defriending family on facebook?

[HOGFAN]

has anybody here had to do this? My MIL almost always has something swarmy to say about some of my posts. I am seriously thinking about defriending her. Of course then she will call me up and ask why and I ll be in the doghouse for awhile...

 

[SC Minnie]

Can you lock her from seeing your posts/status updates? Go to privacy settings and see.

She will still appear on your friend list but it will look like you haven't posted anything in a while. Just a thought.

 

[Disney Doll]

Well, you ahve 2 choices:

#1 - Defriend her, explain why and take the heat

#2 - Defriend her and blame FB - "You're defriended? How can that be??? FB must be doing something funky".

Either way, I'd be defriending if I didn't want all my other friends to see what MIL is posting.

 

[SaraJayne]

You can block her from seeing your status updates without unfriending her.

It will just look like you have no wall (to her).

 

[tlbwriter]

Yes, I would minimize what she can see rather than block her entirely. Unless you're looking for a fight.

 

[Hannathy]

Yes, I would minimize what she can see rather than block her entirely. Unless you're looking for a fight.

Yes do this I'm not facebook savvy but you can do things like this.

My DD in college has done this with her younger (think middle school) cousins. This way they are her friend, can chat with her and see some things but she doesn't have to worry about them making comments on her wall or about things her older friends have said, or maybe seeing things they shouldn't. (not entirely G rated)

 

[Momvic5]

I just had a very similiar conversation with my ds14. My step-ds20 always has some smart remark for my ds14's posts. Our Facebook accounts are for our enjoyment so I told him if someone is giving you grief and causing you to be upset, drop them off of your account or block them from being able to post on your wall. Most people know when they are being swarmy or whatever so I wouldn't feel bad about it at all.

 

[eliza61]

Can you "Defriend" some one in real life. I've got a few family members I'd like to do this too. LOL

 

[MIGrandma]

Can you "Defriend" some one in real life. I've got a few family members I'd like to do this too. LOL

I keep my mouth shut on my kids/grandkids' facebook walls, and don't make comments about anything I might find offensive. I just stick to the fluff stuff. I wouldn't want them to think they had to de-friend me.

 

[okeydokey]

Can you "Defriend" some one in real life. I've got a few family members I'd like to do this too. LOL

I think that's a whole other thread!!

 

[Maridw]

I had to do this with my sister. I just blocked her and the rest of her family from seeing my posts. She wasn't happy about it, but my mom just said that I had decided to stay off of FB for awhile.

I only just recently took the block off.

 

[SandrA9810]

And this is why I don't have any family members on facebook... they all keep asking "when are you going to get one?" And they'll never find my name.

 

[Jennasis]

I went one better....I "defriended" Facebook!

 

[jackemail]

And this is why I don't have any family members on facebook... they all keep asking "when are you going to get one?" And they'll never find my name.

Same here!

 

[agnes!]

I think the adjective might be 'snarky' or maybe 'smarmy'...I'm not sure what swarmy means...maybe buzzing like a bee about someone's posts on Facebook?

agnes!

 

[phorsenuf]

It always cracks me up how when someone asks a question about Facebook all the Facebook haters shows up. If you don't use it why do you feel it's necessary to say how evil it is?
I've never gotten that.

 

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

Put her (and anyone else you don't want to see your posts) into her own "friend list" and then change the privacy settings to where she can not see your wall posts.

If you do not know how to do this, just google it. Took me about 10 minutes to change all the settings but now it is really easy to add people to this list if I do not want them to see what I'm up to. They also only get access to certain pictures.

 

[Witch Mountain]

I have my controls set so that a family member can only see pictures. For a time, the person was unblocked and I hid specific things on my wall, but question me about stuff other people wrote.

A friend's son's posts don't show up on my wall. He sends stuff out to everyone on his FB list and lets just say we do not see eye to eye on many things. It's easier to do it this way than defriend him, because his mom likes having an extra set of eyes on what he posts to his wall.

He knows my political affiliation is different, yet at 14, isn't wise enough to realize that posting that stuff isn't going to change my mind and get me to switch parties.

 

[design_mom]

Put her (and anyone else you don't want to see your posts) into her own "friend list" and then change the privacy settings to where she can not see your wall posts.

I agree with this. It is easy to do. You can Google for step-by-step instructions. I've done this with my sister's MIL. I only "friended" her in the first place because she was giving my sister a hard time because I hadn't accepted her invitation. She is the type to write something snarky about every post... and think she's being funny. (As an example, my sister showed pictures of the bridesmaid dresses she'd selected at her bridal shower. My sister's MIL-to-be said "Oh, those are beautiful. They'll look great on the thin girls. Too bad for you, Kim! (me) Ha-ha-ha!")

If you don't want to see her posts, but don't care if others do, then you can also "hide" her posts and comments. She won't show up on your wall. I think it's kind of like the "ignore" feature on this board. You could still go to their wall to see what they've written, but it won't show up automatically on yours.

 

[Jennasis]

It always cracks me up how when someone asks a question about Facebook all the Facebook haters shows up. If you don't use it why do you feel it's necessary to say how evil it is?
I've never gotten that.

I wouldn't say ALL the haters showed up. Just me.

And I don't use it because it's evil.