it specially when its a 2 income situation.

Hubby's not into golf either. I am still trying to figure out if his issue is WDW? Or just the cost in general (which is what I think it is). I also think that since I've been planning our vacation forever, he doesn't have a clue on how much things cost. He seems to think 1 week vacation for a family of 5 should still be under $1K. *sigh*

I should let him plan and book one of our upcoming vacations so he can reset his expectations.

 

[starbox]

My husband was ambivalent but DVC won him over because we slowed down. You stayed in a value with three tiny kids - go again and stay in a 1bedroom deluxe with your own room & king size bed and don't commando. He may see the light.

 

[maburke]

My DH truly enjoys Disney, but he can't stand to hear my planning. When we travel with other families, we have occasional planning meetings when he's out of town. I've learned what he likes, and plan with him in mind, but if I have to ask him anything, even when choosing dates, I first have to say, "Can we talk about Disney for a minute?" then if he says yes, I ask a very specific, preferably multiple choice question, and then I stop. He enjoys the results of my planning, he's just not obsessed with it the way I am. But now that we understand each other, it works for us.

 

[TPBChick]

Hopefully your husband will feel differently about WDW after staying at a DVC resort. My husband only agreed to buy DVC if we bought at Hilton Head because he said he wasn't that crazy about going to WDW. After staying in a 2 bedroom at BCV and seeing the world at a nice relaxed pace, he keeps saying, "it sure would be nice to add some points at BCV". We do love HHI too. I agree that you might want to try it. We now alternate between WDW and HHI. It is nice not having to buy park tickets when we go to HHI.