Can I vent here please?

[MELSMICE]

From the other thread

I missed that one!

 

[OceanAnnie]

Hi, just wanted to say, that from someone who has just come back from a vacation with family & friends, (and might I add that my friends are no longer talking to me! ) my best advice to you is.....LET IT GO. Let go all of your anger & frustration. Remind yourself that this is YOUR vacation. If people come, they come. If people do what you are doing, they do it. But if they don't....why sweat it??? You go, you enjoy.....and the people that happen to be with you at the time....well enjoy them too then. I really think if you put the focus BACK on yourself & your family (immediate) then all of this will not matter so much!!! Try & let stuff roll off your back. HAVE A BLAST PLANNING!!!!

That's really good advice. Hope you have the best vacation ever!

 

[momof2inPA]

Did you tell her she can rent points from a Disser and book another studio?

 

[Cool-Beans]

My entire family is planning a WDW trip. They're all excited and, for the first time ever, I'm not. It's already ticking me off.

This thread is making me think even more that this is a bad, bad idea.

I just hope that I still love WDW when it is over.

 

[Chicago526]

This is sooooo why I hate booking for family.

I went through this in 2003 when we took an extended family trip to WDW (although points weren't involved since no one in my family are DVC members). We had a great time and at the end of the day I don't regret it, but trying to get 6 adults all on the same page was a pain in the butt! Thank goodness, everyone in my family is good with money so the deposits/payments weren't an issue, but just about every other aspect was a series of round-robin calls and e-mails. The main sticking point was my DB wanted to only spend 5 nights to keeps costs down, and since we'd lose 2 days traveling I was insisting on 7 nights. We compromised at 6 nights. Fine, right?

When we got there, DB asked "Why are we only spending 6 nights? 7 would have been better since we lost Saturday traveling all day". I could have killed him!

Anyway, I'm on your side, OP. She should either accept the offer as is, or if -for whatever reason- she feels it just won't work for them, she should just decline and make her own plans!

Whatever happens, good luck!

 

[Disney1fan2002]

From the other thread, I thought DSis's original plan was to turn down the free room because she wasn't interested in going to Disney. The OP talked her into going.

No that is wrong. I don't know where you got that from. When I first announced to my family this trip, she was going to think about it. She thought about it, and decided they were in. I never in anyway talked her into going. Form the other thread, she asked me if we had to be together all day everyday, and it was a resounding NO. But that was a miscommunication. I thought she was asking about being together all day in the Disney parks. By saying no, I gave her the go ahead to plan things outside of WDW, like 90% more. She was only planning on using her 1 day she had left over on her passes from her previous WDW visit. The rest of the 6 days would be spent off WDW property. I was wrong to vent about that, she should be free to spend her vacation anyway she likes, even though she knew I was planning a DISNEY vacation. I am over that now.

I understand the need to vent, but can't help but offer my opinion that the sister really doesn't want to go and feels like she's being sort of coerced into spending her vacation doing something she doesn't want to do. She's probably on some other board venting "I love my sister and know she's trying to be nice, but we really don't want to spend our vacation at WDW, especially with all of us in one room. She's got some timeshare thing that works on points so we can't even get an extra room. My sister really wants me to go, but I'm sorry I ever agreed to this, I should have stuck with my first instinct and just said no."

Again, wrong. I have not forced her into it, or even strongly suggested she say yes. She said yes all on her own. Then started telling me she does not plan on spending ehr entire time at WDW. I get over that, and now it is the room, and I how just does not think her family of 5 will be comfortable in a studio, even though she has never seen an OKW studio to know that for a fact.

People are seeing me as this big witch, when I am only venting here. We are going to go, my sister is going to go, we will all have a good time, once this planning stage is smoothed out. If she really wants to spend all that money to upgrade, she will. I won't have a problem with it. My problem was her thinking I would do the upgrading for her, then brother wants an upgrade, and then sister2 wants an upgrade, ect. When my whole point of using DVC is to allow my family to stay in WDW for a considerable savings. If everyone is going to start paying for upgrades at $850-$1000 then why I am using my points on them if they can clearly afford their own accomations? That is my frustration. I am getting the sense from HER that she is too good for a studio. My feelings were hurt, because I thought I was being generous.

I never said she could not upgrade. I told her I could not upgrade her through member services. I was not getting involved. After being made to feel like a heal here, I have decided if she really WANTS me to, I will call MS and see if I can get her the member discount.

I will also send her a link to the rent/trade board here on the DIS. But after all that, I know she will look at the price and decide that 1 free studio is not that bad after all.

 

[Disney1fan2002]

Did you tell her she can rent points from a Disser and book another studio?

Thanks, I hadn't thought of that, it may save her a bundle.

 

[disykat]

I really don't think people think you are a witch, we are just seeing this from a different viewpoint than you do. I think it's fine to let your sister do her own legwork at an upgrade (I didn't read where she said she expected you to do it, only that she had asked about it). However, you may need to explain to her how to do that. I have NO IDEA how DVC works and I've been on this board for years. I hear the words "points" and I have no idea what anyone is talking about.

I still think the whole thing is communication. You are generously giving your "points". Your family probably has no idea what this means are probably doesn't care. It is valuable to you because you understand what it's worth. To your family it's probably just another hotel room that they think you are getting some sort of screaming deal on. Points really don't equate to dollars to those of us that are clueless. Also, when you say your points will go to waste, she probably is assuming they will really do so and is actually thinking she is doing you some kind of favor.

I'm sorry if I misunderstood your other thread. I thought she was apprehensive about going in the first place because she wanted to have her own family vacation on her own terms.