Confession.

[FredinFL]

If you don't want a person seeing your photos or conversations, why have them as a "friend" because you aren't treating them like one.

 

[brerrabbit]

First my age will show through, and then my attitude will show through. I don't know enough about Facebook (or care) security settings and so forth, but if you go on line to a public site that a for profit organization sets up with somewhat fuzzy rules on security and tell your life story with pictures and blow by blow details of where you are and what you are doing should you really get terribly upset when someone you don't know that well can follow all the details of your life?

Not Facebook but real life. I was at the baseball field one night when a friend intrduced me to a lady that is a Real Estate Agent that lives in my neighborhood. He has to step away for a moment and so I start talking to her and say something about real estate, and where she lives and how long she has lived in the neighborhood. Her eyes get real big and she says "oh my god, what are you a stalker or something?" At that point I explained as politely as I could that I received at least two mailings a week from her at my house with her name and picture on it, have seen her name and picture on billboards, the shopping baskets at Krogers and on billboards. I also told her I took exception with her stalker comment and would tell everyone I know in town (having lived here 18 years and her 5 so I know a few more people) that she was rude, accusing and the last person on earth they should use as a realator. She immediately fell all over herself apoligizing but I said yeah right, and walked away.

I am not slamming the OP or anyone who uses social media, but come on given the lack of security anywhere on the internet do things like this really come as a surprise?

 

[themilesfamily]

Once I noticed my friends list was down by one, and I figured out who it was by looking at my phone before I synced it with my computer. It was my neighbor. What I did to make her delete me is completely a mystery to me. I didn't know her that well, we talked a little bit on the phone and in passing outside. She added me and I accepted, then a couple months later she deleted me. I don't know what her problem is.

Maybe she deleted her account entirely. Perhaps she didn't want to do Facebook anymore and it had nothing to do with you personally.

I started a Facebook account once and decided to pull it. I just figured that the people I wanted to keep in touch with, I was already keeping in touch with by phone, email, etc.

 

[badblackpug]

First my age will show through, and then my attitude will show through. I don't know enough about Facebook (or care) security settings and so forth, but if you go on line to a public site that a for profit organization sets up with somewhat fuzzy rules on security and tell your life story with pictures and blow by blow details of where you are and what you are doing should you really get terribly upset when someone you don't know that well can follow all the details of your life?

Not Facebook but real life. I was at the baseball field one night when a friend intrduced me to a lady that is a Real Estate Agent that lives in my neighborhood. He has to step away for a moment and so I start talking to her and say something about real estate, and where she lives and how long she has lived in the neighborhood. Her eyes get real big and she says "oh my god, what are you a stalker or something?" At that point I explained as politely as I could that I received at least two mailings a week from her at my house with her name and picture on it, have seen her name and picture on billboards, the shopping baskets at Krogers and on billboards. I also told her I took exception with her stalker comment and would tell everyone I know in town (having lived here 18 years and her 5 so I know a few more people) that she was rude, accusing and the last person on earth they should use as a realator. She immediately fell all over herself apoligizing but I said yeah right, and walked away.

I am not slamming the OP or anyone who uses social media, but come on given the lack of security anywhere on the internet do things like this really come as a surprise?

I've got to agree, sorry, if you put it on the internet you need to assume it is out there for public consumption. Any 14 year old with even perfunctory computer knowledge can go around your "privacy" settings.

Take a lesson, any info you put on the internet is public info, it's out there for anyone and everyone to read.

 

[hambirg]

I don't think it's creepy either. What is wrong with reading what people are putting out there?

Most of my "friends" on facebook requested me, so I accepted. They clearly invited me to read what they post. I rarely put stuff out there that everyone can see, though I occasionally respond, like, or message the people I really want to talk to. I fail to see how that makes me creepy?

It sounds to me like some people really need to rework their privacy settings and watch what they are posting if people they haven't invited to read their posts are.

This! I check my facebook and read friend's status updates almost daily, but post only once in awhile. I think you need to revisit your security settings and realize that YOU are the one putting it out there for all to see.

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First my age will show through, and then my attitude will show through. I don't know enough about Facebook (or care) security settings and so forth, but if you go on line to a public site that a for profit organization sets up with somewhat fuzzy rules on security and tell your life story with pictures and blow by blow details of where you are and what you are doing should you really get terribly upset when someone you don't know that well can follow all the details of your life?

 

[linnell]

I decided I only wanted people on my friendlist that I trusted not to rob my house if I posted I was going to Disney or even to the mall. I purged a lot of people from high school and others, but now I feel secure with who I am passing on knowledge of myself with.

 

[luvsJack]

I don't find it creepy at all that someone that I friended actually reads my stuff. Isn't that the purpose of facebook. Then again, I only friend those that I am actually friends with. If I need to set privacy settings for people then I just don't friend them.

MTE! I have friends that rarely post anything but will "like" one of my posts or comment on a picture. I have one friend that is on all the time and has never posted anything, I assume she is playing some of the games But, if I see her on sometimes I send a message. I don't really care whether a friend is looking at my page--that is sort of the reason I have the thing in the first place. If I don't want someone to know it--I don't post it.

 

[Gerberah]

Recently, I have found myself doing just the opposite. I had 9 unanswered friend requests. People that I'm just not close to. Even a friend or two of my tween son had requested me!

I think I have only posted one status update ever. I will occassionally comment or like someone else's posts. Mostly I just use it to keep up with a very few people through the inbox.

Anyway, I decided what the heck? I never post anything and those "creepers" (friends of friends) can see what I'm posting anyway (which is basically nothing)...and I wouldn't dream of putting anything too personal on there, so I just went for it and accepted my tween son's friends, one of his middle school teachers, and some people I haven't talked to since I was a teenager.

And then I laughed because I realized that I now have 3 people on my friends list who had made out with my husband in high school.

 

[horseshowmom]

Maybe she deleted her account entirely. Perhaps she didn't want to do Facebook anymore and it had nothing to do with you personally.

I started a Facebook account once and decided to pull it. I just figured that the people I wanted to keep in touch with, I was already keeping in touch with by phone, email, etc.

It's interesting to read some of these posts. Before I pulled my account, I couldn't have even guessed what the exact number of friends was. The fact that two different people mention seeing their account go down by one answers a question I had. Before deciding to close my account, I had quietly deleted someone as a friend due to some extended family drama that I didn't want to be privy to. They knew immediately (while I thought FB wasn't supposed to let know). Apparently, they probably kept up with their numbers as well.