Co-Worker issues

[NeverlandClub23]

So, I've been at my job for 7 months and I love it. I don't gossip, I work hard, keep to myself. etc. There's a couple of people (it's a small office, maybe 10-12) that I get along with well. My boss being one of them. One of the other girls (that I get along with) just told me she came in today and one of my other coworkers was crying. She asked her what was wrong and she said she thinks I hate her . Now this lady is in her 40's and has been at this company for a few years. I don't know what I did and I really hate drama. Should I say something to her? Should I just ignore it? I don't hate or love anyone I work with. It's a job. I get along with almost everyone at every job but I don't want to put myself in a position of not getting a raise or losing my job cause I chat or gossip all of the time.

I should also mention this lady that is upset is a huge gossip queen. I've heard her talking about people behind their back constantly and she's the type of personailty that thinks things are funny at other people's expenses. I don't find it amusing so I just keep to myself in my little cubicle (I have enough work to do anyways! ).

Thanks for any advice!

 

[look1angel]

I think if you do decide to approach her you should choose your words wisely since she's likely to go back & repeat the conversation to others.

I would ask her what is was that you did for her to come to that conclusion & that what ever it was , was never your intention to hurt her feelings.

Some people like to be in the limelight at any cost & she certainly sounds the type.

I worked in an office of over 140 people & god forbid if someone could find something wrong with you the whole office got to hear different versions of it. Talk about drama! I finally left before I went postal

And keep in mind also, that possibly no matter what you do this woman may still find fault in you. At that point ...I'd probably take her outside & kick her a** Just kidding These people then need to be ignored. Keep your head held high, continue to do your job & smile.

Good luck

PS
I love your dog!

 

[smfritz03]

I wouldn't even speak to her about what you heard (don't even want to get into the gossip he said/she said). I'd just gradually be nice and make small chit chat w/ her and that would be that! No use stirring the gossip fires and letting her know that someone gossipped to you about her!

 

[happygirl]

I wouldn't say anything to her. You don't this lady to know people are gossiping about her

 

[Stacerita]

I wouldn't say anything to her. Sounds like someone who likes drama. Crying because someone allegedly doesn't like you? Come on. Thats just lame. If you do your job and are friendly with everyone, I wouldn't worry about it. If you go to her to talk about it, you are just feeding her.

 

[HM]

I agree with the majority. Just keep working like you always do. Sounds like you have a level head to me. No need to get caught up in her drama.

 

[JessicaR]

Ugh! She probably decided you hate her cause you aren't playing any of her reindeer games. I say stay away from the crazies.

 

[minniecarousel]

She's a typical drama queen. I wouldn't say anything to her. But, maybe make a little polite chit-chat with her, if the occasion arrises. (you don't want to become fodder for her gossip mill!)

 

[NY Disney fan]

Ditto what everyone else said.

 

[NeverlandClub23]

Thanks everyone for your help and advice! This place is fairly drama free except for her.

look1angel, thanks for the compliment about my dog!

 

[Pakey]

I have an entire staff of women; only 3 are NOT drama queens. As a boss, I'm suggesting you do not talk to her about it. I'm pretty "up" on what is happening with my staff and I have a great deal of respect for those who can manage to stay out of the mud and act like grownups. Talking to her could make the situation worse, especially since you are hearing this gossip second hand. I'm sure your boss understands the dynamics and appreciates that you are staying clear of it.

 

[wall*e2008]

I would not say a word to her. She might have done this just to get you to gossip with her and give her ammunition to use against you later.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

To put it plainly she is trying to manipulate you. Nice little act though. Have to give her an Oscar for her star performance.

She made sure someone saw her so they would report to you and then of course you would give her the attention she deserves, right?

 

[Robinrs]

Unless she is the person who hired you or your superior her issue is NOT your problem.

Unfortunately, lots of people with ISSUEs bring them with them to work. You cannot change it or fix it. Your best bet is to ignore it AND the person who brought you the drama in the first place.

 

[ajk912]

Crying because someone maybe doesn't like you? Seriously? It sounds like a story I would hear from my 8 year old or one of her friends.

I would ignore her. I just can't stand the grade school crap.

 

[BirdLegsRed]

I wouldn't say anything to her either. Like a PP said, its just feeding into her drama.

 

[Disney Doll]

I wouldn't say a word, because she is attempting to draw you in.

I would continue to treat everyone in your office pleasantly, politely and professionally. But don't involve yourself in the drama.

 

[Piglet4Ever]

My advice would be not to say anything to the woman and just keep doing what you are doing. Just say no to the drama.

 

[Darsa]

Huh, she sounds like one of my DD's friends... and she's FOURTEEN. I think you're going to go about it the right way; sounds like you know what's' what.

 

[horseshowmom]

Ohhh, how I hate drama on the job.

I've had two different job situations where the majority of the women spent their time gossiping with each other or on the phone. Because I didn't participate, I wasn't really part of the group. Oddly enough though, they seemed to have a great deal of respect for me and my work ethic (just didn't include me in their group - which worked out just great for me ).

I agree, just let it drop and keep doing your own thing. Be polite and friendly to her as the situation arises, but don't fall into the "junk".