Desserts Forbidden at School? Update pg. 2

[va32h]

My son hasn't eaten any of the desserts I put in his lunchbox - he says that he isn't allowed to. Now he's 5, so I am not sure I can entirely trust his version - I am emailing the teacher right now to verify.

My 4th grader goes to the same school, and says she is allowed to eat her dessert with no problem. Some of her classmates even bring sodas, so they are clearly not having their lunches monitored.

We did get a note home saying to please not send cookies or juice for their afternoon snack, but they didn't say anything about lunches.

So. If desserts are in fact banned, I am going to have a real problem with that. I don't like being told what I can and can't feed my own child, and I really don't think the school has any business telling me what I can put in his lunch box. Not to mention that my son is very skinny for his age and needs every calorie and ounce of fat that I can squeeze in him. Even his pediatrician says so. The boy has practically no body fat at all!

I'm not talking about candy either - I give him things like chocolate pudding or homemade cookies or cake - sweets, yes, but not 100% sugar. Carrot cake is practically a muffin.

I don't want to become a problem parent, and I am otherwise very happy with this school, but if I have to, I'll get a note from our doctor stating that my son must eat dessert!

Has anyone else ever heard of this?

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

granola bars--candy bars disguised as health food...grrr!

There are "healthier" desserts--and then there is crap! But a blanket ban on desserts.

 

[SherryNC]

I did ask parents to send healthy afternoon snacks for my first graders, but I see nothing wrong with desserts in a lunch. Hopefully it was a misunderstanding and I'm glad you're talking to the teacher before assuming the worst.

 

[Dopey Sharon]

I really doubt that the school has a "No Dessert Policy".

You wouldn't believe the phone calls my boss gets from irate parents complaining about something that happened to their child at lunch, THAT NEVER HAPPENED!!! I, in turn, get a call from my boss asking why I did such and such. I explain that it either didn't happen or that it didn't happen the way the student told it to the parent.

Before you go off on anyone, please wait until you get a reply from the teacher.

 

[Beth76]

Carrot cake is practically a muffin.

And some muffins are practically cake.

I wouldn't be sending fatty desserts with my child each day, but I don't think the school should be putting a ban on them. Maybe there's just not enough time for him to eat everything and they make him save the sweet stuff for the end.

 

[teacherforhi]

And some muffins are practically cake.

I wouldn't be sending fatty desserts with my child each day, but I don't think the school should be putting a ban on them. Maybe there's just not enough time for him to eat everything and they make him save the sweet stuff for the end.

This makes more sense to me. I've had to remove desserts from lunch boxes before until lunch was eaten (at parent request) because their kids would head straight for the sweet stuff. Our computer system can also indicate limits on how many sweets a child is able to buy in the cafeteria (a parent may indicate that they are only to buy ice cream once a week, for example).

 

[aprilgail2]

You wouldn't believe the phone calls my boss gets from irate parents complaining about something that happened to their child at lunch, THAT NEVER HAPPENED!!! I, in turn, get a call from my boss asking why I did such and such. I explain that it either didn't happen or that it didn't happen the way the student told it to the parent.

Before you go off on anyone, please wait until you get a reply from the teacher.

My daughter came home in different clothes than I sent her to school in...I asked her what happened and she said thye wouldn't let her go to the bathroom in lunch so she couldn't hold it....I went down to the school and asked what happened...they told me that they send a 5th graders with the kindergartens to the bathroom and they were all eating so no one was there to take her....I explained that when she has to go she has to go and they said it wont happen again...well it did happen again, this time I went to the school pretty darn angry...the office tells me 'oh no, they would never not make a 5th grader stop eating to take her"...I told her to bring the cafe monitor in there and she DID say that again a 5th grader was not availble to take her...I was LIVID...I said that I am now instructing my child to just get up and walk out of the cafe. and use the bathroom even if hter eis no 5th grader there to take her...how many times can they make her wet her pants???
As far as snack...sure the teacher sends home a note saying "only healthy snacks" for snack time...but I send in Oreos, fruit snacks etc..anythign she will eat because if I pack a healthy snack she is just going to throw it away and go hungry and my child can not afford to lose one more pound!

 

[justhat]

Madison's preschool (which also continues up through 6th grade) has a no prepackaged, processed, refined sugar rule for snack (she doesn't eat lunch there cause it's a half-day, but same rule applies for lunch for the older kids). You're only allowed healthy foods, even on birthdays-no cake, cupcakes, or cookies. They allow wholegrain muffins, fruits, veggies, etc., so maybe your son's class has a rule like that?

 

[totalia]

Your son may be lying. He just may not like sweets. My nephew doesn't. He also doesn't like alot of meat. I gave him a piece of cake for his birthday and he had two forkfuls and wouldn't eat the rest. That happens all the time. He also doesn't like chocolate, coolaid, anything with icing, cake, pudding, and just about anything sugary.

 

[pmcpmc]

 

[Nancy]

Madison's preschool (which also continues up through 6th grade) has a no prepackaged, processed, refined sugar rule for snack (she doesn't eat lunch there cause it's a half-day, but same rule applies for lunch for the older kids). You're only allowed healthy foods, even on birthdays-no cake, cupcakes, or cookies. They allow wholegrain muffins, fruits, veggies, etc., so maybe your son's class has a rule like that?

If my kids were enrolled in that school they wouldn't be going there for too long! What kind of school is it?

Maybe your son misunderstood the teacher. Possibly she said no snacks until you eat your lunch....and all he heard was the no snacks part. I would never think he was lying, I think he misheard.

 

[Planogirl]

I've always sent a few cookies in my son's lunch and he's never had a problem. It's only 3 daily Oreos so I would have a real problem if he wasn't allowed to eat them.

 

[justhat]

If my kids were enrolled in that school they wouldn't be going there for too long! What kind of school is it?

Maybe your son misunderstood the teacher. Possibly she said no snacks until you eat your lunch....and all he heard was the no snacks part. I would never think he was lying, I think he misheard.

It's a private school, she'll be in their preschool program starting next month. Doesn't bother me at all because we don't typically allow her to eat any of those types of snacks anyway. We do buy those Gerber Graduates banana cookies and she LOVES them, and sometimes we'll bake cookies or brownies, but we rarely feed her packaged snacks.

 

[Blueeyes101817]

Madison's preschool (which also continues up through 6th grade) has a no prepackaged, processed, refined sugar rule for snack (she doesn't eat lunch there cause it's a half-day, but same rule applies for lunch for the older kids). You're only allowed healthy foods, even on birthdays-no cake, cupcakes, or cookies. They allow wholegrain muffins, fruits, veggies, etc., so maybe your son's class has a rule like that?

wow--i didnt realize some schools had rules like that!

 

[Wishing on a star]

I would want to get the official policy from whoever is in charge. You need the real bottom line. And, it could just ruffle feathers with the teacher.

That being said, personally, I would not want to send my child to a school who thought that they should monitor what I am giving my child to eat. That is MY business. It is my childs lunch, and it is my decision. If it is my childs birthday, I say let them eat cake!!!!


Also, I would be VERY concerned about my child wetting themselves at school. Obviously this child is not comfortable going during classtime before lunch, or they are outright not being given the opportunity. This might not be a 'lunchroom' problem. It may be a very big 'systemic' problem. I would also not send my child to a school who did not insure that my child had the opportunity to go to the restroom whenever they really needed to.

It really upsets me that educators think that they can control EVERYTHING... even down to a childs eating and bodily functions.... They are playing god while kids are suffering through.

 

[goofy!]

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[L107ANGEL]

Wow,
My DH would get cranky with out his sweets! Maybe you just need some carlification. Let us know how you make out

 

[Briarmom]

DS isn't allowed to have them. In Kindergarten last year, they lifted the ban at the end of the year around March. I guess I don't see the problem. They can have sweets when they get home.

BUT they do have to have a water bottle every day. Not a sippy cup, but water bottle It's really hot here!

 

[Dopey Sharon]

I forgot this happened a couple years ago. We had a student who never ate a normal lunch. At snack time she would buy three to four ice creams, that was her lunch. Our cashier called her mother to let her know what her daughter was doing and was told to mind her own business, that she knew what her daughter was eating every day and if that's what she wanted, that's what she was going to eat!

 

[va32h]

Well I got a reply from my child's teacher. She doesn't eat lunch with the kids, but she spoke to the teacher who does, and they explained that the kids are expected to finish their lunch before having dessert. And my son apparently is quite the chatterbox, and talks so much during lunch that he never quite finishes

So I am going to remind him to talk less and eat more, and maybe not put quite so much food in his lunch box.

In my defense, dd's old school had a horrible, mean lunch lady who made the children eat in total silence every day and would actually throw away their lunches if she thought they were misbehaving. So I am a little extra-sensitive about lunchroom rules.