Classmate asking for a month's worth of notes...?

[angwill]

I probably will just send the professor an email. That seems the safest route.

The main thing I was wondering about isn't really the "guidelines" for my note taking (the only guide lines were above...for those registered, they have to come to class regularly and pay attention to get notes). The thing I'm wondering about is just the right thing to do, regardless of my "note taking" position.

I think asking the professor for her advice is the safest thing to do. I too used to take notes for those with disabilities. Like you said there are guidlines to follow even for the disabled. If they were missing for a month I would first ask the teacher if it is ok to give them the note. She will be the one with the knowledge as to why and can say yes or no without giving out personal information.

HTH

 

[MrsDuck]

I hated this dilemma so much in college. I probably wouldn't give her the notes unless she presents a believable reason.

 

[sam_gordon]

I think asking the professor for her advice is the safest thing to do. I too used to take notes for those with disabilities. Like you said there are guidlines to follow even for the disabled. If they were missing for a month I would first ask the teacher if it is ok to give them the note. She will be the one with the knowledge as to why and can say yes or no without giving out personal information.

HTH

I don't understand the "ask the professor" thing. The OP is actually taking the class. She's not there just to be a note taker (as I understand it). If a professor had to "ok" any sharing of notes...

The note taking job is immaterial to the issue, IMO.

 

[ADisneyQueen]

My dh is a college professor and he would not be happy knowing you gave her a month's worth of notes. If this student has been absent for many days without a valid reason and gets a good grade on the test the prof is going to ask her how this happened. I'm not saying you would get in trouble, but if the profs find out you are giving out that many days of notes to her it won't be good for you when you need a job/grad school reference. You are not a doormat. Don't allow yourself to be treated like one.

 

[LilyWDW]

Based off of what I have read, it sounds like this girl simply did not come to class for an extended period of time and is now expecting the OP to hand over the notes she missed right before the final.

If there had been a special circumstance, things would have been set up earlier on by the student and the professor. If the student was simply skipping or missing for ANY reason but had not contacted the professor to set something up, then it is on the student for not having study material. I would personally NOT hand over my notes to them. They could have been in class and choose not to (or choose not to let anyone know). It is all on them.

 

[Wishing on a star]

I am glad the OP made a choice that she is comfortable with...

I am all for being nice...
But there is a huge difference between being nice and being used/taken/etc.

 

[horseshowmom]

If you're in college, going to class is your job. Failure to go is not anyone else's responsibility nor theirs to rectify. If that's a moral judgment, so be it. The OP has a job to prepare notes for specific people not for someone who just misses a month with no explanation. And yes, I skipped a class or three in my day but I never blew off a month or expected someone else to carry me if I didn't have notes. Geez.

I agree, and as I understood the OP, even if this student were on her list, they wouldn't quailify due to the fact that they had been blowing off class for a month with no documentation.

My dh is a college professor and he would not be happy knowing you gave her a month's worth of notes. If this student has been absent for many days without a valid reason and gets a good grade on the test the prof is going to ask her how this happened. I'm not saying you would get in trouble, but if the profs find out you are giving out that many days of notes to her it won't be good for you when you need a job/grad school reference. You are not a doormat. Don't allow yourself to be treated like one.

I know the OP has already made her decision (and it's her decision to make - no big deal), but this is exactly where I would stand. As the professor, I would be annoyed.

As I said earlier, based on the post the student wouldn't qualify for the notes even if they were on the list. I would have provided the guidelines and told them who to contact to see whether they should be on the list. Providing them with the notes for one class is a nice gesture, being asked for a month's worth is being used and shows a lot of nerve IMHO.

I do what I'm supposed to do and really don't see why others should be enabled in sliding by. Further, I don't really think the OP is doing the student any favors (a month is a long time to be out).

 

[Elmo9607]

I would never have given the notes. You're not helping this girl, you're doing her a HUGE disservice by allowing her to get through this class when she really shouldn't. If she really had a valid reason to miss class, she should have worked something out with the professor.

And as far as someone needing a break? I can understand needing to take a day or two off class to press your reset button, but a month? A MONTH!? I'm sorry, but if you need a month off of class because you got 'overwhelmed' you don't need to be taking classes. Like I said, if it was a legit reason and she was a serious student, she would have either worked something out prior to her absence with either the professor or possibly you. I also agree that the professor is likely expecting her to fail, if she manages to pass she will be asked how she did it and your name could possibly be thrown in the mix.

What's done is done though...let's hope she doesn't ask again. In the future, OP, the notes you take go ONLY to the people who are on the list to receive them. Don't let yourself be a doormat, don't let lazy or aloof students take advantage of you.

 

[VickiVM]

Intersting dilemma. One thing I've learned from my kids (2 currently in HS and one a freshman in college) is that notes will not necessarily help you pass a class. Learning the material should. One of my daughters gets very irritated with one of her HS teachers that mostly gives notes via overhead projector and rarely actually teaches the class...so passing her tests is a struggle for a lot in the class.

 

[castleview]

I'm usually very helpful to anyone in my class, but if they missed that much - I doubt I would be.

BTW, don't they have notes you can buy in college anymore?

 

[jgh]

Maybe I should have maybe I shouldn't have, but I can't take it back now. There's disadvantages to both sides. I never would have thought about it effecting ME though, that's a good thing to bring up...

In the future I won't do this again. I know there are people who both agree and disagree with sending the notes.

As others have said, at this point I'm not even sure if the notes will help as much as some think they might. She didn't actually hear the lectures (no matter how good you are at note taking you can't get everything down...), didn't see the videos in class, other presentations and she may or may not have read the required material. Half of the exam is from the readings, the other half is from lecture. If she hasn't been doing the readings there's pretty much a point of no return...and that's passed. We had atleast 1 article to read per class day (3x/ week) that are on average 20+ pages...

I'm sorry for those that disagree with my sending the notes. I'm still mixed on it, based on replies I've gotten, but nothing can be done now except to learn a lesson from it. In the future I'll stick with the list of people.

 

[DVCLiz]

I'm glad you gave her the notes. It's very unlikely that a prof would be the only person who could give you a recommendation for grad school or a job - you'll have been in the system and probably have several people you could ask. Plus, how lame would it be to say, "No, I wouldn't recommend her because she once gave a classmate notes?" How could you make that sound like a crime serious enough to lose you grad school admittance or a job? Wouldn't the professor just sound like a petty nutcase?

Next semester you'll know to say clearly the first time you are asked, "No, I only take notes for registered students on my disability list." But this time I think you did the right thing

 

[gina2000]

Intersting dilemma. One thing I've learned from my kids (2 currently in HS and one a freshman in college) is that notes will not necessarily help you pass a class. Learning the material should. One of my daughters gets very irritated with one of her HS teachers that mostly gives notes via overhead projector and rarely actually teaches the class...so passing her tests is a struggle for a lot in the class.

This. At my son's university professors routinely post their notes. It means absolutely nothing if you haven't mastered the material and understood how to apply it.