First time back, as toddler is not feeling well as his asthma is acting up, so not much sleep last night.
Just a few responses:
Savings - I guess I'm starting to see the value of having cash savings. It's still confusing to me to have that money sitting around when it can go to pay down house, and knock years off of the mortgage, but you all seem to be saying that it's better to have this cash, and have more years on the mortgage? Maybe I've misunderstood...? We've paid down over $100,000 on our mortgage in 10 years - is this not good? We've had like floating savings account each month for the past couple of years - extra money this month was for vacation, extra bonus money in June paid for son's tuition in full (got 1 month free). I also don't want people to think that because we haven't had a fixed savings account, that we've been blowing the money, as that is not the case at all. We are behind though due to me taking 2 maternity leaves over the past several years, that cost us over $100,000 in my lost salary. We didn't do a good enough job of leaning out our budget, due to serious salary cuts, so we are almost out of that!
Hubby - I feel like I need to defend my husband. I didn't come on here because hubby doesn't know what he is doing. Goodness, no! I came on because we have been constantly re-evaluating the past few years with different scenarios: savings accounts for awhile, extra payments on house, etc. He has many scenarios to go over with me, but being a numbers guy, he understands things differently, so I wanted to get real people examples of how you all do it. Our friends and family all do different financial things, so I wanted to get some different ideas on here, so as to get more background info in order to understand hubby's scenarios. It's hard talking to him about specific things sometimes, and he does admit, that it's harder to deal with our own finances, than him dealing with this clients, because it is personal.
Monthly Budget - We re-did the budget last night, incorporating the new scenario (savings, RESP and RSP), and we still have over $2,000/month in which to pay for vacation (1x per year @ WDW for tix, transportation & food), donations, gifts and misc. This is over and above savings accounts. And our monthly budget includes everything from a $1.00/month magazine subscription to the mortgage, and everything else in between. Every little amount that comes out of our accounts is in our spreadsheet, except for the few things I mentioned above, as they fluctuate each and every year.
Salary - I am a Canadian teacher, and believe me, I don't take any of my job for granted at all, but it is virtually impossible for me to lose my job, so I've been basing things on hubby losing his job, but as mentioned, I could get ill (I would be mostly covered though), but one of our children could get ill, and so this is important to consider. Actual savings would help here. Hubby also is part of employee stock plan, and receives bonuses, so that is also extra money into our budget (a sizeable amount), but we don't count that in the budget as it fluctuates, or, it could go not happen one year.
Thanks to all for your help. I am a planner, but I overplan and overanalyze a lot of the time, and poor hubby, puts different scenarios together, and because he gets great staff perks, he has access to lots of different numbers, rates, etc. These confuse me a bit, as I'm a tad number challenged at times. I do find he has a different way of looking at numbers though, being that he does this all day, so that is where our issues have been, and that is why we are always re-evaluating our finances. But, as I'm learning, what works at one time, but not work at another time.
Thanks so very much to all, Tiger