Dad confronts bully on daughter's bus (video)

[CathrynRose]

Have you guys seen this? : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4pvsVHdepsw&feature=share

I'm on his side. I know he approached it wrong, however according to interviews, it had all been discovered that morning, as the daughter began crying when she was supposed to get on the bus. I think he "snapped". And although - you can't just "snap", I can't say I wouldn't have done exactly what he did. Exactly. I would have been SO MAD.

According to some news reports, the daughter (who has Cerebral Palsy) had been subjected to smacks in the back of her head, condoms being placed on her head, called names and just general bullying.

And honestly - had a Dad approached my kids the way this man did - and I found out my kids WERE bullying another kid? I would have been right next to this Dad, yelling at them, too!!! It's one thing that just boils my blood!!!

I'm curious on others thoughts.

The video is grainy, the audio hard to hear (especially between the **bleeeeps**) but you get the gist. He was MAD!

 

[Grand Duke]

Hahahaha he's awesome, wow.

 

[GeorgeG]

Sometimes you just have to do what you have to do. Our modern concept of being civilized leans too much toward taking abuse and avoiding confrontation. Sometimes that works, but bullies will be bullies until they are put in their place.

 

[Carl]

This seems to be happening fairly often.

 

[Suellen]

I saw this family on Dr. Phil a few weeks ago. I am a HUGE supporter of him. If we don't advocate for our children no one will.

I'll tell you what else. My DD would have been in super big trouble if I found out that was her bus and this was the first I found out about the teasing of that little girl. My DD would have been on their doorstep apologizing for not helping that little girl.

WHY are more parents not teaching their children to stand up for others that are being bullied?

My 5 year old gets it.... what's up with the rest of the kids?

She is only in Kindergarten and came home the FIRST WEEK of school telling of a bully on the playground that she got between the bully and the target and told the bully to stop and the target to go get an adult.

Seriously folks... if a 5 year old can be taught to do the right thing... all school aged children can be taught what to do to STOP bullying.

#end rant.

Sorry ~ hot button issue for me.

 

[hereyago]

I bet that bus driver was scared. And hopefully gave those kids on the bus a "scared straight" example. We put our kids on buses and have them going to school, expecting those in charge to keep watch and keep them safe.

Years ago, it was "it takes a village" and everyone could discipline everyone's kids, now it's don't touch my kid, but I don't want to parent him either.

I remember paddles in school, but never had one because I was more afraid of my dad if i did get paddled at school.

 

[CathrynRose]

They had an interview with the mother of the bully. And how mad she was at this man.

What??????

How about your kid, lady?? How about this Dad never would have ever gotten to this point, had your brat not started this mess.

Bullying bothers me in and of itself. Add a disabled child to that mix?? Lower than low.

 

[Philagoofy]

All the kids did was laugh at him as he got off of the bus. Some kids aren't scared of much anymore are they? And some don't have much respect. Or consideration for other kids, although there have always been children like that. It's heartbreaking for the children who are teased and bullied.

 

[punkin]

When my DD who is now 18 was little more than a baby (she may have been 2 or 3), there were some 5 yo in the park who thought it was a good idea to push her and make her fall down. Their nannies (it was that kind of neighborhood) couldn't get them to stop.

One day my stepfather took DD to the park. When one of the little boys pushed her, my SF went up to him and in a low and very calm voice told him that if he ever sees him doing that again he will pull out both of his arms and both legs. Needless to say, the pushing was never repeated.

 

[hereyago]

A Some kids aren't scared of much anymore are they?

No, because people teach them if a teacher touches them or even schools will tell kids, if you are being "hit" by anyone call the cops. So these kids know that they can even call the cops on their parents.

 

[C.Ann]

This was on the DIS before.. Just so you know..

 

[CathrynRose]

This was on the DIS before.. Just so you know..

Was it? I didn't know. Sorry.

Don't tell me it was closed... I'll be on a roll, today.

 

[C.Ann]

Was it? I didn't know. Sorry.

Don't tell me it was closed... I'll be on a roll, today.

I don't think so.. I posted - and then I don't think I ever looked back again.. (I do that a lot - LOL..)

You've been getting threads closed? Hmmmmmm....

 

[CathrynRose]

I don't think so.. I posted - and then I don't think I ever looked back again.. (I do that a lot - LOL..)

You've been getting threads closed? Hmmmmmm....

No, no - I meant my man bits link, and had this thread been closed, and I reopened another one... that would have been my "roll".

 

[C.Ann]

No, no - I meant my man bits link, and had this thread been closed, and I reopened another one... that would have been my "roll".

Gotcha!

 

[LukenDC]

This case was all over the news when I was at WDW in September. I sympathize with the parent, although he should not have stormed on to the school bus.

One of these days a parent is going to take matters into their own hands and assault or kill the bullies who torment their kids. With the suicides that have occured among victims of bullying, I'm surprised that has not happened already. Let me be clear: I am not advocating violence to deal with bullying or revenge against bullies.

 

[CathrynRose]

This case was all over the news when I was at WDW in September. I sympathize with the parent, although he should not have stormed on to the school bus.

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Ahhhhh - makes sense. I was in WDW in September, too - which is probably why I missed it here. And I only watch the "Blue Channel" with the fun music. Sorry about that.


And I agree with you Luke. I'm not saying I'm advocating for someone to go out and kill a child that bullied another child - but you see how mad this parent is. What if the next one does more than just yell? You're right.

 

[elizke]

I saw the Dr. Phil show on it, and as much as I understand too well dad's frustration (see my post here ... http://www.disboards.com/showpost.php?p=38933119&postcount=21 ) I just think it was very much the wrong thing to do. He was out of control and I tell ya, if one kid had smarted off in that moment, hero dad would be in jail for a long time. We've got to find a way to band together and scare these kids in a different way.

But I do understand his frustration and feel the same way as he does. I don't buy that bullying has not gotten worse. We live in a nice suburban area that has gone to heck with the housing crisis and district cuts, and it HAS gotten much worse. It is not new, but no one can tell me there are not more kids who feel comfortable with being viscous and defying authority. My daughter comes across about 25 different kids in her day at school, most of whom don't even know each other, who are doing this.

 

[luvsJack]

Like someone said, kids aren't afraid of much anymore. Its really sad. Kids think they can do or say anything and that no one can do anything.

Too many have no sympathy/empathy for others. Its really, really sad.

I would have to say though that there is no reason why the bus driver should not have been aware of what was going on or at least some of it and if not stopped it, reported it.

Another example of why there needs to be a second adult on a school bus to help with behavior control.

 

[MM27]

All the kids did was laugh at him as he got off of the bus. Some kids aren't scared of much anymore are they? And some don't have much respect. Or consideration for other kids, although there have always been children like that. It's heartbreaking for the children who are teased and bullied.

There are many kids that have no respect and aren't scared of anything because their parents have no respect and treat other adults like trash. I can't tell you the number of times I've called a parent about a child being disrespectful or talking back in school and the parent is just as bad as the kid. Apple doesn't fall far from the tree. Instead of being shocked by their child's poor behavior, they make excuses and try to find blame everywhere but with their child.

Now, as far as the father on the bus, I understand that he was angry at the moment and he snapped, but I don't think that was the best way to handle the problem.