I don't think it was neglect - but it WAS selfish. And for the dad/spitup story....I think sometime dads can just be clueless....no offense to the dads w/ a clue!!!!
Luckily for us I carry antibacterial wipes!!!!
Now - for poop stories. This is the reason I will NEVER forget DL '08 trip, not that it was my DS's first time..not that it had been 5 yrs for us since the last trip...but bc of the poop story.
DS was not potty trained. He was 3.5. No I am not a bad mom, I just had a child who gave me zero signs of readiness like his sister had given me. So....he was constipated, refused to go. Often he does this, where he'll only go at home. But after THREE days!??? I was getting worried. So i started slipping him tiny bits of apple juice, his natural laxative. A bit in this water, a bit in that water. I didn't want to give him a bunch bc who KNOW what would happen!?!? Well......it happened. We were in the JK & IT happened!!!!
Up the boys back, down his pants into his socks.
We had the ELP coming up & we were at DI&S...I didn't think we had enuf time to get back. So bc I was STUPID I didn't pack extra clothes (NEVER AGAIN!) & we went to World of Disney to buy a $55 outfit for poopy boy, he had to stand in the stroller bc walking AND sitting would have been disasterous. AND had to clean him up in the restroom - I apologized profusely to anyone who walked in & DD was a trooper constantly wetting paper towels for me. ::SIGH:: We got an attendant in there to take out the stinky trash & lysol it down.
It was a moment of PURE frazzled stress. So beware young people w/o kids - sometimes parents want to do whats right.....but occasionally we need to figure out WHAT is RIGHT!!
Sorry my sotry was so long.

OOH! Also feel the need to add DS was miraculously potty trained completely 2 wks after we got home. The DL experience was all I needed as a "readiness" sign.