I did request one for each child, and she agreed both met the criteria. I had the old GAC handy as well. That being said, they refused to give me two. (MK Guest Relations outside the park-a location I understand does not consistently offer the cards.). I'm a teacher, advocate, former Special Education PTA President, etc and felt I made a good case for two. Her solution was choosing the card to show my least restricted daughter...it worked, but the logic was flawed. I was willing to give it a try, and intended to return if it didn't meet our needs, but I didn't have to. There were times, however, that it was logistically challenging...my husband returning to the park with my son after a hotel break, but not being able to use the card until he tracked us down. Now that they're older, too, their interests are more varied, as well. I really want to request two for this trip, but I don't want to be perceived as trying to do something unethical.
I guess they are worried we would invite extra people to get in line with us?? Lol-as if anyone would want to!
I think I can clarify a little bit for you about why the CM would not give you 2 cards.
When you went over Thanksgiving was relatively close to when
DAS started on October 9th and things were still a bit in transition.
Soon after DAS started, people started posting on Facebook pages and blogs that they were getting 2 DAS cards - in your example of having 2 kids with special needs, they got 2 DAS cards, each valid for up to 4 people.
They didn't do it to get extra people in line, they posted they did it so they could get double the number of DAS Return Times.
So, for example, mom would take DAS #1 and get a Return Time for Winnie the Pooh while dad used DAS #2 to get a Return Time for Peter Pan. The group of 4 would use the first DAS Return Time, then dad would use that DAS to get a Return Time for a third attraction for all 4. By repeating that over and over, they could get on many attractions without ever waiting.
Disney isn't clueless and did have people watching social media. I've heard from CMs that the first response to trying to deal with this issue was what happened to your family - giving only one DAS per family, whether there was one person who qualified for a DAS or more than one.
That was the policy in effect set the time you went.
People wrote to Disney about the same kind of issues you mentioned being problems with having a 'family' card, rather than having individual cards.
There have been a couple posts recently where parties have gotten more than one DAS, but the party is split between the 2. So in your case, each child will get a DAS, but only 1 additional person can accompany the DAS owner. They did this to accommodate split parties, but keep people from doubling up on return times. If all 4 of you wanted to ride pirates, you would have to get the return time on both cards.
Maybe this is what they will do for you this trip?
I've seen a number of posts here and on different social media after the first part of 2014.
Disney is currently handling needs for multiple DAS cards in a single group by issuing a DAS to each person who needs a DAS, but each card will be valid for only part of the party.