College/Highschool Dating

[pansQT]

hey...is anyone here still in highschool and dating someone in college? or in college dating someone still in highschool? how do you get through it? i mean, i kno if it's meant to be it'll work and all that, but in the mean time how do you keep the flame alive? just nervous cause summer's almost over...

 

[CareBear00]

One of the girls on my softball team is. She was a junior and she started dating a senior. Now he's going off to college in a few weeks and she's gonna be a senior. They really care for eachother, so they're going to stay together. but she's told me she's nervous and not seeing him a lot and the parties and girls at college. I feel bad for her, but she's optimistic about the relationship. She said she's planning on driving to his college one weekend in early Sept. and surprising him.

 

[VolleyballQt07]

No. But I'll have that problem next year. Next year my boyfriend will be a freshman in college and I'll be a junior. Luckily he's going to a college 10 minutes from my house. And I get my license in March. So it won't be that big of a deal. Just make sure you talk to him about it before he goes. And have him promise he'll stay true to you and that he won't do anything. Really it's a big trust thing. If you trust him, and he trusts you, it won't be that bad.

 

[pigletgirl]

Alot of times, when one of the partners goes to college/university, they usually end up breaking up because of differences. Plus, I knew alot of freshman guys (in college) were too embarrassed to say that they were dating a girl in high school. Everyone is different though.

 

[Loves Disney]

4 of my friends in college were dating high school students. Not to sound discouraging, but here is how each turned out by the end of the first year.

Friend 1 was dating his girlfriend of 4 years. He went off to college. They got in a huge argument and broke up before the end of the first semester.

Friend 2 was dating his girlfriend of about 2 years. They were very close when he went off to college. They stayed pretty tight for a while. Made it through the first semester flawlessly! They got through winter break and half way through the second semester, they broke up.

Friend 3 is (a'ha! present tense) dating his girlfriend of about 4-5 years. They made it through both semesters of college and are still together going into the second year! Only...he's been terribly unfaithful to her and she is not aware of this.

Friend 4 broke it off with his girlfriend before school started but continued to see her. They had a sort of open relationship. That did not work and they are not together but are still friends.

Friend 1 could not hold the relationship because his girlfriend was cheating on him and vice versa. They both needed to be with each other and since that was not possible, they found comfort in being with someone who could be with them. It's awful, I know...but it's how it happened.

Friend 2 stayed faithful while he was with his girlfriend but she got very jealous whenever he would talk to any girl...even though she'd be just a friend. His girlfriend became extremely worried that the distance would tear them apart. Her worries became too much and reached a level above okay...so they broke up.

Friend 3's situation is similar to Friend 1's situation...only his girlfriend trusted him away at college. She still thinks he's as loyal as they come. It's kind of sad.

Friend 4 is the typical break up before college, casablanca type of thing. They didn't want to separate but they both felt it was for the best.

 

[VolleyballQt07]

Alot of times, when one of the partners goes to college/university, they usually end up breaking up because of differences. Plus, I knew alot of freshman guys (in college) were too embarrassed to say that they were dating a girl in high school. Everyone is different though.

See personally I think that's wrong. If you're truly in love you wouldn't care what people think about who you're dating and what age they are. Like with me and my boyfriend. I'm a sophomore and he's a senior. And so many people have stopped talking to me or thought of me differently. And same has happened for him. But we don't care waht people think.