Can someone make me feel better....

[ChisJo]

I don't know why I want to tell you all this, but I spend so much time here, I giess that's why I am. Some of you know I was planning on marrying next year and honeymooning in WDW, that is why I'm saving up with the help of these programs. Well, I'm not honeymooning anymore. My ex-fiance is confused and needs some "free time" to himself. He moved out tonight. I am completely devestated. I don't know how to react or anything. I've just been on the phone with my entire family for 2 hours, then 1/2 hour on the phone with his dad. I'm so sad, I'm starting to cry again. 5 years we've been together. Now I can sympathize with people who have gone through this before. He was my best friend, my companion, and I thought my soul mate. Sorry, had to vent. Thanks all of you for your great advice, but I don't know if I'll need to do these programs anymore. I have no one to go with me anymore.

Thanks for listening.

Joline

 

[figment27]

I am sorry to hear you are going through such a difficult time in your life. I will not offer any words of advice because I am sure your family and friendd, who know you best, will be supportive and offering their own interpertations of the situation. Hope your situation improves in the near future.
Figment

 

[Maleficent2]

I am so sorry this has happened to you and very sad for you.Don't stop rewarding you need something now to keep your mind off of this event.Remember tomorrow is another day and things will begin to look up and get better although right now you feel as if your world has come shattering down around you.But I am a true believer that things happen for a reason and that reason will become clear to you soon. Keep your chin up and think of Mickey and the World when you are feeling down.

And Remember that all your DIS friends here on the rewards board care about you ....

Mal

 

[dizneenut]

{{{HUGS}}}

I'm so sorry you are going thru this, Joline. I agree w/ Mal, continue to do your rewarding...it will help keep you busy, and keep your mind off things.
I will keep you in my prayers.
If you ever need to "talk" PM me anytime!!

 

[TinkerPixie]

Oh ChisJo........I know how it feels, I dont have any magic words for you that will make it better now. It hurts so much when someone we love disapoints us. All I can say is it doesn't hurt forever, It does get better. Sending you Big Hugs ! It does help to talk, so if you need to, let us know.

 

[dmslush]

Bless your heart! First off, yes keep doing your rewards. It will help keep your mind busy!

The only advice that I can give is what little I know from my own experience. Marraige is terrifying for some men. That doesn't mean that they love us any less, doesn't mean that they don't want be with us for the rest of their lives, it just means sometimes big men are like little kids! I have been with my sweetie for 6 years, he is the best thing that ever happened to me and my daughter. I call her "our" daughter, but she is mine from a former marraige, but for the last 6 years, he is the only father she has really known. He is one of those that is just terrified by marraige. We were engaged, I noticed that he was sick a lot, his hair was falling out, he just wasn't doing well at all. When it came time for us to order the invitations, I asked the question that I did not want to ask, "You don't want to get married do you?" He never said no, but he said that he thought it would be better for us to think it over for a while longer. Well, we never have gotten married. LOL, I figured if the thought of being married made him so sick that his hair fell out, he would fall over dead during the ceremony!

Do I think we will get married? Yes, one day we will. I really don't care when it is. Lordy, I could be standing there with a walker and it would be okay!! I know he loves me and Shelby, I know he will always be here, and that peice of paper isn't going to make any difference in that love.

Give him the space that he needs, like the old poem says, if it was meant to be he will come back to you! Talk to him, let him know that while you may not understand what he is going through, you do love him and support him.

 

[bashful64]

First of all sending you lots of cyber {{{{HUGS}}}}!

Don't stop doing rewards...you may just need them in the end. A lot of men seem to have a problem with that "final" committment (I know my DH did). Marriage (for some odd reason) scares them to death. Hopefully he really does just need time to realise that life without you just isn't the same. If you ever want to talk I'm always just an email away.

 

[sweetpeasmom]

We had planned the World for our honeymoon, his feet got cold. Since it had always been MY dream, I continued to work and save......and went with my best friend! I have been back 5 times with DH (yes, he came around) and I still say my very best vacation ever was when I went with HER instead of HIM!

Minor words of wisdom........things always do work out for the best. (Isn't that the most annoying thing to hear when life is horrid?) Anyway, I say it is true, it's just that getting from here to there stinks! But somehow, we always manage to get "there".

Life surprises. Keep rewarding, grab a friend and GO!

 

[welovedis]

Sending you lots of BIG HUGS and PD ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*
As far as words of wisdom, the others here have said it better than I can, if it was meant to be, it will be. I hope you know we are all thinking of you, and you will be in my prayers. I wish you the best of luck

 

[LI Debbie]

I wish I could wave a magic wand and make you feel better, Joline. I'm sorry you're going through such a difficult time but I''m glad you came to your friends here at the reward board for support.

I won't offer any advice, you just need to follow your own heart. As Figment said, your family and friends who know you best will see you through this. Just know that we're your friends too and we're here with a shoulder any time you need it.

Keep your chin up, sweetie.
Debbie

 

[CJK]

Joline.......I'm sending you lots of hugs. I was so sorry to read your post. The posts/advice you've gotten so far from people have been wonderful. You've really gotten a special place in our hearts. I know there's not much we can say right now to make you feel better, but I have a little story to tell you.

About 3 years ago, my cousin was getting married. They moved in together, bought a cat and were busily planning the wedding. One week before the wedding, my cousin got home from work and turned on the answering machine. Her fiance left her a message on it saying that it was over and he had moved out that day while she was at work. Needless to say, she was devastated.

Fast forward three years...... She is now married to another man and they just had a baby a couple months ago. She is very, very happy.

Who knows what the future will hold (and who you will share it with), but from the sounds of things, you've got a supportive family and lots of friends here on the DIS. We're all here for you.

 

[Olaf]

We've all been there, at least those of us with a few gray hairs. Nothing any of us say is going to make you feel any better. Just sending tons of hugs and prays.

 

[mom42860]

Have to agree that there isn't much we can say to take the pain away, but it is always a comfort to know others care- so keep coming here to feel our support. I truly believe that the scars we have from sorrow are filled one day with joy. It may be tomorrow, or in a few months, or even a year but it will come.

 

[dmslush]

{{{{{{{Joline}}}}}}}} I hope you're feeling a little better today!

 

[ChisJo]

Your kind words are very needed right now. I just feel so confused, and I need to work on myself right now. Thank you for the prayers and the hugs and the PD. It is much appreciated.

Joline

 

[Baileymouse]

Hey Joline,

Please keep your chin up! Things will work out - they always do. It's better he tells you now then when you're waiting at the aisle. Many men fear commitment, but if he wises up he'll be back. Give him his space and use the time to do positive things for yourself. Treat yourself to a day out - maybe a spa visit if you can swing it! Please relax and keep yourself surrounded by family and friends you can trust. This too, shall pass.

Sending many hugs your way,
Adele

 

[perfectmatch300]

~*~*~*~*~*~*~*pixiedust~*~*~*~*~*~*~*

{{{{{{BIG HUGS}}}}}}


Joline, I'm so sorry to hear you are going through such a difficult time. I know it isn't easy. Stay close to your family and friends, and that does include those of us who are your friends here on the rewards board! In my experience, sharing my troubles always make them easier for me to bear, and often puts them in a new perspective I would never been able to see on my own. Please feel free to PM or email me if you ever need to talk.

 

[Alison Wonderland]

I am thinking about you and wishing you the best. Don't stop rewarding either--you might set a different goal for the rewards, even a different trip!!!

 

[disneyberry]

Joline... {{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}

so sorry to hear this news, i can imagine how difficult this must be.
hang in there... like everyone else has said, things will work out for the best.
spend lots of time with your close friends and family, their company will make you feel better.

i'll also offer you this, PM me if you need to talk, kay? my bf and i have been together over 5 years, we haven't had any serious talks about marriage yet... men really can get freaked out about marriage... some women too

anyway, feel better!

 

[jennymouse]

Hey, I've gone though it too.......it does hurt, but not forever. Keep doing the rewards and take the advise of some on this thread....take a friend instead. If nothing else, to show him you can go on without him.

Hang in there girl, I'd be glad to listen if you want to talk.