Debt Dumpers 2026

[Twilghtsprkle]

Not all hot flashes are the typical ones though. I get extra hot when I get hot, which makes running and exercise super fun. I'm on HRT which when the levels are good, it helps, when it doesn't it sucks.

The brain fog is real though.

My mother ended up with brain fog after menopause but it was due to hemochromatosis. If a woman has it, it generally doesn’t show up until your period stops/slows down.

 

[barkley]

I remember perimenopause . just when Ihings started evening out and I saw a light at the end of the tunnel another member of my household entered puberty and started their cycle and just like back in the days when I worked in a unit of all women and our cycles would sync up with each others BOOM! I was back to pre perimenoupause but my body kept trying to sync up with the 'newbie' (who was not at all in sync)

yeah-fun times.

 

[focusondisney]

Before we say it’s menopause, ask if this is new for his wife or has she always been this way. They’ve been married 20 years if I remember right. He’s trying to make changes she’s not on board with. That doesn’t really suggest menopause issues as much as it does relationship & personality issues to me.

 

[Nettlelondon]

I had forgotten the brain fog! It was so bizarre to be incapable of the simplest thing that I knew I was normally totally able to do!

Fortunately my GP was great and quickly sorted HRT. As my breast cancer was non-hormonal I was able to continue it right through my treatment until I joined the clinical trial at which point I had to stop it as part of the conditions for being in the trial.

It was not easy for a few weeks but stopping HRT felt like the right decision.

 

[mmbrad02]

Just checking in. Dad had his open heart surgery on Wednesday. I dare say, it went beautifully! It was an incredibly long day but the dr called at 5:30pm and said it had gone very well, he was very pleased, and he did 4 bypasses (the plan was 3-4, if 3 went well, he would do the 4th). We got to see him about 7:30 and honestly it wasn't as scary as I had anticipated/dreaded. His color was good, and he had a fantastic nurse who explained things so well. She was very happy with his status at that point. We went home and called back at 11 and they had removed the vent already! We arrived back the next morning around 9 and he was in a recliner and awake (albeit a little foggy from everything). He got to skip ICU and went straight to cardiac stepdown. They had already removed one of the two chest tubes. He walked a couple of times yesterday and continues to do well. I came back home last night and I must admit - I am exhausted. I worked today and my husband, daughter, and I are headed back tonight to my parents house because they are on the hoarding side and we are going to work on cleaning their place up so they can function better when they get home.

My mom has had moments during this which has made it hard. She wasn't able to stay with him the first night and she went off on my sister and I. She was tired and hungry but she was very hateful and hurtful. She did settle down but it's hard because she gets over it quickly and forgets, and we are left to cope. I am glad my sister and I have each other though! She is now staying around the clock with him but.... from a caregiver perspective, isn't a lot of help. But my parents are stuck together like glue so perhaps she brings him comfort of some sort just being there. And he is her security blanket so I know she is right where she wants to be.

As for spending I will say my mom is very generous when it comes to making sure everyone is fed (sadly she cannot find her own way to the cafeteria so she is also dependent on someone being around). She paid for all but one of my meals while we were at the hospital. I had packed a cooler with drinks so that helped too. I did buy some nuggets, via fast food, on my way there and back, but overall finances not hit much.

During the process that was the least of my concerns but it is a positive note as well.

On the note of perimenopause I am in the throws of it with a 15 year old in the house with very irregular periods... I think I would probably be nearly menopausal (at 46) if it wasn't for my daughter She seems to keep my friend sporadically returning.