Creepy roommate

ashleybea

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So I was talking to my cousin today. I'll call her Sam. She is a freshman and so far has been liking school. Sam has a friend at college that she has known since 1st grade. So next semester they want to room together. This didn't sit well with Sam's current roommate Kim. She yelled at Sam and said that she is taking away all of her friends.
The more I hear about Kim, the more I believe my cousin needs to get away from Kim. Apparently Kim follows Sam everywhere. She also constantly texts her asking where she is. Another example, this past weekend Sam had her boyfriend over. They were going out for a walk and Kim asked if she could go along because she was bored. I find that creepy to invite yourself on a romantic stroll.
I told my cousin to try and distance her self from her. Do you have any more advice I could give her.
Also if you want share any weird roommate stories you have :)
 
Tell her not to watch the movie Single White Female :lmao:

Seriously though...I think she should talk to the resident assistant or floor mom (whatever they have in her dorm), explain the situation and perhaps they can offer the roomate some services, clubs to join, community service groups etc.
 
That sounds like the roommate that I had! She had a boyfriend 'back home.' Each weekend either he or her mom would drive to pick up roomie. Roomie had a car, but it never moved all semester. Roomie would leave the room for classes, but that was it. Once a week we went to Taco Mayo and Wal-Mart together (with me driving, of course). I practically lived at the BSU (now BCM) across the street from the dorm just b/c I couldn't stand to be in the room with her. She would ask me to clean on the weekends (sweep/mop mainly), and then would critique how I did it when she returned on Sunday night.

I only survived one semester before my parents agreed to pay for a private room. :rotfl: Roomie stayed at school the next semester (in our old room, alone) and still rarely left the room. She quit at the end of that year & I don't think she ever finished her schooling.

Oh yeah...one other thing...she had a sister that died as a very young infant. (I think roomie was only 5 or so at the time.) She talked about her frequently, and when I went to meet the roomie at her parents house (before school began), we visited the cemetery to see the grave. :scared1:
 
Just be nice & leave her on a good note because school is almost over.

My dd cannot WAIT to get out of the dorms. Next yr she is going to be living in the sorority house. Can't wait for those complaints.....:rotfl:
 

We were three people living in a 4 bedroom apartment. Leases were done on an individual basis, so if the apartment wasn;t "full" (i.e 4 people), then you didn't have to pay any extra in rent to make up for not having a 4th.

Well, this one particular year, the apartment management decided to crack down and REQUIRE that eveyone had 4 in their apartment or everyone would have to make up the 4th person's rent. At the beginning of the school year, we didn't have 4, but we didn't get charged.

A few months later, our apt manger came around and asked if we would possibly be interested in having a girl who live don the other side of the complex live with us, as her roommates were treating her horribly. of course, we were granted the right to interview her and we could say no, but we didn't see any outward signs of craziness, so we said yes.

Things were good until the Spring.

First of all, said roommate slept in everyday. She planned her classes around an afternoon and evening schedule (as she said she was a night owl, no problem with that), but by the time Spring rolled around, the gorgeous days got to her and after most everyone else came home from classes in the afternoon, instead of going to class she wanted to hang out and play.

Second. By mid-term she was, of ocurse, failing, and decided to buck it up and go to class. Only, her first class was at 3 p.m. all the way on the other side of campus (we lived in one of the first offical "off campus" complexes for on campus parking purposes). She often waited until me or my other roommate arrived home at 2:45 and ask for a ride. Well, after this went on for awhile, we grew tired of it. She'd wake up and shower at two, but never made any apptempt to leave the apartment and WALK. She'd sit there and wait until one of us came home to drive her. My other roommate and I started finding other things to do to avoid comming home when our classes ended. On days we didn;t come home, she didn't go to class. Then, she had the audactiy to go off on us for her failing and not attending class. Then she started asking some friends of ours who lived upstairs for rides. They started pretending they weren't home when she knocked on the door.

One afternoon I came home forgetting that sh would beg me for a ride. When I heard her coming out of her room, I ran into mine that had a shared bathroom with my boyfriend (no husband). I ran through to his room and shut the door and locked it, and started running the tub, as though I was takign a bath. I also turned on my stero in my room so that she'd think I was bathing. I realized I forgot to lock my door, so I hid in my closet. Yes, she came into my bedroom and knocked on the bathroom door. I wonder why did didn't think I had drowned when I didn't answer.

Yes, I avoid confrontation.

Then, one day we were hanging out in the apartment and she ate some strawberries and started having an allergic reaction. Her response, "Well sometimes this happens." Ummmm :confused: So I took her over to the health center when she felt as though her throat was closing up. They gave her a shot and observed her for a bit. Later when I took her home, I said somethign about avoiding strawberrries from now on, and she told me she was still gonna eat them, espically on days she had a test. I guess so she could basically come close to death and have the note from the health center to get her out of things.

Then, one night, we had our neighbors over for card games/games and drinking. We weren't crazy partiers or anything, we just had over our friends (the 4 girls -- well three from upsatirs). So we're playing Monopoly when crazy roommate has to pay anothe rplayer rent for landing on his property. The other player demands that she follow the rules and she said no. Other player told her to follow the rules. Crazy roommates upsets the game display by pitching it off the table, and a shouting match breaks out. Now the other player, was our rommate, a guy, but he usually was pretty easy going. She's standing over him (she was 4'9") as he sat in the chair and yelling at him and going off. I swear her face looked like the joker. Roommate stands up (he's 6'4" and about a buck twenty drippign wet), but he was standing up to leave the situation. She FREAKS out and runs intot he kitchen and grabs the biggest knife we have and says "You wanna come after me." He stands there, blinking, when she has entered the living room by this time and LUNGES at hime with the knife. He reacts by simply sticking his arm out, and grabbing her near the base of her neck and pushes her up onto the couch and walks away. It was literally seconds. She satnding up there going off on him and spewing spit like the Exerocist. Finally, she realizes what she has done and breaks down into tears. Other rommate was in his room, lying on his bed, watching TV at this point.

A week later, not by our choice, but hers (and her father's) after he called and we told him what had happened, she left school.
 
Sometimes you'll get freshmen who are not good at making friends. If they have a roommate that is more social, they shadow them so they have a social group 'by proxy'. The downside is when the more social roommate moves on and wants to live with their friends, the non-social one does get left behind.

At this stage in the year, the damage is already done. No matter what your daughter does, her roommate will be mad that she is being 'dumped'. I suspect what happened (I went through it in school) is that your daughter was 'being nice' at the start of the year and including the roommate -- and the roommate just never made the effort to meet people on her own.

Your daughter should DEFINITELY speak to an RA about the kinda 'creepy' comments by the roommate. They need to know about that sort of thing. If it makes her too uncomfortable to where she doesn't feel safe, she needs to have a 'record' of 'concern' with the RA or housing manager for the dorm/complex.

I ended up getting so freaked out by my roommate, I switched to another room midway through the semester. Before I was allowed to do that, I ended up sleeping on a friend's floor in another dorm because my roomie was just TOO weird and scary.

Other than speaking to an RA, your daughter would be best to try to keep the peace, but if the roomie gives her grief about rooming with someone else next year, she should just say that she is no longer comfortable in this room and wants to live with someone else.

Good luck!
 
My first roommate used to lend my clothes out to other people. Even though I told her not too, I would see other girls riding around campus on my bike, wearing my clothes. Then one day she wore my dirty underwear:scared1: (and apparently had been doing that for awhile.) After that i put a lock on both my bike and my closet. She flunked out at the end of the semester and that was the end of her.
 
It sounds to me that the roomate does not have a lot of friends and does not want to end up being lonely at school so she is clinging to your cousin. I can understand why she wold be upset that your cousin wants to change roomates. I am somebody who believes that talking to the person and directly addressing the problem is best. I think your cousin should sit down with her roomie and tell her how she feels and she what the roomie says.
 
My very first roommate in college was horrible; I believe she left after one semester (I've blocked it). She would invite her boyfriend over for sweet, sweet love in our room while I was sleeping. Yes, it woke me up. She stopped after I turned on the light one night.

I had strange roommates when I first moved to New York and had to share apartments. Jill saved garbage and slept on a lawn chair. Of course, Jill never allowed us in her room and as I recall we opened her door because we hadn't seen her in days. I remember Jill's father gave us his phone number in case of an emergency. We called him and he said "She needs to go back to the hospital." (?) He came and got her and we never saw her again. In retrospect, it was sad.

I also lived with a complete psycho who accused me of stealing her raw broccoli and tuna fish; she swore my broccoli was identical to the one she was missing. She also accused me of hiding a person in my room who split my rent with me. The landlord eventually evicted her because she refused to pay rent (I guess she thought me and my imaginery friend could cover it.)

It was a happy day when I bought my own co-op. No roommates since!
 
My first year of college, I had three roommates. The first one got pregnant with her sister's boyfriend, tore her knee up, left for surgery and never came back.

The second one borrowed my clothes, stole money from me, and got pregnant. She had some real serious issues and her mom made her leave school to get help.

By the time the third one came, I had a serious birth control talk with her and she ended up getting pregnant - seriously! She had the baby, married the daddy, and lived happily ever after.

After that year, I gave up on roommates. Too much drama!
 
This reminds me that my freshman year I, too, had a rommate who got pregnant and left school. I'd look her up, but she has one of he most common names in the world, plus it's been about 16 years.....

She worked on the weekends back home as a civillian on an Army base, about an hour and a half away from our school (conicidentally where I live now). She met a soilder, and well you know....only how she found out she was pregnant was truly horrible. She had acne and was seeing a dermatologist. She had some bloodwork done and either the dermatologist called her or called her parents with the results of the bloodwork and well....

All I remember is her taking the phone call one afternoon, bursting into tears, and then running upsatirs to pack a bag. That was on a Thursday. I assumed she would be back on Monday, but Monday came and went. She came back a week later (the following weekend) after she left with her parents to pack up her stuff and move out.

I felt so bad for her. She wasn't a crazy roommate, and I liked her. I never know how things turned out with her, and who knows how thngs went with the guy, because she had just met him when it all happened.
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My sophomore year we rescuded our next door neighboor from her crazy roommates (they used to wash their dishes in bleach). They were seniors and treated her like a kid. Although she wasn't a crazy rommate and still remians a friend of mine, she had NUTTY rommates.

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Junior year was crazy knife girl.

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Snior year was normal....with the exception of my rommate M (we are still friends), but she chain smoked (in her room though so all was good), wrote vampire fan fic, was a huge Brad Pitt/Interview with a Vampire fam, kept a mini fridge in her room, but chugged down warm Cokes. I still tease her about that.
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After all of that, I changed my major and spent another three years in school, but my boyfriend and I (now husband) moved to a two bedroom apartment outside of town (in the country we considered it) and lived happily.

We then moved on to the experience of crazy neghbors.
 
I had a crazy roommate once.

I skipped two classes one semester and she CALLED MY MOM AND TOLD HER! :mad: Can you believe that?!

One day she got mad at me for something, can't remember what now and she took her hairbrush and hit me hard on the back of my head as I was walking away. When I turned and said, "I can't believe you just hit me," she said, "I didn't hit you, my hairbrush did." Freak.
 
That sounds like the roommate that I had! She had a boyfriend 'back home.' Each weekend either he or her mom would drive to pick up roomie. Roomie had a car, but it never moved all semester. Roomie would leave the room for classes, but that was it. Once a week we went to Taco Mayo and Wal-Mart together (with me driving, of course). I practically lived at the BSU (now BCM) across the street from the dorm just b/c I couldn't stand to be in the room with her. She would ask me to clean on the weekends (sweep/mop mainly), and then would critique how I did it when she returned on Sunday night.

I only survived one semester before my parents agreed to pay for a private room. :rotfl: Roomie stayed at school the next semester (in our old room, alone) and still rarely left the room. She quit at the end of that year & I don't think she ever finished her schooling.

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Did we have the same roommate ? It there was about an hour and a half a week when I had the room to myself. She never left except to go to class and spent endless hours on the phone with her BF. I was always escaping to other peoples rooms to get away from her.
 
Thanks for the advice and the stories. They are really interesting. It's crazy that people can act like that.
Any way, I have been talking to my cousin since I posted this thread and telling her what some of you have said. She doesn't want to contact the RA. I really think she should. But she does not want to start any more trouble since it's really hard to move out of dorms at her school.
Apparently the roommate is talking to her again and went to breakfast and lunch with her. She wasn't invited but came along anyway. I figure she is talking to her again because she has no one else. My cousin has a club and a night class tonight so luckily she'll be out of the room for a couple hours.
 
My creepy roomie story isn't a college story and I'm still friends with the girl but she's got some issues for sure. She's the kind of girl who doesn't really have many friends especially female friends, and I never knew this until I lived with her but she has horrible self esteem, and she fixes this by getting attention from men when she's intoxicated. She also gets it from making other females look bad in front of males. She's also jealous of me, and doesn't like that I have other friends. It took me forever to figure that out because she's much thinner than me, younger, smarter, etc so that's why it took me so long to figure that out.

Anywho, one night I had a party at our place with a bunch of my friends and her. I used to try to introduce her to my friends so she could be included with the things we do, and have more friends. I now realize this isn't what she wants so I stopped doing it. So at this party everyone is drinking and having a good time, she gets drunk, no biggie, a lot of us do but there is this attractive male friend of mine that's talking to her in the kitchen while the rest of us are out on my back porch or in the living room. People are going in and out of my kitchen to get drinks and food plus my place is really small so you can hear everything that's going on.

My ex-roomie starts saying very loudly to me, right in front of him and all my friends, "buddy, why won't he do it with me?" (although not in those words, in a much, much cruder way) and "he keeps talking about his girlfriend but tell him I don't care, I just want to do it with him". This goes on for the longest time. All of my friends are either bewildered or disgusted but the guy is being nice, and just trying to change the subject with her, and not be mean to her. Finally I get her to pass out in her room and one of my friends is looking up something in my room on my computer, she comes outside and she's like dude I don't know what's going on but your roomie just came into your room and went into your closet, shut the door and started undressing.

I was like WHAT?! And my other friends were like I bet she's in there peeing!! I was like no way! So I went into my room and yep she was crouched down in there with her pants down. I helped her put her pants back up and took her back to her room and went back to my closet and there was a giant puddle of urine on my floor. :scared1:

I've never talked to her about it, she was moving out that month anyway. And like I said we are still friends but to this day I think what she did was on purpose. My room is further away than the bathroom and come on, I just don't think that was an accident.
 
My creepy roomie story isn't a college story and I'm still friends with the girl but she's got some issues for sure. She's the kind of girl who doesn't really have many friends especially female friends, and I never knew this until I lived with her but she has horrible self esteem, and she fixes this by getting attention from men when she's intoxicated. She also gets it from making other females look bad in front of males. She's also jealous of me, and doesn't like that I have other friends. It took me forever to figure that out because she's much thinner than me, younger, smarter, etc so that's why it took me so long to figure that out.

Anywho, one night I had a party at our place with a bunch of my friends and her. I used to try to introduce her to my friends so she could be included with the things we do, and have more friends. I now realize this isn't what she wants so I stopped doing it. So at this party everyone is drinking and having a good time, she gets drunk, no biggie, a lot of us do but there is this attractive male friend of mine that's talking to her in the kitchen while the rest of us are out on my back porch or in the living room. People are going in and out of my kitchen to get drinks and food plus my place is really small so you can hear everything that's going on.

My ex-roomie starts saying very loudly to me, right in front of him and all my friends, "buddy, why won't he do it with me?" (although not in those words, in a much, much cruder way) and "he keeps talking about his girlfriend but tell him I don't care, I just want to do it with him". This goes on for the longest time. All of my friends are either bewildered or disgusted but the guy is being nice, and just trying to change the subject with her, and not be mean to her. Finally I get her to pass out in her room and one of my friends is looking up something in my room on my computer, she comes outside and she's like dude I don't know what's going on but your roomie just came into your room and went into your closet, shut the door and started undressing.

I was like WHAT?! And my other friends were like I bet she's in their peeing!! I was like no way! So I went into my room and yep she was crouched down in there with her pants down. I helped her put her pants back up and took her back to her room and went back to my closet and there was a giant puddle of urine on my floor. :scared1:

I've never talked to her about it, she was moving out that month anyway. And like I said we are still friends but to this day I think what she did was on purpose. My room is further away than the bathroom and come on, I just don't think that was an accident.

LOL One time my brother's roommate was drunk and they were in their dorm room. He got off his bed, walked over to my brother's stereo cabinet, opened the glass door, and started peeing on his stereo!
 
My first year of college, I had three roommates. The first one got pregnant with her sister's boyfriend, tore her knee up, left for surgery and never came back.

The second one borrowed my clothes, stole money from me, and got pregnant. She had some real serious issues and her mom made her leave school to get help.

By the time the third one came, I had a serious birth control talk with her and she ended up getting pregnant - seriously! She had the baby, married the daddy, and lived happily ever after.

After that year, I gave up on roommates. Too much drama!

Wow I was going to say some of these posts would make a good TV movie, but you actually have an entire Trilogy. Lord of the Roomates. ;)
 
They were going out for a walk and Kim asked if she could go along because she was bored. I find that creepy to invite yourself on a romantic stroll.
Those two sentences are in disagreement. She clearly didn't invite herself along if she asked if she could come.

Honestly, your post doesn't seem to describe a 'creepy' roommate. It seems to describe a fairly normal college freshman who is perhaps a bit shy and therefore hasn't yet made many college friends. Getting the news that one of the few people who she considers a friend is moving out on her is probably very disconcerting for her.
 


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