cheap baby bottles etc.

[fatuhiva]

I forgot to add, I had a friend whose daughter never took a bottle, but she did finally drink breast milk from a sippy cup at 4 months. It was an Avent sippy cup that had a soft spout thing.

 

[fatuhiva]

As far as the shower debate... something I do when necessary is take the baby in the shower with me. i put her on her little tub cot at the far end of the tub, and I pick her up and put her down as necessary so we both get out bath and I don't have to worry that she is out in the other room screaming or missing me. It is actually quite soothing for her.... she completely relaxes in my arms - of course the water isn't spraying at her head or face. this practice may raise some eyebrows here, but I don't really care.

Been there, done that, think it's a great idea. Before they were mobile they were in a bouncy seat right next to the shower. Once they could sit up, they sat in the corner of the shower, out of the spray, happily playing with a few bath toys.

 

[mjkacmom]

Wow! Really? How many children do you have? This is her third. I had 2 in 2 years and there were MANY MANY times that showering in peace was not at option for me. And um.. ok...you think it is a waste of time and energy and you see no need for bottles...but I thought this thread was about someone else needing help..not asking for opinions on the fundamentals of breastfeeding..

Well, I think she just needs a break. However, I had 5 kids in 7 years, and never had a problem getting a shower in after the first. Besides the fact that I got all of them on a regular nap schedule between 2 - 6 months (depending upon the child), I could always leave them in the crib, and shower, and the worst case scenario was they would cry (I always started the shower when they were sleeping, and having lived through the water shortage in the 70's, still take a fast shower).

I understand that having young children is hard, but I never understood why a SAHM couldn't take a shower.

 

[Zeebs]

I didn't breast feed but I find the debate of weather the woman should be able to take a bath without using a bottle or whether there is any reason to give the baby a bottle a bit silly. Why do women insist on judging each others parenting styles?

I know plenty of women who bottle fed exclusively and still had a hard time finding any time for themselves. And I would think that is what this mother wants; not so much "getting clean in a shower" as the time alone to rejuvenate. The ideas of putting the baby in eye sight or in the shower are great in a pinch (and I have done both) but just doesn't give the mom the two minutes of alone time that she probably really needs.

Like I said, I didn't breast feed but when we had babies at the daycare that did, their mom's mostly used the Playtex bottles with the liners. I know she can't run out and buy a whole set of one kind just for it not to work; but I think I would buy one each of two different kinds and then try. It will probably take several times of introducing a certain bottle before the baby adjusts to the nipple. Maybe she could ask her ped for a suggestion too.

Either way she should never, ever feel guilty of needing time away from the baby or for giving the baby a bottle (even if it has that evil formula in it instead of breast milk !). She is human and has needs like everyone else and babies have thrived with bottles of breast milk for years; no reason to think her child will be any different.

I personally don't think anyone was judging, it is just that when someone doesn't express the same opinion it is considered judging.

I also, find expressing more hassle than it is worth, I still have to spend the time doing it, when I could be just feeding the baby and then using hubby to entertain bubs when he is home. While I have my shower/break what ever.

That said I don't give two hoots if someone wants to bottle feed.

But I don't think in most cases it is the bottle that is the problem or the teat it is just the fact it isn't the breast. People say they tried heaps of bottles until they finally found one that the baby would take. Baby most likely got to that last bottle and thought yeah why not I will take the milk I am thirsty enough today, bottle having no bearing on the situation could have been the very first bottle being used again it wouldn't have mattered.

To the OP, your poor friend is probably shattered and with a baby at 2 months they will have been feeding constantly which I think gets even the biggest pro breast feeders down, it will pass........ it just doesn't seem like it when you are in the situation.

If using a bottle is what she wants to do just get her to keep trying, not keep spending money on lots of different bottles.

With regards to the shower, I use to put bubs in the bathroom with me. Heck I have two kids now and another one on the way, I can't remember the last time I had a shower or used the toilet when one or both kids didn't come in and ask something very very important

Kirsten

 

[luvsJack]

I personally don't think anyone was judging, it is just that when someone doesn't express the same opinion it is considered judging.

I also, find expressing more hassle than it is worth, I still have to spend the time doing it, when I could be just feeding the baby and then using hubby to entertain bubs when he is home. While I have my shower/break what ever.

That said I don't give two hoots if someone wants to bottle feed.

But I don't think in most cases it is the bottle that is the problem or the teat it is just the fact it isn't the breast. People say they tried heaps of bottles until they finally found one that the baby would take. Baby most likely got to that last bottle and thought yeah why not I will take the milk I am thirsty enough today, bottle having no bearing on the situation could have been the very first bottle being used again it wouldn't have mattered.

To the OP, your poor friend is probably shattered and with a baby at 2 months they will have been feeding constantly which I think gets even the biggest pro breast feeders down, it will pass........ it just doesn't seem like it when you are in the situation.

If using a bottle is what she wants to do just get her to keep trying, not keep spending money on lots of different bottles.

With regards to the shower, I use to put bubs in the bathroom with me. Heck I have two kids now and another one on the way, I can't remember the last time I had a shower or used the toilet when one or both kids didn't come in and ask something very very important
Kirsten

Tell me about it! (bolded part) My youngest is 11 and she still will come "find" me when I am taking a bath and if not her the dog stands at the door and whines!!

 

[maraki527]

My lo was bf for a few weeks before we started introducing the bottle to her. We use the Avent bottles. They are pretty expensive and I have found them at Discount Drug Mart (dont know if you have one by you) I have also found other brands reasonably priced at Big Lots.

 

[Shmily1]

Tell me about it! (bolded part) My youngest is 11 and she still will come "find" me when I am taking a bath and if not her the dog stands at the door and whines!!

OK now here's the bad news... it never stops!!! DD18 still comes in and just has complete conversations!

 

[ZPT1022]

Tell me about it! (bolded part) My youngest is 11 and she still will come "find" me when I am taking a bath and if not her the dog stands at the door and whines!!

LOL!! On the occasion that I actually grab a book or magazine and get a nice bath, inevitably someone desperately needs something. DH tries to give me my time, he will hear them in there and shout to them to come bug him instead- I think they are just bothered that I might have time alone from them. If I wait til the kids are in bed, one of the cats comes in



OP, having nursed three kids myself, unfortunately I agree that it may just be the bottle itself that's the problem. Not the type of bottle rather, but just the baby being upset it's not Mom. When we did have better luck with bottles, we used Avent or the Playtex with the drop in liners. GOod luck to your friend, she deserves 20 minutes a day to herself (at least!)