Colors and Maids

[allisonswonderland]

Ok - Another disruption. I have 4 bridesmaids, 2 are fair complected (my cousin is one and she never gets in the sun) my favorite color is pink....and I have always wanted to use pink in my wedding. the fair complected ones both kind of freaked when I said I wanted blush bridesmaid gowns, not bad freak but said that will wash me out. Now there is a dress that I liked that is irridescent organza called palimino (which is a cream to taupe underlay that is satin)and the overlay is a pinkish brown bronze color in the organza. I could still use pink flowers but I am not sure they will be happy with that either. I was just feeling frustrated because this is my wedding and I would like a soft muted color preferrably pink! I am getting married at the WP w/ reception at Ariels and I am not all about my dresses matching the decor but I do not want them to clash either, I do not want angry bridesmaids and would be flexible on the style but I really feel like they should not really say much about the color. What do you think? I am blonde I do get a tan and I look good in pink I think they just choose to wear bright colors and I think light colors will look better than they think. I am absolutely against black for my wedding eventhough I could use pink flowers. The problem is that no matter what color I used it would be a soft muted color so I am not sure they will be happy....any sugguestions?

 

[Snow_White]

I'm sorry, but in my opinion, it is YOUR wedding and you should pick the colors that YOU want, not the colors that your bridesmaids want. If you want your color to be pink, then it should DEFINITELY be pink!!!!!! I think it is rude and presumptuous of your cousin to ask you to change your colors because she is worried that she won't look perfect in your wedding pictures. YOU are going to be the star of the pics, not her!! To be honest, I am surprised she put up such a fuss....when I picked my wedding colors, I basically just told everyone what I had chosen (I chose purple, because it's my favorite color!)....I didn't ask "what color will you look best in?", lol. Do what you have to do, but if I were in your shoes, I would definitely go with what YOU want. It's your day!

Jennifer

 

[UnderTheMistletoe]

Three Words:

Air Brush Tan


She can have it done about 48-72 hours before the wedding. Be sure she exfoliated really well and shaves before going in. They will spray her down.. she can't shower, sweat, or be exposed to much water for 6 hours. Rinse off in the shower (excess that got caught on your body hair will rinse off). VIOLA!

It's a tan that's restricted to the top layer of skin. For me, when I want them to last, I am careful not to use a loofah or shave as much as I normally do (but I don't let it get long either!). It looks very natural and the technicians are very good.

Beyond that, it really is your wedding. If that the color you have your heart set on, then I think you should go ahead and make plans to use that color. The only other thing I could think of is to let them choose dresses in the same color family... but I don't know how you feel about the dresse not all matching....

xoxo

 

[allisonswonderland]

Thanks for the sugguestions. I am not crazy about all different colors - I agree the spary tan, I have done that before and my cousin did say that she would tan, I guess that I was just concerned and thought I was being silly about color and I was also concerned that I was being to sensative. You see this wedding has been a nightmare for us.....his family is very vocal and I feel like each time we make a decision that someone is not happy and they tell us. I get frustrated and don't think taht I am a wimp, I would speak up but I feel like it is his family and I do not want even more of a fuss. I have said it before people have not been happy about the hotels we selected ( I thought fine don't get a discount) anything we have done someone is unhappy, the date getting married at disney.....just everything.

 

[UnderTheMistletoe]

I would speak up but I feel like it is his family and I do not want even more of a fuss. I have said it before people have not been happy about the hotels we selected ( I thought fine don't get a discount) anything we have done someone is unhappy, the date getting married at disney.....just everything.

Whose wedding is it anyway?

Unfortunately, when they pay, you give up the power. There's been a few times with us that I've felt like this, too. There are some things you will find (especially as it gets closer) that you won't even object to... you just let it go and know it's easier that way.

In the end, it will all be fine... as long as you marry the man you love, it's all details.
xoxo

 

[allisonswonderland]

HA! The funny thing is that my dad is paying but yet it is HIS fanily who is mouthing, my parents have been good about things. In fact his parents hassles him about giving him the same amount of money they gave his older brother when he got married. It is frustrating, I do like his family don't get me wrong, but it is incredibly frustrating. I want to just say YOU ARE NOT PAYING SO WHY ARE YOU TALKING? Thanks for reminding me, you see his mom always says wedding are about family and I thought, no they are about 2 people who love each other getting married, I could get married to him w/ no one else there....AAAHHHH!!!!! Thanks for the nice words

 

[Snow_White]

Sorry you're going through that, Allison You're defiintely in a tough situation w/ his family, so just do the best that you can. Don't worry about the small details, however I would definitely put your foot down about the color thing if I were you

Jennifer

 

[pixie08]

I think a nice pale pink looks GREAT on fair skin!!!!!! I mean fuschia or something may not...but you are telling me these girls do not own anything pink,soft blue or purple? They can not always wear black???

I say do what makes you happy. I am sure they will look great. I think they are just being a bit difficult. I vote spray tan as well lol!

 

[Laurafoster]

At the end of the day its your wedding, its your big day so its your decision. If they really are that unhappy about it they can go get a spray tan!

 

[WDWAurora]

DH's sister used a VERY pale pink (she was actually upset when it came in because it looked more pale than they had initially ordered) and it looked absolutely fabulous on EVERYBODY. I'm as pale as they get (I'm not kidding-I need makeup that is only sold in Norway, Finland, etc.) and I look fine in pale pink. Seriously, his sister's girls looked amazing in that color, and she had all ranges of skin color.

Just pick the dress, say "This is it" and don't worry about it.

Another thought on this-I had 2 pale bridesmaids and 2 overly tan ones. Make sure when they group your maids for photos that it's not pale on one side, tan on the other!!

 

[allisonswonderland]

I would think think that pale pink would look good on her too, I look good in it and she is my cousin, I am blonde and pale in the winter, I do get dark. My cousin wears red black and brown all of the time the other also wears brown gray and red, but that one does tan....thanks for the feedback!

 

[jlovesee]

Being a very pale person myself I agree pink is not the most flattering color, BUT it is your wedding and if you want it, they should realize that its your wedding and not their fashion show.

I would try to stick with a paler shade though, as it will look better then cotton candy pink in general.


Jennifer

 

[sunkissed212]

Your wedding is YOUR day, not theirs. While I understand your want to make them as happy as possible they need to understand that it's a privilege to be asked to stand up in a wedding, not a right. You are not obligated to make decisions based on what they want. It's your day, you'll only get it once....and you should do things the way you want to. If they're going to get all bent out of shape over it, then maybe they don't deserve to stand up in your wedding. JMO

 

[happylalagirl]

I agree with what everyone else has said. I have 4 bridesmaids and they are each wearing a different color. However, I chose the 4 colors I wanted and I asked whether they had opinions as to which color they would prefer to wear. 2 of them wanted the red dress but one deferred. They said it's my wedding and I have the final say in who wears which color. In the end, we'll all look beautiful and I will be the princess. It's my day, not theirs. They're there for me as my best friends and sister. I am blessed to have them as bridesmaids... and in a way, i guess we're lucky we're paying for our wedding (if you can call that lucky). Whatever decisions we make, are ours and ours alone. I must say, in my financial situation right now, I would much rather have someone to argue over because they're paying and not me. Oh well... Just remember it's your day.

 

[tlbwriter]

Go with the pink! I'm very pale, and I can still wear pink. As long as it's not the same color as their skin, it won't wash them out - go for something with some blue or brown in it. The iridescent fabric you're talking about sounds perfect IMHO.

 

[Chrissie-riel]

The best thing about being a bride in this day and age is that there are no rules!! Whatever the bride wants is the "right" thing to do.

That being said - I'm a pale white girl with red hair and green eyes. I am not a personal fan of pale blush pink. Rosier tones or darker pink tones are a little more forgiving.

Not to throw another color into the arguement, but as a bridal consultant I often suggest a medium sage green color. It really complements everyone's skin tone - almost like a neutral color. It also is a perfect backdrop for whatever flowers you choose. Your flowers just POP off of sage green.

I am planning my VR for next February and will be wearing ivory chiffon over a sage green lining fabric. It will be SOOO beautiful - can't wait!

Good luck and ultimately get what you want - they knew when they agreed to be a bridesmaid that they would be wearing a dress OF YOUR CHOICE! They could have politely declined the bridesmaid offer.

 

[allisonswonderland]

Thanks for the sage tip - I worked in Bridal for 7 years and during that time sage was THE color - that was almost the only color we sold - I dyed so many sage shoes I still know my reciepe for Mori Lee Sage. Needless to say my mom likes that color too, but to me I had enough of it a long time ago. The girls are both blond, like me, I wear all shades of pink, so no red heads...but thanks for all of the advice!

 

[princessblueeyzes]

I am blonde and very pale and I still wear pink. I like the color and I say you should put your foot down and let them know that spray tanning is an option if they think the pink washes their skin tone out.
It's your day and no matter who is paying for the wedding, it should be your choice. It's yours and your Disney Fiance's choice to make what you guys want. Do what makes you both happy.
I too am kind of in the situation where his family wants to tell me how to have and what to do for my wedding. I politely remind them that I have things taken care of and that they don't need to worry about the details, and that if we do end up needing their opinion then we'll ask.

 

[tlbwriter]

I like the color and I say you should put your foot down and let them know that spray tanning is an option if they think the pink washes their skin tone out.
It's your day and no matter who is paying for the wedding, it should be your choice.

Of course, the other side of that coin is that you don't want people to look at your wedding pictures and say "Um, did your bridesmaids party too hard after the rehearsal dinner? They look horrible!" If your preferred shade of pink really doesn't look good on them, I'd try other shades of pink until you find something that does work. There's got to be something out there that will suit all of your tastes.

 

[princessblueeyzes]

Of course, the other side of that coin is that you don't want people to look at your wedding pictures and say "Um, did your bridesmaids party too hard after the rehearsal dinner? They look horrible!"

That is true and funny . I guess my point is that after seeing the gowns on the girls and if you like it on them then that's what you pick. There is all kinds of pinks, so go with the one that you like on them. That's what point I was trying to get across.