co-worker gift ?

[dreamin_disney]

Hello I work with a female cowork. Her B-day is Next month. We work as a team. She is above me and makes 3x's more than I do. I dont know what for her B-day. Money is kinda tight so I need so advice.

We've worked together for 3 years. We've never gone out to lunch together or met out of work. We share stories about our personal life but never have combined the two.

My B-day is when our office is closed for break so she just happend to ask me when my b-day was and barely found out.

For x-mas we exchange a giftcard to each other for the same amount $20

Do I buy her a gift for her B-day? She's been talking about her b-day a lot. If so how much ?? Do i just get a card for her? Do i get her a card with a $5 giftcard for lunch???

and

She will be getting married at the end of the year. No one from work is invited including me just her close friends and family. Do I get her a wedding gift? If so how much do i need to spend? if a gift then ideas please. They already have everything.

 

[dreamin_disney]

forgot to mention the 1st two years she was on leave during her B-day so I never had to deal with it.

 

[vicki_c]

I don't buy gifts for co-workers, except for 1 person in the past who I was very close to and worked with for 15+ years. And we carpooled together for all that time. And I did things with her outside the office.

Birthday gifts for co-workers are not really "done" in the places I have worked.

I wouldn't buy anything. As for the wedding, I would only do something if the whole office was going in together for a gift.

 

[amy-momofthree]

I wouldn't feel obligated to do anything for her bday. If you feel like you need to acknowledge it, how about picking her up a bagel and coffee, or a cupcake?

As far as the wedding, is she close to anyone else there? Could you all chip in a few bucks And go in on a gift card??

 

[EclecticWAHM]

You don't need to get her anything. A card would be a nice gesture, but there is no need to get birthday gifts for co-workers or wedding gifts for a wedding to which you are not invited.

 

[amy-momofthree]

Whoops posted twice.

 

[Pumbaa_]

A card is sufficient for a co-workers bday. If you want to bring a coofee cake or soething like that, but I wouldn't do more than that

 

[Tina]

In our office, we tend to do breakfast celebrations for co-worker birthdays. I work for a large company, but our division is a group of about 8 people. Often one (or sometimes a group will chip in together) will bring in donuts and bagels on someone's birthday and invite the rest of the group to stop by for a bite and to say happy birthday. Other times, we might go together for a cake in the afternoon. It varies and depends on who's birthday (and what they like). We don't generally exchange gifts.

You may even consider just doing a little light birthday decorating of her desk/office with a birthday balloon and card.

 

[scrapquitler]

Hello I work with a female cowork. Her B-day is Next month. We work as a team. She is above me and makes 3x's more than I do. I dont know what for her B-day. Money is kinda tight so I need so advice.

We've worked together for 3 years. We've never gone out to lunch together or met out of work. We share stories about our personal life but never have combined the two.

My B-day is when our office is closed for break so she just happend to ask me when my b-day was and barely found out.

For x-mas we exchange a giftcard to each other for the same amount $20

Do I buy her a gift for her B-day? She's been talking about her b-day a lot. If so how much ?? Do i just get a card for her? Do i get her a card with a $5 giftcard for lunch???

and

She will be getting married at the end of the year. No one from work is invited including me just her close friends and family. Do I get her a wedding gift? If so how much do i need to spend? if a gift then ideas please. They already have everything.

For a close co-worker's birthday, I'd probably be inclined to do something like bring her a coffee and a bagel with a card on the morning of her birthday, or a cupcake at lunchtime. Something small and simple like that.

IF she's getting married and you aren't invited to the wedding, I would also go with something small and simple. A card and maybe a bottle of wine, or a first christmas together ornament, something like that.

 

[dreamin_disney]

Thanks everyone. She's just been mentioning her B-day a lot so I've been thinking about it . I like the card idea and simple breakfast idea. I'll have to find out if she's dieting at the time or not she goes on and off-lol!

Wedding gift i'm stumpped because she likes nice expensive things. I'll see if anyone at work does a group gift.

I guess b-day I'll go simple because if i do something nice then i'll have to do it every year. In the past I worked with someone but we did stuff out of work like lunch 1-4 times a year. Exchanged b-day and x-mas gifts. We met each others famlies.

Thanks for the advice

 

[MSSANDRA]

I would not start the gift exchange. I would bring a simple breakfast treat and say happy birthday.

 

[cluvsdisney]

I think a card with a treat or simple breakfast is more than enough for her birthday. For the wedding, I would see if the office is going to do something for her as a group. Otherwise, I would get a card and something simple like a picture frame.

 

[MEG&MINNIE]

How about a card signed by your office group and a home-baked bread (blueberry/banana etc.) or coffee cake for sharing with her in the morning !