Chivarly?

[JulielovesDisney]

the worst relationships i've ever had have been with men in the military. (mine were) so full of themselves and act like they're doing YOU a favor by being with you. men in uniform need not apply here.

i don't think chivalry is dead, completely. i think it all depends on the man.

ITA. All the men that I've known personally who were in some kind of uniform were jackbutts and thought they owned the world.

I do know there are a lot of good men in uniform, but all the ones I know are pretty crappy.

 

[KidGoofy]

I try to be as much as I can...sometimes I just get into the awkward situations a lot when I try to be.

 

[PurpleDucky]

i personally love it when guys are polite too me when it's needed, it makes me feel respected and loved by my friends and such :

 

[CrazyChik]

Most of the guys around here are actually pretty decent. They hold the door open, they let you get off the bus first they do simple little polite things
Of course there are some top-notch jerks too who spit at you and slam the doors in your face. I don't mind a little bit of arrogance/cockiness/ego but I have lines.
I think some girls could learn about chivalry too

 

[bananda]

i love it. i think it shows respect and reflects positively on the parents. but i like to do things for myself sometimes

 

[wilmabride'sdaughter]

Chivalry is dying in our society. I love a guy who is like that. Full of being polite to girls. Knowing how to treat others with respect and such. You can just tell when they've been brought up right.

I don't think i'm very high maintenance. I mean me and my boyfriend haven't had the chance to go out and do the whole meals thing and stuff, because of certain circumstances . But he's always suggesting it and stuff. He's so sweet to me. He phones me whenever he can, to see if i'm ok. Whenever we're together he holds the door open for me and things like that.


But tbh, it;s not just guys who should be like that. Girls have to learn how to be like that with others too

 

[Axel]

What I love in a guy is when an elderly woman or a woman with a young child that she's holding gets on a bus at Disney (or wherever) and they get up and offer/insist she take their seat. I hate it when there are plenty of good, strong, young, and healthy (especially the 17-24 y.o. crowd) boys (and in some cases girls, if I don't see anybody get up [though my dad usually does and he's 64!] I will) just sit there and do nothing and this poor woman is balancing a kid and a stroller. I love seeing younger guys do that.

All the men in uniform I've known are complete butts. They have all looked down on me like I was less than them for not going into the Army or the Navy or the whatever. Of course, then I ask them what they got on their ASVAB (which most of them have taken). They're always shocked to find out I was only a point off a perfect score.

I like it when couples are comfortable enough around each other to alternate paying for meals and such. That makes me smile.

Chivalry is dying out in the majority of the world. And that's a really sad thing, to me.

 

[BabyPiglet]

Dido, on the military guys. I love them, I can spot them out from miles away(

Same! They don't even have to have the haircut or anything, I just...know.

I don't think it's dead.....it's just....rare.

I think that women hold the door open for me more often than men, and I often hold the door open for men, it's just a common courtesy now, not so much a chivalric thing.

I find chivalry to be something more like....defending your honour type of thing. Like if a guy tries to hit on me, or if someone says something bad about me and by bf defends me, THAT to me is chivalric. Moreso than having him open a car door for me--which I could care less about.

Yes, I agree. Car door? Whatever, I can open it myself.

What I love in a guy is when an elderly woman or a woman with a young child that she's holding gets on a bus at Disney (or wherever) and they get up and offer/insist she take their seat. I hate it when there are plenty of good, strong, young, and healthy (especially the 17-24 y.o. crowd) boys (and in some cases girls, if I don't see anybody get up [though my dad usually does and he's 64!] I will) just sit there and do nothing and this poor woman is balancing a kid and a stroller. I love seeing younger guys do that..

I agree. I was on a bus back to my hotel once, and some teenage guys are laughing and joking around (just being typical teenagers), but when a pregnant woman got on, they were the first to offer up their seats. It gave me hope.

the worst relationships i've ever had have been with men in the military. (mine were) so full of themselves and act like they're doing YOU a favor by being with you. men in uniform need not apply here.

That's sad. I know a lot of guys who are in/have been in the military, and for the most part, they're incredibly sweet and polite.

Of course, my cousin is a total ***, just like he was before he joined the Marines.

 

[♥Ariel♥]

Unfortunately, I also believe chivalry is dying out. Guys are such pigs now-a-days.

I'm going to go southern on ya'll, but it seems, that 'real' southern gentlemen are very chivalrous. They say 'yes ma'am' and 'yes sir'. Although I'm not a huge fan of the accent, the way they act gives me a good feeling.

OH, and that's why I LOVE military guys! They're all about being polite.

i agree! it makes my day when a guy at school or something opens the door for me...its just plain and simple its polite!

 

[♥Ariel♥]

I would love for my man to be chivalrous. But, chivalry is definitely dying in our society, and it makes me sad.

it makes me sad too, i live in the south and its kinda big down here its just more common than up north it seems but i could be wrong

 

[♥Ariel♥]

Chivalry is most definitely not dead, though it is dying out. I see a lot of guys out there (boys mostly) who treat their girlfriends like crap and aren't very respectful to them.

My BF always offers to pay, thought I usually don't let him, and he usually opens doors for me. He's polite to my parents, and to me most of the time (only when we are alone and joking around is when he isn't polite with me..haha)

i usually insist i pay and stuff but the gesture is what matters

 

[cindys_castle2011]

I agree. I was on a bus back to my hotel once, and some teenage guys are laughing and joking around (just being typical teenagers), but when a pregnant woman got on, they were the first to offer up their seats. It gave me hope.

Like this, chivalry isn't only being polite towards your girlfriend or wife. It's about being respectful towards women or people in general. I myself don't think it's dying out. But I am from the south, I think guys down here act differently then guys from the north. I am an independent person, I can open my own door, pull out my own chair, etc. But I find it very respectful if the boy does it for you. It's sweet and like I said before he shows me that this guy was raised right. He was raised knowing that all men should show respect for women no matter what.

 

[SKJA124]

Oh thanks.

I'm not high maintenance at all, but I love seeing my boyfriend doing polite and sweet things like that. It's just respectful towards me. When I see a 'gentleman' the first thing I think of, is that he was definitely raised right.

My boyfriend was the first guy ever to knock on my door when he picked me up, and then walk me back to my door at the end of the night. All the other guy's I've went out with never did that.

We've been dating for 8 months and he still opens doors for me, pulls out my chair, etc.

ditto. i like it when he does stuff like that for me, but I definitely don't require it all the time. Although he has to be polite in front of my parents all of the time. But he's sweet: he pays for dinner [and usually I chip in], he holds chairs, etc. He's joking about it, but it's still sweet nonetheless. <3

 

[BabyPiglet]

Like this, chivalry isn't only being polite towards your girlfriend or wife. It's about being respectful towards women or people in general. I myself don't think it's dying out. But I am from the south, I think guys down here act differently then guys from the north. I am an independent person, I can open my own door, pull out my own chair, etc. But I find it very respectful if the boy does it for you. It's sweet and like I said before he shows me that this guy was raised right. He was raised knowing that all men should show respect for women no matter what.

Exactly! I can open my own door, sure, but I think it's ultra sweet if you offer to open it for me.

But then again, I rarely meet people who don't open the door for me, lol. Be it young, old, man, or woman, people around here just hold open the door for other people. I always do it.

 

[My Wild Love]

haha this thread reminded me of this post secret

I adore considerate guys. I think it shows how thoughtful the guy really is. Things like opening the door and protecting you are sweet. Things like opening the car door or walking me to the door isn't really a big deal.

 

[♥Ariel♥]

Exactly! I can open my own door, sure, but I think it's ultra sweet if you offer to open it for me.

But then again, I rarely meet people who don't open the door for me, lol. Be it young, old, man, or woman, people around here just hold open the door for other people. I always do it.

yeah i am capable of doing it and i will and can do it myslef but the thought is nice

 

[NeverLand<3]

i would way rather have a guy that is polite and sweet than someone that i cannot stay around without hearing a perverted comment every 5 minutes. i have guys like that at my school. i dont really even bother talkin to them. there's other stuff to joke about than that.

 

[My Wild Love]

Exactly! I can open my own door, sure, but I think it's ultra sweet if you offer to open it for me.

But then again, I rarely meet people who don't open the door for me, lol. Be it young, old, man, or woman, people around here just hold open the door for other people. I always do it.

See, to me, opening and and holding doors are two different things. Holding the door is walking out the door and holding it open for the person behind you. Opening the door is walking ahead of the person, and opening the door to allow that person to walk in first.
I view holding the door open as a common courtesy that everyone does. What bothers me about holding open the door is the people that walk right on through without saying thank you.

 

[kjkcool]

I know chivalry isn't dead. A guy I didn't know opened the door for me at the movies the other day.

 

[polysisterchick]

I believe that parents help shape the person. If your parents raise you correctly as a child, I do think there will always be that reminder to hold open the door, walk to the door instead of honking incessantly in the street outside the house, or even just to respect a girl/woman.. because i'm composed of more than just looks and and curves. I do have a brain and personality.

But I mean, I wish there was less in society about being perverted towards women because, honestly, it's not cool or desireable. And by watching movies or listening to some songs, the media sometimes totally degrades chivalry and portrays chivalry as stupid. I don't think it's TOTALLY out there but I would say that it's there.

So while you can still find it, I would agree that it's dying out.