Cancel Disney/Child Support

[WebmasterAlex]

You could try these folks
http://www.supportkids.com

 

[Dislifer]

Thanks all!

supportkids.com sounds VERY INTERESTING!!!

 

[Luv'sTink]

You could try these folks
http://www.supportkids.com

They are spendy though..........

Fees:
Case Development Fee: $475
Service Fee: 34% of all money collected for you, after the first $475

I swear it all sucks!

 

[camreesmom]

Most states do have some sort of abandonment clause. Here in IN it is if there has been no support/contact for 1 yr. We were able to use that to our advantage when DH filed for the step parent adoption.

We are planning on doing a stepparent adoption also and the OAG here in Texas told me that 6 months of no contact counts as abandonment here in Texas. DD10's bio dad hasn't seen or spoken to her in 4.5 years. And that's even with him living in the same small town as we do. Sad, huh?? He hasn't paid child support since July. I'm really hoping that he files income tax this year so I can get his return. I feel for you because we had to cancel our Spring Break trip for this year also because of this. Good luck!

 

[Dislifer]

We are planning on doing a stepparent adoption also and the OAG here in Texas told me that 6 months of no contact counts as abandonment here in Texas. DD10's bio dad hasn't seen or spoken to her in 4.5 years. And that's even with him living in the same small town as we do. Sad, huh?? He hasn't paid child support since July. I'm really hoping that he files income tax this year so I can get his return. I feel for you because we had to cancel our Spring Break trip for this year also because of this. Good luck!

I've got to check out that abandonment clause in CT. You see, I also am a cancer survivor, but I always worry about a relapse. If anything ever happened to me...God forbid their father got them. My sisters would love to have my children and would bring them up wisely. So, if their father has nothing to do with them, doesn't pay child support...won't have to worry about that...if that happened (God forbid!!!)

 

[Dislifer]

They are spendy though..........

Fees:
Case Development Fee: $475
Service Fee: 34% of all money collected for you, after the first $475

I swear it all sucks!

I know it sucks big time!!! Even though supportkids.com takes a chunk, at least you'll get something, ya know?

 

[ZanneMarie]

Another possible way to find his current address would be to send a letter to his last known address and put in big letters at the bottom **Address Correction Requested**. If a forwarding address has been left then that will be stuck on the letter you sent and sent back to you. then you have his new address. I have done this when trying to locate people who purchased products from my company, did not pay and moved before we could repossess the items. It has worked for us.

 

[DisnyMama]

Dislifer - My heart goes out to you. I'm also a single parent who has dealt with child support issues and turned to the district attorney child support district when I was living in CA. for help and luckily my ex has not dissapeared and hopefully won't. Child support makes all the difference in the world when raising your kids as a single parent. I hope that you are able to locate him and get things staightened out.

 

[SillyMe]

I've got to check out that abandonment clause in CT. You see, I also am a cancer survivor, but I always worry about a relapse. If anything ever happened to me...God forbid their father got them. My sisters would love to have my children and would bring them up wisely. So, if their father has nothing to do with them, doesn't pay child support...won't have to worry about that...if that happened (God forbid!!!)

I went through this with my oldest dd. Regarding the child support, I wish I had an answer. My ex was $8,000 in arrears, knew how to play the game. He's keep moving back and forth across the state, wouldn't work or he'd work getting paid under the table. My local DR wouldn't do a damn thing for me. They only helped those who hired attornies, which I could not afford at the time. Eventually he decided to stay put and they caught up with him. Stupid idiot requested to have it transferred to the area he was living in. Good for me, though, because they nailed him.

As for custody, I had a will drawn when dd15 was a baby. My attorney at the time told me to list 3 people in the will who I wish to gain custody of my daughter. He said the ex would have to fight all three of them for custody. It would make it hard for him, especially considering his history of non-support...plus the fact he didn't see my dd.

 

[pyrxtc]

well, good luck!! I have been fighting this kind of thing for the last 10 years. I haven't been paid since early November and the only thing the state does is report him to the credit bureaus. what help is that to me. I e-mailed thme and they sent a notice they would take his license if he didn't pay cuz he hasn't paid for 8 weeks although he owes way more than that. There is not a lot they'll do for you so good luck!

 

[Dislifer]

Another possible way to find his current address would be to send a letter to his last known address and put in big letters at the bottom **Address Correction Requested**. If a forwarding address has been left then that will be stuck on the letter you sent and sent back to you. then you have his new address. I have done this when trying to locate people who purchased products from my company, did not pay and moved before we could repossess the items. It has worked for us.

Hmmm...I like it! I like it!!!

Thanks all!!!

 

[yeartolate]

I have been reluctant to say this, but I chose to do with less than to fight. I have seen my friends poison their kids with bitterness and anger to fight for the money. Flame me if you will.

I would have bigger decisions to make if a I could not afford health insurance, home, food, etc. But oin this one, I feel comfortable that my son not being exposed to the endless bickering is the right thing to do.

 

[SillyMe]

I have been reluctant to say this, but I chose to do with less than to fight. I have seen my friends poison their kids with bitterness and anger to fight for the money. Flame me if you will.

I would have bigger decisions to make if a I could not afford health insurance, home, food, etc. But oin this one, I feel comfortable that my son not being exposed to the endless bickering is the right thing to do.

I understand what you're saying. I've been receiving a whopping $40/week in support for 15 years (well, many of those years he didn't even pay). I never asked for an increase b/c I didn't want him to harrass us, but her kids don't need to know about it. They don't need to see bitterness and anger. She can fight for her money without exposing them to what's going on.

 

[Dislifer]

I have been reluctant to say this, but I chose to do with less than to fight. I have seen my friends poison their kids with bitterness and anger to fight for the money. Flame me if you will.

I would have bigger decisions to make if a I could not afford health insurance, home, food, etc. But oin this one, I feel comfortable that my son not being exposed to the endless bickering is the right thing to do.

My kids don't see any bickering because their father has nothing to do with them so they never see him or hear from him. I am happy that I have raised my children without his bad influence. It has been hard for me...homework, doctors, working full time, going to school, taking care of them, playing with them, taking them here and there, etc. etc. etc. THE LEAST THAT THEIR FATHER CAN DO IS TO HELP PAY FOR SOME OF THE EXPENSES! He left when I was 3 months pregnant with the 2nd child and can care less about either one of the children! Unbelievable...most animals take better care of their young than he has! No indication of this the first few years of our marriage, in fact when our first child was a baby...he was a fantastic father!!! So, yah...I want some help financially from him!

 

[yeartolate]

I do not believe I said you would expose your child to this. I expressed a desire to make sure I did not expose my child to it.

If you have divorced friends with children, I bet you can point out at least a few that are being less than discreet about finances. I may keep my mouth shut in front of my child, but I am not so sure my ex could.

All this is individual.But I have been slammed more than once by folks who think I should pursue the money. I have been told that if I really care about my son, I would. Just like you, it is a personal decison. I respect your decison, I hope you can respect mine.

 

[Dislifer]

I do not believe I said you would expose your child to this. I expressed a desire to make sure I did not expose my child to it.

If you have divorced friends with children, I bet you can point out at least a few that are being less than discreet about finances. I may keep my mouth shut in front of my child, but I am not so sure my ex could.

All this is individual.But I have been slammed more than once by folks who think I should pursue the money. I have been told that if I really care about my son, I would. Just like you, it is a personal decison. I respect your decison, I hope you can respect mine.

Of course I can! Everyone's situation is different. No flames from me!

 

[Vallie]

i'm very sorry that you had this happen to you. i cant give you any advice on what to do but what i can say is my mom has had the pretty much the exact same thing happen to her with child support for myself and my sister and he he'll usually get under the job tables so he doesnt have to pay child support! hell my dad has nothing to do with me and my sister and hes such a dead beat that hes followed me before just to make sure im actually still in school (cuz if im not in university he doesnt have to pay for me anymore)

having a father like that i can tell u it just makes me sick
good luck with everything and im sorry about your cancelled vacation