college girls gone wild

[onelilspark]

For my job, I needed at least a 3.0/4.0 in college.

But back to the OP: It could also be that the girl is just trying to seem "cool."

 

[golfgal]

I remember our old neighbor telling her then junior in college that she DID not want to see her in a Girls Gone Wild video when she was heading out for spring break in Florida one year. Her DD was aghast that her mom watched those videos

 

[princesspiglet]

I had very leniant parents in high school and ended up partying hard in college for almost 4 years. The first year, I failed out and had to beg forgiveness to my dean to be let back in. I was granted another chance and continued to party hard. However, I had to maintain a 3.0 GPA to stay in school -which I did- by the skin of my teeth. I graduated on the 5-year plan with a 3.015 GPA!

When I started my first job- at a very prestigous TV station- they couldn't care less about my grades- they never even asked. I had a degree in Communications, that is all they cared about.

14 years later I am still working in my field and added on one other BA degree and completed my masters degree. I finally grew up once I got out of college and started working. So I didn't "drop out" and I didn't "come to my senses" until after I was done with college.

 

[punkin]

I had very leniant parents in high school and ended up partying hard in college for almost 4 years. The first year, I failed out and had to beg forgiveness to my dean to be let back in. I was granted another chance and continued to party hard. However, I had to maintain a 3.0 GPA to stay in school -which I did- by the skin of my teeth. I graduated on the 5-year plan with a 3.015 GPA!

When I started my first job- at a very prestigous TV station- they couldn't care less about my grades- they never even asked. I had a degree in Communications, that is all they cared about.

14 years later I am still working in my field and added on one other BA degree and completed my masters degree. I finally grew up once I got out of college and started working. So I didn't "drop out" and I didn't "come to my senses" until after I was done with college.

I can't see anyone doing this in a very strenuous academic program, and you really cut it close there. I am glad it worked out for you.

 

[Christine]

My DD just spent this past year at the #4 party college. While she was not a huge drinker, she was out a lot. Too much. Probably every night. If it's not "partying" per se, which I guess by this thread's definition = drinking, it was just hanging out with friends at their room, going to events. It was non-stop go, go, go. She's not a strong student to begin with so this was devastating to her GPA.

There is TONS of "life" going on at the campus. She got very little sleep and classes were not #1 on her priority. So, by my definition, it was a party hard situation. I was not strict on her at home. She went to anywhere she was invited while in high school. I didn't let her stay out all night, she had a curfew and what not, but I don't believe I was a strict parent that caused the partying. It's just what is important to her right now.

What I have found is that many of these kids that went for the year that I know through coworkers and such, have been suspended after a year. Many have not. There is a line and it seems that many kids can do a lot of partying and still manage the school work.

 

[Sparx]

I'm a college student. Most hard partying freshmen that I've seen make it a year. The first semester they completely ruin their gpa and then go on academic probation, which they will break the second semester and eventually drop out.

I really feel bad for your DD though. If she's not into partying it will definitely make for a strained living situation.

And since we're discussing GPAs, I am a scholarship student so I must maintain a 3.0 but I currently have a 3.5 I believe. My grades are important in my field but I plan to go to graduate school after I finish my undergrad, so while they're important in looking for a job they are more important in looking for my next university.

 

[punkin]

I really hope this girl is just all "talk" because my DD is a bit of a caretaker and I am afraid of the dynamics of that.

 

[allison443]

My DD just spent this past year at the #4 party college. While she was not a huge drinker, she was out a lot. Too much. Probably every night. If it's not "partying" per se, which I guess by this thread's definition = drinking, it was just hanging out with friends at their room, going to events. It was non-stop go, go, go. She's not a strong student to begin with so this was devastating to her GPA.

There is TONS of "life" going on at the campus. She got very little sleep and classes were not #1 on her priority. So, by my definition, it was a party hard situation. I was not strict on her at home. She went to anywhere she was invited while in high school. I didn't let her stay out all night, she had a curfew and what not, but I don't believe I was a strict parent that caused the partying. It's just what is important to her right now.

What I have found is that many of these kids that went for the year that I know through coworkers and such, have been suspended after a year. Many have not. There is a line and it seems that many kids can do a lot of partying and still manage the school work.

I think one reason it is a big adjustment for a lot of kids to go from high school to college, is because in high school, my dd attended classes 7:30 to 2:30 with sports practices afterwards and usually games/meets on the weekend. Then they get to college and they have only around 15-16 hours of class a week, some days their classes may start later like 12 or 1 so they think they can stay up late, etc. Now my dd had to work a part time job for her spending money so she had to manage her time, but still I think it is a lot of freedom and it can be a problem getting used to it. Also, in college their friends are always right there, and there are lots of activities...very easy to get distracted, just hang out, etc. (not necessarily the "partying" others are referring to.)

 

[barkley]

I think one reason it is a big adjustment for a lot of kids to go from high school to college, is because in high school, my dd attended classes 7:30 to 2:30 with sports practices afterwards and usually games/meets on the weekend. Then they get to college and they have only around 15-16 hours of class a week, some days their classes may start later like 12 or 1 so they think they can stay up late, etc. Now my dd had to work a part time job for her spending money so she had to manage her time, but still I think it is a lot of freedom and it can be a problem getting used to it. Also, in college their friends are always right there, and there are lots of activities...very easy to get distracted, just hang out, etc. (not necessarily the "partying" others are referring to.)

allot of colleges are also shifting to non friday scheduals as a cost savings measure. this means every weekend is a 3 day weekend for these kids-and let me tell you, the bars and venues are catching on. we used to just see the big ads for the places around our college town talking about friday and saturday nite events-now it's shifted to thursday.

"tgif" has now shifted to "thit", and if your only thursday classes are in the morning that can make for a lots of time to party (used to be the college traffic on the roads was bad on friday p.m. and sunday afternoon, now it's solid from thursday afternoon on).

 

[punkin]

allot of colleges are also shifting to non friday scheduals as a cost savings measure. this means every weekend is a 3 day weekend for these kids-and let me tell you, the bars and venues are catching on. we used to just see the big ads for the places around our college town talking about friday and saturday nite events-now it's shifted to thursday.

"tgif" has now shifted to "thit", and if your only thursday classes are in the morning that can make for a lots of time to party (used to be the college traffic on the roads was bad on friday p.m. and sunday afternoon, now it's solid from thursday afternoon on).

OY!

That's just awful!

 

[minkydog]

This was inspired by golfgal's thread.

My DD is going to college in a few weeks and has been facebooking (is that a word now?) her roommate. They have never met, but as they were chatting it came up that the girl thinks her parents are unnecessarily strict with her and she can't wait to get to college so she can "party hearty".

I figure this will last no more than a semester. At that point she will either come to her senses and stop partying or she will drop out of school. Based on my experience, I feel it will be the latter though my optimistic DD is sure that the girl will grow up once she's away from home.

What do you think based on your experience?

I think both girls will probably do their version of Party-Hearty. FReshman year is the first time that most students have been completely in control of their decisions and they have to find that perfect balance of study and free time. Back in the day, when the drinking age was only 18, I did my fair share of partying, especially on the weekends. I wasn't easy or a "bad girl" but you can bet I stayed out late, dated a LOT, and generally did things that my parents would have been astonished about.

DD17 goes off next fall. I am looking forward to it with a mix of pride and trepidation.

ETA: I was in a very rigorous nursing program. I graduated with a 3.5 GPA and passed the NCLEX on the first go.

 

[chexie]

I'm a college student. Most hard partying freshmen that I've seen make it a year. The first semester they completely ruin their gpa and then go on academic probation, which they will break the second semester and eventually drop out.

I really feel bad for your DD though. If she's not into partying it will definitely make for a strained living situation.

And since we're discussing GPAs, I am a scholarship student so I must maintain a 3.0 but I currently have a 3.5 I believe. My grades are important in my field but I plan to go to graduate school after I finish my undergrad, so while they're important in looking for a job they are more important in looking for my next university.

I'm a College Sophomore, During my freshman year most of the hard partying kids never made it to class. The partying kids that did make it too class just slept through it and ruined their GPA then either got academic probation or kicked out entirely.

In the State of Texas, you are not allowed to drop more than six classes after your initial registration. If you are an undergraduate student at any Texas public community college, four-year college, or university in the fall of 2007 or later, you can’t drop more than six courses during your entire Texas college career. The Partying freshman took advantage of this by breaking this rule puts you on a 1 year probation from being enrolled in college.

On GPA's i may not be a scholarship student like Sparx, but my parents have already laid down the rules. For me I am not allowed to receive a C for any class if I do i have to pay my parents back for the entire class including books which can range from 100-200 dollars since i'm at a community college. Because of this I work hard to keep my grades up, i currently right now have a 3.3 GPA

 

[Toad_Passenger]

allot of colleges are also shifting to non friday scheduals as a cost savings measure. this means every weekend is a 3 day weekend for these kids-and let me tell you, the bars and venues are catching on. we used to just see the big ads for the places around our college town talking about friday and saturday nite events-now it's shifted to thursday.

"tgif" has now shifted to "thit", and if your only thursday classes are in the morning that can make for a lots of time to party (used to be the college traffic on the roads was bad on friday p.m. and sunday afternoon, now it's solid from thursday afternoon on).

To be honest back in the late 90's, when I was in College, Thursday was ALWAYS the party night. "Thirsty Thursday" is what we called it, and usually you just blew off your Friday classes.

Senior year I had everything planned out that both Fall & Spring Semesters I had only Tuesday/Thursday classes. 4 day weekends every week!

 

[sbell111]

I thought this thread was going to be something else.

 

[princesspiglet]

To be honest back in the late 90's, when I was in College, Thursday was ALWAYS the party night. "Thirsty Thursday" is what we called it, and usually you just blew off your Friday classes.

Senior year I had everything planned out that both Fall & Spring Semesters I had only Tuesday/Thursday classes. 4 day weekends every week!

Did we go to the same college??? I went to SRU and we also had Thirsty Thursday! and I graduated in 1996. Thankfully, I planned and had no classes at all on Friday.

To punkin: I don't think Communications was a very rigorous program, especially during my freshman and sophomore years. Jr. and Sr. year it got more difficult, but I never had a problem keeping up my studies along with my partying. I usually partied from Wednesday-Saturday nights and studied on Sunday, Monday and Tuesday nights.

2 years later I completed my second BS in Marketing and 2 years later after that I completed my Masters in Mass Communications and Media.
I really did not stop partying until well into my late 20's when I had finished all my schoolwork and joined the real world.

 

[golfgal]

To be honest back in the late 90's, when I was in College, Thursday was ALWAYS the party night. "Thirsty Thursday" is what we called it, and usually you just blew off your Friday classes.

Senior year I had everything planned out that both Fall & Spring Semesters I had only Tuesday/Thursday classes. 4 day weekends every week!

Thursday was a big bar night when I was in college too.

 

[newddmommie]

I must say in defense of the "party girl", that i did my fair share of partying through college. I was in a sorority and my Dh was in a fraternity so we had a good time. With that said, i also graduated with honors for my BS in Chemical Engineering. Still went out in graduate school and graduated top of my class with my MS in ChemE. Just saying that it can be done and partying doesn't always equal failure.

 

[Christine]

I must say in defense of the "party girl", that i did my fair share of partying through college. I was in a sorority and my Dh was in a fraternity so we had a good time. With that said, i also graduated with honors for my BS in Chemical Engineering. Still went out in graduate school and graduated top of my class with my MS in ChemE. Just saying that it can be done and partying doesn't always equal failure.

You are absolutely correct. One of my daughter's college mates is, by all accounts, and alcoholic. He is spending a lot of time drinking at school. But he's smart as a whip, is in the engineering program, and did not get put on probation. He enjoying the party life and he has the ability to juggle it all.

 

[golfgal]

I must say in defense of the "party girl", that i did my fair share of partying through college. I was in a sorority and my Dh was in a fraternity so we had a good time. With that said, i also graduated with honors for my BS in Chemical Engineering. Still went out in graduate school and graduated top of my class with my MS in ChemE. Just saying that it can be done and partying doesn't always equal failure.

Everyone's tolerance for how much or how little you "party" is going to be different. I know people that hit the bars pretty much every Friday and Saturday, getting pretty drunk both days yet never drank during the week and studied quite hard so they could be free on the weekend. I know others that went out pretty much every night, had a drink and socialized and went back to the dorm and studied. They both had the reputations of being "big partiers" but they also both graduated with 4.0's. Now, I know people that were getting drunk 5 nights out of 7, those were the ones we didn't see back.

For me it was more financial then anything-I paid for 100% of my own schooling and to drop $10 at the bar was a BIG hit to my wallet.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

This was inspired by golfgal's thread.

My DD is going to college in a few weeks and has been facebooking (is that a word now?) her roommate. They have never met, but as they were chatting it came up that the girl thinks her parents are unnecessarily strict with her and she can't wait to get to college so she can "party hearty".

I figure this will last no more than a semester. At that point she will either come to her senses and stop partying or she will drop out of school. Based on my experience, I feel it will be the latter though my optimistic DD is sure that the girl will grow up once she's away from home.

What do you think based on your experience?

My dd finished up freshman yr last yr and her roommate was a straight A student who was president of her floor, joined organizations, got a 24 yo BF and still partied.

Right now she is a PA on the floor and getting free room and board.

My dd's last college did a EXCELLENT job on stressing responsible alcohol consumption to the kids. It did make an impact on the kids.

For the most part, as her college stressed, that most kids party. The key is to plan ahead and schedule your time of when you need to be serious and when you can let loose. In fact they said that this is about the student majority.