Can I vent about family?

[sbell111]

People are funny about their woods floors. Heck, I'm funny about my wood floors.

 

[minkydog]

Your BIL is a trifling fool! There is no way her wheelchair made scratches on their floor unless she's got a nail in her tire.

I really sympathize with you. We have a very mentally disabled son, Christian, who is on the level of a 1yo. He walks, but doesn't feed himself or dress himself or go potty by himself. I have fed him on the sofa many times with my plate on my lap--you're right, just about impossible! My SIL will hug him and make over him, but her husband is very OCD. He tolerates Christian, but he follows him around wiping up his footprints from the carpet(no muddy, just where the carpet has been mashed down) BIL is on edge the entire time Christian is in their house. Which is why we very seldom go to their house.

It's hard enough being the mother of a disabled child without morons pulling stuff like that. I believe I'd have to decline Christmas. It doesn't sound like you'll be missing much.

 

[Ilivetogo]

i would not go back.

Ditto!!

 

[moon]

People are funny about their woods floors. Heck, I'm funny about my wood floors.

Funny? these people are stupid, mean-spirited and cruel. Do they also ignore the little girl because of their wood floors?

 

[KirstenB]

Funny? these people are stupid, mean-spirited and cruel. Do they also ignore the little girl because of their wood floors?

Gosh, I don't know why you'd say that. I know wood floors are SO much more important than people!!!

 

[anniemae]

would probably not go back for Christmas. I would not subject my dd to people who treated her like that.

 

[java]

This breaks my heart reading this.
We have good friend's with a daughter in a wheelchair. She comes to our home often. We don't have a ramp- so we help carry her chair up the 2 stairs- Then I make sure we have nothing blocking her access around the house. I set up the folding table- it's higher than my regular table and she can scoot right under there and be sitting eye to eye with all the kids! I never ever ever thought about my floors with her wheelchair. How can wheels scratch a floor? I want to make her feel as comfortable as any other guest in my home and I do my best to make sure she does.

I am really so sorry that you had to deal with such treatment on a holiday. I hope your dh puts his brother in his place.

 

[Handbag Lady]

i would not go back.

This is exactly my idea, too.

 

[bballmom56]

I'm mad reading this! What a crummy thing to do! I doubt I'd want to spend my holidays with people who didn't acknowledge my child, let alone blamed her for any kind of damage to their home.

I definitely agree. And no, you are not over-reacting.

 

[sdemore]

People are funny about their woods floors. Heck, I'm funny about my wood floors.

I don't get this I have wood floors and would never think twice when I have guests over what might happen to them. If you do then you shouldn't have them. That is as bad as when my dear old granny put plastic slip covers on her furniture The real issue is their reaction to your daughter. I don't know who's side the BIL and SIL are on but whoever is the sibling needs to have a heart to heart talk with them and find out what the problem is before I would subject my child to anymore hurtful ignorance

 

[Wishes2you]

I am so sorry to hear you were treated like that. What
upsets me most is them not acknowledging your DD when she is there.
Unfortunately we can't pick our relatives (My In-laws)but......There is a saying I love and is part of my life.

"Friends are the Family we choose for ourselves."

Thank god for my friends/family. Thankfully my DD has a
wonderful extended family she knows are there for her as
we are for them.

Please give your DD a hug from Me.

 

[Mskanga]

I would not be going back there , as plain as that.
Stay home next time nice and relaxed and enjoy your family time and the holidays !!

 

[chloelovesdisney]

If he really thinks the wheels scratch the floor and asked nicely, I would put the wheelchair over the rug. It won't hurt anything to have a rug underneath the wheels. I have several friends that insist I take my shoes off in their homes which I don't like to do, but they are obsessed with their carpets and floors so I comply.

 

[Disneyland1084]

DON'T go there for Christmas. DON'T ever go there again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[hillview]

It is pretty odd and very unkind. Before I write them off I might DH (or you ut maybe DH -- sounds like his brother?) have a chat with BIL and see if you can straighten it out. You might mention that you noticed that he does not greet DD and suggest ways he could do this and see what he says. It does open you to some more hurt OTOH it might open the door somewhat. WRT the chair scratching, I'd get that out there too and discuss.

If that doesn't work out well, I would stay home

/hillary

 

[Pumbaa_]

It would have been nice for the host to be a good host and make sure you and your DD had a place to eat.

How on earth did the chair get wheeled from place to place but while stationary had to have a rug under it

What a jerk

 

[MELSMICE]

I'd enjoy my own Christmas at home with my immediate family. I would not be going back there.

 

[Bunchkin]

Hugs for you!

If it was me and my family, we wouldn't be going there for Christmas.

 

[JR6ooo4]

did you wipe the wheels? THey are usually a semi soft rubber and can grab little specs of stone etc... Rolling and turning could easily scratch the floor.

on the other hand... was everyone else required to remove their shoes. They could have scratched the floor as well.

It was a situation not handled well, at all, by the host.

Mikeeee

 

[Amy&Dan]

I agree with everyone else, don't go back and no you are not overreacting.

Some people simply don't know how to behave. You shouldn't have to put up with. If they ask why, tell them dd's wheelchair didn't like their stinkin floors!

Shame on them!