Could you guys help me with something? (Relationships Advice/Prom)

[disneyworldluvr349]

I am debating on whether or not to ask the guy I like to prom.
First step is finding out if he likes me romantically (we're pretty close friends) but I really don't know how to tell if someone likes me... Do you guys notice any signs from guys (or girls) that like you?
Second step is either getting him to ask me to prom, or asking him to prom... Is it acceptable to ask a guy to prom? And how do I hint that I want to go with him?

Thanks in advance for any replies!

 

[snugwug]

I am debating on whether or not to ask the guy I like to prom.
First step is finding out if he likes me romantically (we're pretty close friends) but I really don't know how to tell if someone likes me... Do you guys notice any signs from guys (or girls) that like you?
Second step is either getting him to ask me to prom, or asking him to prom... Is it acceptable to ask a guy to prom? And how do I hint that I want to go with him?

Thanks in advance for any replies!

I will answer the 2nd part first because to me that part of the question is easy. I think it is perfectly fine for a gal to ask a guy to a prom/dance. As for hinting I wouldn't be too subtle. Just go up to him and say I know we are friends would you like to take me to the prom.

The first part is much harder as I have struggled with this before myself. It is hard to read into any person even the closest people in your life let alone a guy. =) But does it really matter if you go as friends or as a romantic couple? If you go as friends the pressure won't be as bad and you never know it may lead to seeing that you are really into each other that way. Either way hope this helps a smidge and good luck.

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

I will answer the 2nd part first because to me that part of the question is easy. I think it is perfectly fine for a gal to ask a guy to a prom/dance. As for hinting I wouldn't be too subtle. Just go up to him and say I know we are friends would you like to take me to the prom.

The first part is much harder as I have struggled with this before myself. It is hard to read into any person even the closest people in your life let alone a guy. =) But does it really matter if you go as friends or as a romantic couple? If you go as friends the pressure won't be as bad and you never know it may lead to seeing that you are really into each other that way. Either way hope this helps a smidge and good luck.

It doesn't really matter if we go as friends or as a couple, but I would like to let him know how I feel about him before the end of the year, hopefully then we could begin a relationship over summer... but that's just wishful thinking.

 

[snugwug]

It doesn't really matter if we go as friends or as a couple, but I would like to let him know how I feel about him before the end of the year, hopefully then we could begin a relationship over summer... but that's just wishful thinking.

I think asking him to the prom would give you a great idea of how he feels. If he doesn't want to go then you move on and not much time was wasted on him. If he says yes then leading up to the prom/at the prom and the remainder of the year you can really start to develop that extra something. I hope it works out for ya.

 

[Sparx]

I'd ask him to go "as friends" or whatever, and see how it feels to be in a date-like atmosphere with him. If you still like him, talk to him about it then.

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

I think asking him to the prom would give you a great idea of how he feels. If he doesn't want to go then you move on and not much time was wasted on him. If he says yes then leading up to the prom/at the prom and the remainder of the year you can really start to develop that extra something. I hope it works out for ya.

That's true. Thanks for your advice!

I'd ask him to go "as friends" or whatever, and see how it feels to be in a date-like atmosphere with him. If you still like him, talk to him about it then.

I was thinking about asking to go as friends as well. Not putting my feelings to far on the line because then he won't know how I feel if he says no. I am just scared of rejection.

 

[LittleMissMusical]

whatever you do don't just blurt out that you like him. ease into it. i had a crush on one of my best guy friends. we where on a class trip and she was one of three other girls i shared a r oom with. we where gossiping one night and asking us all who we liked. we all told her(what fools we were!). later on that weekend we where hanging in a starbucks and all swapping #'s (she isn't too involved in our little group of thespians). as soon as she got his number she started txting him. my friend was smart enough to notice that when she put her phone down he would pick his up. sure enough she was telling him that i liked him and asking him out for me. A) he said he liked me as a friend. and B) i don't want/ need a boyfriend! i'm far too busy and just don't have time(plus it's pretty out-casty 2 have a BF b4 junior year.) all of a sudden things got rly awkward between us. so when she hopped in the shower we looked at her txts (i know, bad of me!) not only did she do it to me but she did it to the other two girls and the guys they liked!!! so we all made up excuses and txted them to the guys this girl had messed around with. things still arn't the same. granted, I didn't tell him but still. just be cautious before you spill your feelings. hope you get to go to prom with him!

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

whatever you do don't just blurt out that you like him. ease into it. i had a crush on one of my best guy friends. we where on a class trip and she was one of three other girls i shared a r oom with. we where gossiping one night and asking us all who we liked. we all told her(what fools we were!). later on that weekend we where hanging in a starbucks and all swapping #'s (she isn't too involved in our little group of thespians). as soon as she got his number she started txting him. my friend was smart enough to notice that when she put her phone down he would pick his up. sure enough she was telling him that i liked him and asking him out for me. A) he said he liked me as a friend. and B) i don't want/ need a boyfriend! i'm far too busy and just don't have time(plus it's pretty out-casty 2 have a BF b4 junior year.) all of a sudden things got rly awkward between us. so when she hopped in the shower we looked at her txts (i know, bad of me!) not only did she do it to me but she did it to the other two girls and the guys they liked!!! so we all made up excuses and txted them to the guys this girl had messed around with. things still arn't the same. granted, I didn't tell him but still. just be cautious before you spill your feelings. hope you get to go to prom with him!

I am so sorry she did that to you! I have had that happen to me before, where a friend will end up telling the guy that you like them, and make everything completely awkward. It was terrible.
I will definitely ease into it, but I also want to be straightforward, and tell him to his face, so I just need to find balance.
And thanks, I hope I do too!

 

[LittleMissMusical]

I am so sorry she did that to you! I have had that happen to me before, where a friend will end up telling the guy that you like them, and make everything completely awkward. It was terrible.
I will definitely ease into it, but I also want to be straightforward, and tell him to his face, so I just need to find balance.
And thanks, I hope I do too!

thanks. good luck! i hope it goes well. no matter what happens remember... it's JUST a boy

 

[snugwug]

Like u said in your last post you have to tell him to his face how you feel. It just doesn't come across the same way as if you tell him over a text or the phone, or even by a friend. You may want to set up a little get together one on one with him(but nothing fancy) and just start talking to him about normal stuff and then gradually ease into the topic and how you feel.

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

thanks. good luck! i hope it goes well. no matter what happens remember... it's JUST a boy

Lol, I know Thanks so much!

Like u said in your last post you have to tell him to his face how you feel. It just doesn't come across the same way as if you tell him over a text or the phone, or even by a friend. You may want to set up a little get together one on one with him(but nothing fancy) and just start talking to him about normal stuff and then gradually ease into the topic and how you feel.

Well we spend a lot of time talking together during Spanish, so maybe when he starts talking to me quietly like he always does, I will ease into the topic...

 

[K-Shong99]

ASK HIM!
BELIEVE ME!
my boyfriend never thought in ten thousand years that i would like him.
he has told me that sooooo many times.
but he took a chance, told me how he felt, and here we are today.
you never know what will happen until you try.
=]

 

[snugwug]

Lol, I know Thanks so much!


Well we spend a lot of time talking together during Spanish, so maybe when he starts talking to me quietly like he always does, I will ease into the topic...

good idea. I know it will work out for ya. =)

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

ASK HIM!
BELIEVE ME!
my boyfriend never thought in ten thousand years that i would like him.
he has told me that sooooo many times.
but he took a chance, told me how he felt, and here we are today.
you never know what will happen until you try.
=]

That's so adorable, congrats!
I think I will tell him. I'd rather no his answer, then go on wondering.