Compliments?

[nativetxn]

But tc, you're just so <b>darned</b> cute

I find it very difficult to accept a compliment gracefully. I don't find myself in the position of having to accept them very often, so it isn't a problem

SteveH, I'll bet you get complimented on your gorgeous son everyday, he's such a cutie

 

[tc]

[insert little embarrassed smilie here]

 

[meeshi]

Yep, it is extremely hard for me to accept a compliment. Even from dh and we've been married 16 years! Why is that? When someone compliments me I try to play it down but I am trying to make an effort to just accept the compliment and say thank you. But it is so hard!

 

[Steve H.]

Thanks Kath

 

[Princess Michelle]

I must be in the minority because when someone compliments me it makes me feel so good I can't help but put on a huge smile and thank them for making my day! Sometimes I do get embarrassed but it's usually when I'm complimented on something that I don't think I did very well. It still makes me feel good though.

 

[SDAngel101]

For me it depends on who is giving the compliment. For example if it is one of my friends that i hang out with i will say "oh you know it" or something along that lines because they know that i appreciate them complimenting my, but i am just trying to be funny. But if it is like someone i dont know, or a boy i have a crush on, i will just smile and say thanks, i try i cant help saying silly things!!

 

[snoopy]

I can give them with no problem, its receiving them that sends me running. I don't know why, its not really that hard to just say thanks.......

 

[WDWHound]

Originally posted by Princess Michelle
I must be in the minority because when someone compliments me it makes me feel so good I can't help but put on a huge smile and thank them for making my day! Sometimes I do get embarrassed but it's usually when I'm complimented on something that I don't think I did very well. It still makes me feel good though.

I hope someday to get to the point where you are.

Its funny, the main thing I worry about is how people will interpret my response. I worry that even a simple smile and a thank you could be interpreted as either egotistical or (on the opposit extreme), not appreciative enough. Of course the other person is almost never making these judgements, they just want to pay me a complement. (sigh) I need to learn to relax.

TC: Complements about my church singing or preaching (I recently became a lay speaker in the Methodist church) are the hardest for me to respond to. Like you, I firmly beleive that any success I have in that those areas does not come from me, but I still appreciate hearing whether people got something out of a song or sermon. Its tough for me to verbally give the credit to God without coming off as "preachy", so I usually just stick with the smile and thank you.

 

[Diane]

Well, I used to have a lot of trouble when I was younger, especially if it was from a guy. I’d turn beet red and wouldn’t be able to say anything. I may still turn red, but at least now I can thank the person. Although, for some reason, I feel I have to explain about what was complimented (if it’s my nails – ‘they grow like crazy,’ if it’s a blouse – ‘got it at Kauffman’s).

 

[cotye]

I immediately scan for sarcasm though. When I younger, I was picked on at school and I found that some people gave false compliments and later snickered about it. I find it hard when people do say nice things... I get really embarrassed and wonder if there is an ulterior motive. Weird I know. LOL.

 

[browneyes]

That's not weird, Kevin. I'm sorry people were mean to you like that. Mariah would make you feel better though.

I think any discomfort I feel when given a compliment; or any "need" I feel to "discredit" someone's compliment by putting myself down in some way or "beating myself up" is an indication of insecurity within me and an "over-focus" on myself.

I totally agree with the insecurity part of that, Heather. I think that's the whole speal with me and compliments.