Cussing/swearing

[tinkerlisa]

I heard my 6 year old mutter the "s" word the other day. I explained to him that its not polite to say those words. He has not said it around me since.
I asked him where he hears this from and he said school He told me all the kids swear at recess! I also feel that he hears it from my sister and brother who have very bad potty mouths! I try to limit his exposure to them because I can't change who they are but I can change my children from seeing them too much. You have to limit their exposure to swearing.

I can remember saying the "s" word once when I was my sons age. i was with my cousin and he went and told on me and his mom(my aunt) washed my mouth out with Palmolive dish soap! I have never and will never used this on my dishes because I remember that memory

 

[Tiger926]

How does that make you feel that your child is good for his teacher and not you? The fact that he CAN be good is a good thing. He is good at school because he trusts his teacher will do what she says 100% and he doesn't want the repercussions HE know SHE will dole out if he acts up. YOu can have this too from your son that's the good news, obvious he needs more motivation to stop being disrespectful of you, find that motivation and use it!!!

This comment may be taken as very disrespectful or hurtful in this context - I understand that you are trying to help, but these kinds of comments are not helpful. I am a teacher and I can tell you that there are many reasons why kids might be better at school than at home - environment and different consequences as you mentioned, but the biggest reason why kids are different at home is that it is their home. Many parents nag and harp on kids constantly and so when they come to school, it is a different world for some of them. They are able to shine and they do so because they are being more respected than at home perhaps, peer pressure, etc. Kids will act differently in their environments as opposed to other environments for many reasons - implying that somehow the parent is wrong is not necessary! Some teachers are very wishy washy and there are no consequences, yet the kids are more well behaved then at home, why? Because that's the nature of kids - why do you think tutoring is such a brisk business? Parents for the most part are not good teachers/tutors for their kids and again there are many reasons for it: environment, kids respond to a different person, etc.

My child acts differently at times at home than she does at school and I'm a teacher, for goodness sakes! Kids are perfect all day at school, and so when they come home, they sometimes let those energies out in undesirable ways. Testing the limits is normal at this age, but how you deal with it makes all the difference.

Good luck to the OP and others in the same boat, Tiger

 

[Nie0214]

I have heard the suggestion that you can use Listerine to wash out "dirty" mouths. I thought this was a brilliant idea and am holding it in reserve.
I know that as an adult, it tastes pretty awful, I bet kids would HATE it!!

When I was in Kindergarten, my parents lived with friends during a hard time. The friends had kids that were 10/12. They weren't the most behaved children to say the least, and were often allowed to swear etc. The first time I repeated a word they said (I can't even remember which one it was, I had no clue what it meant), I got soap in my mouth. I don't remember many things from when I was that young, but I do remember that incident.

This comment may be taken as very disrespectful or hurtful in this context - I understand that you are trying to help, but these kinds of comments are not helpful. I am a teacher and I can tell you that there are many reasons why kids might be better at school than at home - environment and different consequences as you mentioned, but the biggest reason why kids are different at home is that it is their home.

I would think that there's also the aspect that getting "in trouble" in the classroom could mean public embarassment in front of classmates. Some kids do thrive on that though, others wouldn't want to be singled out in front of others.