Child support question

[sunnyday123]

It depends on how the company words the firing and if they fight unemployment. DH was fired after 15 yrs with a company because the CEO didn't like him. No other reason. He had great performance reviews. He was let go, got a severance package, and was told they would not contest unemployment if he didn't sue them. Oh, and he worked in NC-- CHarlotte.

Did he happen to work for a very large, American Bank???

 

[golfgal]

Hmmm...he got fired from a job he held for 20 years? Unless it was a layoff, there is a good chance he got himself fired on purpose so he doens't have to pay her child support.

As another poster said, she shouldn't depend on the child support for supporting the kids. WHen and if she gets it, she should use it for extras for the kids, or college fund, or just emergencies. Good luck to her.

I was thinking the same thing.

 

[SC Minnie]

Did he happen to work for a very large, American Bank???

No. He worked for a medium sized privately owned company.

 

[ccgirl]

Regardless of the reason he was fired she needs to be able to support the kids by herself. As others said; what if they were still married and he lost his job? They would have to make it work on one income there. You said she has a great apartment that she will be able to just barely afford. That means it is too expensive to her. Will there be any proceeds from the sale of the house? If so; can she go to court for a bigger split of the proceeds or all? I had a family friend that did that and instead of always having to fight for child support she just took all of the proceeds from the sale of their home and let him walk financially. I grew up in a divorced situation and my mom never saw child support. He always worked under the table so he could afford to live and didn't have to pay. My dad passed away about 10 years ago and she just received a letter that due to his passing she would not receive any back child support. Duh...really????

My mom being able to do that though gave me great work ethic and should anything happen between my DH and myself (lets face it we never think it will but it can), I am able to care for the children financially myself.

Child support is tricky....what if she took a job with less money and brought him to court to pay more because of it - should he have to? This is the reverse...he will be getting less money thru unemployment. Is it right; no.

Hopefully, there will be proceeds from the house. In the meantime see if she can find an apartment that she can comfortably afford and not just barely. Good luck to everyone involved.

 

[Kathi OD]

She is going to have the support go through DOR because he makes a big show in front of the the kids of giving her "so much money" and she hates it. They go to court soon for their court date. She is just freaking out that the court will lower or suspend child support due to his unemployment. He has been with the company for almost 20 years, so he must be getting his vacation time and other stuff paid out to him.... he should put that aside for support. She is paying a mortgage and for everything for the kids while he lives rent free with his new girlfriend. Hopefully she sees what a catch he is and dumps his tush. ANYWAYS, I'm trying to just focus on helping her get what she needs for her kids, and telling her to let karma deal with him. It will.

While the whole situation sucks for your friend, he may not necessarily be getting vacation time or "other stuff" paid out to him. He may have used all his vacation time. Companies don't have to pay out "other stuff" when they fire you.

 

[golfgal]

Regardless of the reason he was fired she needs to be able to support the kids by herself. As others said; what if they were still married and he lost his job? They would have to make it work on one income there. You said she has a great apartment that she will be able to just barely afford. That means it is too expensive to her. Will there be any proceeds from the sale of the house? If so; can she go to court for a bigger split of the proceeds or all? I had a family friend that did that and instead of always having to fight for child support she just took all of the proceeds from the sale of their home and let him walk financially. I grew up in a divorced situation and my mom never saw child support. He always worked under the table so he could afford to live and didn't have to pay. My dad passed away about 10 years ago and she just received a letter that due to his passing she would not receive any back child support. Duh...really????

My mom being able to do that though gave me great work ethic and should anything happen between my DH and myself (lets face it we never think it will but it can), I am able to care for the children financially myself.

Child support is tricky....what if she took a job with less money and brought him to court to pay more because of it - should he have to? This is the reverse...he will be getting less money thru unemployment. Is it right; no.

Hopefully, there will be proceeds from the house. In the meantime see if she can find an apartment that she can comfortably afford and not just barely. Good luck to everyone involved.

Which is what it sounds like she is doing. I would assume that they could have afforded their house on their combined salaries or they wouldn't have the house. She is trying to sell the house but the housing market isn't all that great.

 

[torinsmom]

It really depends on your state whether she would get more money if she had a lower paying job. In NC, they use a calculator based on the combined income of both parents. So if combined income is $100,000, there is a chart that shows how much a married couple with that income would normally spend to support that child or children. The if the dad makes $70,000 of the $100,000, he would be responsible for 70% of the amount in the chart. If he made $30,000, he would be responsible for 30%. You can have your case reviewed once every three years, I believe.

In many states, a certain percentage of the dad's income is taken no matter what the mom's income. In that case, the mom's income going down would not get her more money but his income going down would reduce his CS.

It is very easy to tell someone else that they should not depend on that CS, even if it is a small amount, but it is not so easy to live it, especially if your kids are young and you have childcare bills. I've been a single mom for 12 years and it is really tough. Even if you have only a mortgage or rent, utilities, car payment, groceries, gas and daycare bills, it can add up to more than your income. And you can only get those bills so low. Then you have unexpected expenses come up as well. You will never know unless you have to do it yourself, and I hope you never have to.

Men(and women) who do not help support their kids are just the lowest form of life IMHO. Even if I was flat broke, I would sell plasma, cut grass, recycle cans, whatever it took to care of my child.

 

[X and G's mom]

I live in Wisconsin and just went through this. I received CS from him via UI. The state automatically deducted it from his UI and sent it in.