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[rrobin3051]

We are going to Disney world in late june/early july. So far there will be 9 of us going. My self, my hubby, my mom, my 17 year old, my 14 year old,our 3 year old grandson, my sister, her hubby and their 17 year old. My oldest daughter cannot attend because of her work schedule. The problem is that she has another son that will be almost 1. I know I could take him and for the most part he probably would be good. I took my kids when they were little. Our 3 year old grandson will almost be 4 and I feel he will just love all the shows and rides and it would be easier not toting around a baby. The problem I FEEL GUILTY!! I know he wont know or remember but I cant help but to feel guilty. People say I am favoring the 4 year old. I know we will be going another time and will take the baby the next time. What do you guys think. Should I feel bad about not really wanting to take him?

 

[ilovejack02]

Seriously.. People have told you that you are FAVORING a child?? Someone is actually upset you are taking a 4 yr old and paying the whole way for him, but not taking the BABY?

A baby who wont remember , a baby who may get freaked out and not do well off schedule, a baby who might refuse to take naps in stroller so then you will have to go back to hotel for the child to get rest thus messing up the day for everyone else..esp yourself?

Nope shouldnt feel bad at all.. bring the sweet baby an awesome big stuffed Mickey and plan a trip for him in the next cpl of years.

No way my Mom would take my oldest and a baby at one time, she would do the same thing you are doing and tell anyone to kiss her behind that questioned her lol.

 

[Brer Shay]

You are doing the right thing!

A one year old won't remember and will likely make some portion(s) of the trip less enjoyable for everyone else who will be there, if for no other reason than limiting your ability (or whoever is caring for the child) to be involved in all of the activities. There will likely be other opportunities for that child to go in the future.

You are being very kind. It seems to me that anyone suggesting otherwise is just looking to stir up trouble.

 

[dougsmom98]

Normally, I tell people never to leave anyone behind when they go to Disney, but I think this is a different situation. Because the baby is so young and the child's mom is not going, I think I would leave him home. If he was 2 1/2 or 3 and realized that everyone else was going on a fabulous trip without him, then I would definitely take him. If it is going to make you feel miserable because you aren't taking him, then do it, but I really don't think I would take him on this trip.

 

[d1sneyf4n]

The only reason I would consider leaving the 1 year old home with his mother is because he is 1 and would most likely miss his mother and have a hard time himself..................NOT because I was worried about him ruining my vacation. I personally would be worried about my 1 year old grandson without his mother, I would not worry about how it would effect anything that I was doing.

 

[rrobin3051]

Thank everyone. Like I said I know for the most part he would do fine and we will go back in about 2 years, so he will definitely go with us then. The problem I think some of my family is having is that I took the almost 4 year old with us when he was 18 months. But there was only one little one and his mommy was not around when we went. She is in the military and was gone at that time. Now she is home and she is not at all expecting us to take the baby but some family members are. I just know we will all have a better time and the 4 year old will just love the shows and the rides. Thank you again for letting me vent and just get the nerve to say to people just to kiss off and we will take the other grandson next time we go.

 

[adoptionmomma4]

I just got back from a trip to Florida with my 11 year old daughter and I left my boys and my 4 year old DD home with daddy. It is soooo hard, but we had a wonderful time and the other kids were fine.

I think it will be good for your older grandson to have his time at Disney with you and also for the baby to have some alone time with his mommy. He will be showered with extra attention since he will be home alone. I say go and have fun. Who cares what other family members think. Your younger DGS will have his time when he is a little older.

I will tell you what they lady from Delta said to me (when I called to check ticket prices 2 days before I left, for my baby girl).... she said "you are giving your daughter a wonderful gift to have this time alone with you." I still felt guilty while I was gone. But my kids had a great time with dad and I had a great time with my DD. Truth be told I don't think they even had time to miss me. Dad is much more fun than I am and I think he let them party in the junk food department

 

[sk!mom]

Take the 4 year old- leave the baby. As soon as you return, start planning another trip a couple years down the road when the younger is 3 (of course, take the older boy then too.)

I didn't take my own 1 year old on vacation. She stayed at home with Grma while we vacationed with her older brother. At 1, she hated sitting in a stroller, couldn't stand the heat for more than maybe an hour at a time without getting cranky, and had a very difficult time sleeping anywhere except in her own bed. She was happier at home getting spoiled by grma.

Not sure why anyone feels that they can give opinions on how you plan your vacation. It's your trip- plan it as you want. If your asking for others opinions- the stop it!

 

[MiMi2Three]

Take the 4-year old and leave the baby with mom. We went with my DD and her family, our grands were 4 and 1 year old at the time of the trip. Several months later we did a girls trip, me DD and DGD, the baby stayed home with daddy. He had no idea we were at Disney and got lots of attention at home. Disney is doable with a baby or several, but the 4 year old will enjoy this one on one time with the grands and 1 year old will never know the difference. Don't acknowledge the "family members" that think you are making the wrong decision, unless they are paying it's none of their concern.