Define "happy"

[Rikersmom]

Have recently come in contact with two long-married couples where the husband announces that he is "not happy" and wants to spend some time apart.

How do you define "happy"??????

 

[bjgrazi]

When I find happy I'll let you know.

 

[NMAmy]

I'm happy now. After a few rough years, everyone is healthy, DD is living with me (she stayed with her dad for 5 months because she was having trouble with some girls at school), we have enough money, I just got a new house and a new car after years of saving, and I have a really wonderful, romantic, thoughtful husband. It just doesn't get better than this and I am so grateful that I say a little prayer every day. I'm really appreciative because I had to go through so much crap to get here.

Regarding the other couples, "not happy" usually means "I want to start seeing other people."

 

[Rikersmom]

Just watched an episode of "Two and a Half Men" where one of the characters was asked, "Are you happy now?" He replied, "I have my moments...but they are getting farther apart."

 

[Wishing on a star]

Interesting thread!!!

I was not thinking of 'happy' in the couples/romantic sense of the word. Just 'happy' in general.

There are two things that I have heard.....

A mans reach should always exceed his grasp.

and,

A human beings capacity to experience happiness and joy are far less than their capacity to feel 'desire' for these things!

In other words... There is always, and I mean ALWAYS going to be something more... something different....

I think that true happiness, and people who are truely happy, are those that have the inclination to BE HAPPY, wherever and whatever their circumstances bring!!!

They say that major life occurances... both positive (winning the lottery) or negative (a major loss in life, death, accident) Either way, these things rarely have a REAL affect on a persons overall happiness.

Things that make you go 'Hhhhhmmmm?????

Don't worry, be HAPPY now!!!!

 

[HauntedMansionFreak]

To me...happy = content = knowing perhaps some parts of my life could be better, I am satisfied and thankful for where they are.

It also tells me that I have conquered one of the three areas I wanted to in life.

Once I get to 'happy'
I'll strive for 'happier'
and try to end the 'happiest'.


No matter how broke, sick or sad I could ever be, happy is seeing my husband and kids and knowing that I am their focal point.

Happy is finding my 3 yr olds lost Bob the Builder toy and then seeing his face light up when I give it to him.

Happy is the trip Im about to take to Disney with my 10 yr old and hubby who have never been

Happy is waking up to a dirty house and still loving the people who made it that way.

Happy is the kiss I get from making my DH's favorite meal and serving it to him in his recliner, even though I don't have to or sometimes even want to.

Happy is cleaning my sons room and finding a photo of me and hubby that he keeps hidden - for whatever reason.

Happy is what you make of it.

Happy is NOT my finiky cat who drives me crazy unless she gets expensive canned meaty food smothered in gravy. Me and the cat are gonna have to talk.

 

[septbride2002]

It is hard to define happiness, but I know it when I've got it. Just like ya know if when you don't have it.

~Amanda